Hiya romance, another anon with a problem. There's been this girl that I have been hanging out with for the past 6 months or so, and during that time I started to like her more and more. It became almost a compulsive obsession to see her, a need not unlike breathing or drinking water. I of course told her I liked her, and she shot me down, which I kind of expected. She's picky I guess. No biggie, have had my share of rejections, so it didn't affect me much. I started to avoid her subconsciously, and she even called me wanting to hang out; I was with friends. From then on, she kinda felt cold towards me, which I didn't really care about. Then I found out she goes on a date with some dude and her friends. It hurt, bad. Worse than what I thought it would feel. I'm just confused about my feelings and hers. I know that I should stop obsessing and leave it alone, but my feelings for her won't stop. And though she rejected me, I don't understand why she's not friendly. It seemed like everything was fine. Maybe im not picking up on something, what do you guys think?
By the way I look at it looks like even though she rejected you, she still wants to be friends. The feeling you have to her is to be expected. I mean, you still like her and she went out with some guy, so of course you'll be hurt. As for her feelings, it could be because she actually like that guy, or she want to get your attention.
The question I'm asking is :
yeah, because shes a great friend. I really don't care about love, just as long as I can see her its cool. I guess she reminds me of my sisters, somewhat. Maybe not romance, but something...definite. I want to stay friends.
Look if you want to be friends and she's still cold to you then you have to take the first step. You could just start by sending her a "Hello, how are you?" message kind of thing. Or you can say hi to her when you see her. If she doesn't reply, just keep trying. Hope her heart will melt when she see how determine you are. From there, if she reply, you can start to talk a bit more, but just take it easy. Don't rush thing. Play it safe and dumb.