I met a girl one day. It was my best friend's 18th birthday party, and I was invited to come. I didn't really know anyone at this party, but they were kind and end-result, I enjoyed the party.
But I met a girl.
Damn. Good luck with that.
Looks like you fell for a shy girl.
Just continue to do what you do: force destiny.
If my reckoning is right, she isn't actually shy, well maybe, but more importantly she has a really loose attachment style, and has less need for social contact than those around her. I'm like this and really, its not that I don't like spending time with people, I really do, but sometimes I need solitude and my interest with people comes and goes. I know that I'm not a good friend at times, and I know that this aspect of my personality sucks but I can't force myself to do something like socialize when I'm not interested in it, since it would be dishonest and isn't genuine. On the other hand I can be really interested in certain people and I'm really driven to get to know and spend time with them, but this is quite rare.
>>4 whatever the reasons, it boils down to the samething. You must engage her, and really get to establish a communication channel with her. Considering what you said so far, I think there's reason for guarded optimism, as long as you keep going for it, and not waiting "destiny". It's your job to be destiny, in this case.
Big update: She contacted me late Sunday, (after a hiatus of 1 1/2 months), and immediately apologized for reasons "I probably already know". And the good news is, I feel she is really trying.
I think you're fully right about her personality; she's not shy, but rather socially unattached. But you know what? I think I can accept that.
Ah that's good. Well if it means anything, I think her contacting you of her own volition is a really good sign. Just to add, you sound like a good person, I'm sure whoever this girl is would be really lucky to have someone even half as patient and tolerant as you seem to be. I'm sure it will work out for you both. Eventually heh.
>I shall update you all on my progress.
Do that, so we can keep cheering or supporting you ^_^
Her birthday is coming up. I've called her once, and left her a voice message. I asked if she would be free from now up until her birthday, and to let me know so I could do something nice for her. Unfortunately, it's already been two weeks, and she hasn't contacted me back.
You could possibly try the flower technique and drop a few off at her house with a note inside.
so how the fuck did she get to live up in the sky?? or was it figuratively, like smoking some pot? boy you got one pretty banged up babe there.
Just send her a nice card, don't say anything sappy or over the top just "best wishes" or something similar. If you want get a gift voucher for something she likes and slip it inside. This is not too big so it won't come off as creepy and doesn't seem unthoughtful either.
maybe you can find her cellphone and text her
What I've read so far, you seem to be a nice person. I envy what you are doing as I can't do that kind of thing for myself. If you like to pursue this girl, then go for it. Like I said, don't expect anything in love.
That's a rather beautiful wish of yours, OP.
However, what was the nature of your long conversations? You need to be realistic and ask yourself whether or not she really has an interest with you, and if you're not just using her aloofness to overjustify the situation.
^ lol, late post is late. I typed this up a long time ago and forgot to hit send until just now. Apologies, OP.
I appreciate everything said, and the support you guys have has helped a lot... However, I also can't sugarcoat anything; this girl has not said a word to me ever since.
Before her birthday approached, I decided I would find the time to take her to the zoo. Going to the zoo is an inside "novelty" we have between each other, but we never got around to go.
I think she maybe avoiding you but if that's the reason, I do not know THE reason why. I think you should visit her or call her to have a chat to see what's up.
Sound like its time for some covert ops.
sounds like the rapeman needs to teach her a lesson.
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