(note, another situation i have been in with this boy is very close to identical of the girl with a thread titled "boyfriend isses [advise me]" me and this boy have had the exact same argument dump situation over weed before, except we took only one day to get back together)
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this is a repost from the sexuality board because i posted it in the wrong place while i was reading other threads.
and here is the update i posted Saturday (today) when the original (above) was posted Friday night. thanks.
guys and girls who smoke weed are bad news. Avoid them at all cost. They'll breed problem in future.
Weed is not the problem. What sort of a person is HE?
Weed does not control his behaviour... he acts wilfully, either well or badly towards you.
Don't put up with idiocy and negligence, abuse.
He is not caring towards you, neglects you, etc.
weed is bad. u smoke weed u become bad. nuff said.
>>2 Acutally, I think you are being quite pushy. He does not seem to like having you calling him when he's with friends, and I think you should respect that. Like I mentioned in /sex/, I think you should find ways of communicating with him which respect both of your preferences.
The more you try to leash a man, the more of an animal he will become.
How much breathing room do you give each other?
Okay so i finally got through to him at about 1 on the Saturday; after i rang his home phone and forced his dad to make him talk to me.
basically he claimed that he was busy with his friend and didn't want to talk, so i told him he was being an arse and went to his house to discuss things properly.
>>10 Girl, you really are a pushy one. ^_^ I'm not sure what will you be able to conclude by watching him interact with your friends. If he's kind of shy, will you dump him? And if he's very sociable, does that mean that he's not exploiting you? Also, many people behave differently when they are alone with their girlfriend, and when they are among their friends. This can or cannot be a problem. But if he's despicable to you in society, that's not good.
Not everyone likes talking on the phone.
And you need to learn how to play hard to get. If he doesn't answer his phone, try not answering yours next time he calls. Take it easy, being clingy will scare him away.
>>using me for sex perhaps? how could i tell if he was?
okay so I've taken in all of what every one has to say and basically it is my birthday thing this weekend and he hasn't met any of my friends who are mostly excelling in their educations and most of them are at university; this night will be the big test.
i spoke to my mom about all these things and she agrees that this night should be the big tester on him.
>>14 I'm curious to hear your post-birthday report ^_^
i dumped him. he didnt show at my birthday and ignored his phone the entire day. i only got a hold of him sunday night.
yeah, I'm just surprised you persevered this far with a lost cause like that.