So here's my issue, its not much different than any of the other posts here, but here it is anyway. To start i must say I'm an introverted 17 year old with asperger's syndrome. Im in high school and i hate every second of it, I feel trapped and lonely. I think this is mainly due to me not having my drivers license or a car yet. As for relationships well im that one geeky kid who always finds himself in that accursed hell "the friendzone". so I've given up on love (or at least love at high school)
I think you need to build up your social skills even more badly than you need a gf/bf. What's the point of buying a book, if you don't know how to read? Start with the basics first.
What are your interests? Can you turn them into group activities? Have you considered joining clubs, sport activities, etc?
Don't settle for a GED. I thought about going that route, but most college's don't value it was much as they do a proper diploma.
High school really is hell on earth; I wish I could say otherwise, but it would be a lie. But despite that, you've got to tough it out and finish. It'll be better for you, in the long run.
I don't think there's anything wrong with a GED if you plan on going to a community college before you go to a university.
high school sucks and is a huge waste of time.
take your GED, go to community college and then transfer to a university.
Just try to work through it. You can either wallow in your own self defeat or step-up and try make things better. Minute progress eventually equals absolute progress. It's merely a different way of going about it.
You never really explained why you think it's hell on earth. Would having a car and driver's license really make things that much better? If you've been friendzoned so much that would at least imply that you have friends or have somehow made some sembalnce of progress in those regards.
Well i guess when it comes down too it that's what it is, but you but it in such vulgar terms, i guess i just want a relationship. Not that i wouldn't mind getting laid. but that's not what want. I just want to out of this place. I don't seem to fit in with any of the in crowd (of course i don't really want too) And i only have a few friends, though most of them left me and wont even so much breath the same air as me when i told them i was gay. And yor right i do have a "poor me, feel sorry for me" mentality to me but i guess when you're like me ,being the weird shunned kid since 1st grade, it comes kinda natural.
First of all, please don't use Asperger's as a crutch. I'm even going to give you the benefit of the doubt that you were diagnosed by a professional instead of learning about it on the internet.
I don't think a community college is ideal. There's nothing quite like the Freshman dorm experience for making friends and starting over(still hang out with some people I met my first year, at age 25). At a community college, you'd just be driving to and from school.
>>First of all, please don't use Asperger's as a crutch.
Indeed, I have a (diagnosed) aspie friend and he himself has had a girlfriend and 1-2 one-night stands. Being Aspergers doesn't necessarily preclude you from gettin' the ladies.
yes i actually am diagnosed by both a General practitioner and my psychiatrist (haven't met with him in a year or so due to funds) and no i wasn't trying to use it as a crutch, just giving you all a basic understanding of my social ability. Its funny im slowly getting more and more social every day and im starting to realize not everybody likes me, hell for the first time ever i have about five people who absolutely hate me. I guess that's the price you pay for being almost normal eh? but i digress, the thing i wanted to say was im going to ask this girl i really like out. so wish me luck.
>>1 High School was also for me a prison. None the less, don't give up because you will see that further ahead (college, university, etc) it's way better out there cause most often, the teacher are fairly yound like in their 30s and also very motivated with the class they teach. And also, like you, I am an hardcore introverted guy myself but still I enjoy my experience even though I am a loner.
Pathetic well were at the last week of school and i can't help but feel a little pathetic, after reading all of your awesome suggestions, advice and criticism, I finally decide to stop being that kid in the corner and open up a bit more. And well the results very depending on your outlook, as I opened up and stopped thinking everybody is stupid and was actually able to make some new friends, I even built up the courage to ask out several girls out. Alas that’s when the good news. All the girls who I ask turned me down as expected , and also expected not everybody I opened up to turned out to be complete jerks , and now I have more enemies then ever before. But I guess that’s how life is eh?
>But I guess that’s how life is eh?
You got it. Keep the good, discard the bad. And girls will come as you increase your friends. Don't fret over it, and just keep trying.
hey, you've got more guts than me. i give you kudos to that. unlike you, i fear rejection from asking out a girl.
keep up with the struggle my friend, there's beauty in it.
>hey, you've got more guts than me
Hey i wouldn't say i have "guts" man!I'm probably as scared of rejection as you, it took me a few weeks to build up the courage to ask them out; and hey ill say it REJECTION hurts and in one case it seems like were not as close after asking, but as time goes you realize, what have you lost ? , nothing really! life goes on.
I think you need to grow up OP.