I might be presented to two delightful new girls this weekend, which is something I kinda badly need these times after my previous critical failure.
Sadly, they're both exes of friends of mine, so... you all know what that means. Off-limits. Meh.
in about 15 minutes I'm going on third date with one great girl... wish me luck, I hope it'll work out
the guy ive tried to hook myself up with has been very rejective lately..................
Is this really the 3rd edition?
I need to get out more...
Yeah, I know, but from neutral third-party experience, ex-dating doesn't mix well with staying good friends. Thing is, I dunno how serious they were, guess I'll have to find out. Well, nothing's done for now anyway.
details? well... I managed to get my arm around her for a while, that's as far as I could get lol...
hell, what's the worst thing about never having a girlfriend? whatever I do, I'm doing it just blindly, not knowing if it's right or wrong... am I too fast? am I too slow? do I have a chance? I can't see any of those things, it's like trying to infiltrate an enemy base with your eyes closed
lmao.. well well .. i cba trying this month, i'll try again next month!;)
>it's like trying to infiltrate an enemy base with your eyes closed
And in this case the enemy base is filled with maniacs armed with hatchets and sentry guns firing at random directions.
As long as your spirit is indestructable as wolverine you'll be fine. Get yourself some experience points!
Some people think they're funny doing it wrong, so I'll bump the current thread.
Dammit, people. You're messing with the statistics.
im moving in less than a month, and NOW 3 girls want a relationship, but arnt intrested in sexual stuff.
The world has a funny way of working like that. Hopefully I get a relationship sooner or later, or improve one of mine. Thing have been keeping me too busy to even think about one. All I can really do is improve myself until the day that it does happen
damn it! i missed the 1000th yet again! argghh! i'll die a single loser!
all chicks that dig me are damn too ugly, why can't i have those fine, luscious ones? maybe i have to move out of town and find another?
all right, I decided... the next time I'll go out with that girl, I'm going to grab her and kiss her out of blank and I don't care that we'll be far from each other for 2 months, I know that I have feelings for her and it's time to change being single
Maybe you are damn too ugly for any of those fine, luscious chick?
I met this one girl while we were both volunteering for...something or other at our school. We were talking and we we hit it off, afterwards spending an hour or two at a nearby coffee shop conversing and generally becoming acquainted with each other. I had gotten her phone number, but I hadn't seen her around school. That is, until the next week, when I saw her hand-in-hand with someone I had never met.
that is a point to consider hahaha
shit happens, besides you don't own her. she has a life before she even met you so nothing we could do about that.. move on. bitter reality indeed.
I have just noticed that I am literally the same spot I was in a year go. Same, physical spot. It is a funny feeling to look to where I was then and where I am now. One year ago, I just broken up with my girlfriend and I miserable. I felt cheated because I have given my heart and soul to this girl to only have her toss it away as it was nothing. I felt alone because I had no one to talk to. Work and summer classes left my days booked and my nights were short so I could get sleep. My thoughts and feelings were the only things that kept me company. I was angry because friends who should have sided with me sided with her because she was “victim,” though she was the one who stabbed me. I felt sadness because a person I cared for is now out of my life and I will never have her again. I felt hopeless because I could not imagine a better life without her. And I was impatient because I knew time would heal my wounds, but I wanted them healed then and there. I remember clearly, I was cursing fate.
>>23 Good for you,hopefully the rest of us single people get blessed with luck as well! =P
ALRIGHT PEOPLE! With that being said, its that special time of the year again! Its summer! Get off your butts, do something for yourself and meet new people! Say "yes!" to life!
Hahaha, I've been so busy with things girls has been the last thing on my mind. I just don't have the time for relationships or flirting no less =P
all the girls I am attracted to turn out to already be taken :(
>>28 Yeah that could be a problem lol. Are you sure you're not just a coveter? You covet things people already have? Like pizza at an anime convention? Still whatever we want the most we can't have unfortunately
well, I have the same problem as 28 and I found the fact that girl I want is already taken after starting to like her... and not only once so I wouldn't say that this is the problem
hehe nah I didn't know she was taken until afterwards so it's not a wanting what other people have thing.
Me too, there's someone who say U don't know how precious
something / someone until u lose it
but that's too late T_T
Only goes to show that we must not hesitate when a chance or opportunity arises. Might as well shoot for something even if theres a chance to miss, hey you might even get a hit.
The next time i get the chance, and my heart say ok,
i just hope i have courage to take the opportunity ..
afterall, no pain no gain ...
Oh you don't need courage lol, you just need to lose a bit of your sanity is all. Just say in your mind... screw it all its not like the worlds going to end if I screw up here right? Jump into the pool of romance without a thought of it being warm or freezing!
I'm in a classic dilemma--I am close friends with a girl, and I want to make her happy. Unfortunately, there's another guy who makes her happy, and he might have better chances of being with the girl than I. Therefore, I'm in a love triangle. Me and the girl have gotten close within 2 years, but only as friends... I wish I could push our friendship to the next level as intimates, by becoming the one guy that makes her happiest.
Ugh. Got friend zoned HARD tonight at work, in front of just about everyone in the break room. To make matters worse, this one girl is trying to hook me up with someone else, and the girl I like is helping! This girl they're trying to hook me up with... she's a nice girl and all, but her sideburns are more impressive than MINE. x_x
>>37 lmao poor u! just start molesting or hitting on the girl you like.. :3
lmao; third time that i hooked up one of my friends with a girl i liked. Worst part she knew that i liked her and asked me to ask if my friend(the guy she liked, liked her back) quote; i know that u like me and all, but can u ask if ,friend's name here, likes me? lol imma go hang myself now (partly jking)
Once I got to the point of listening to melancholy chiptunes alone in my room I think there's no going back.
So I meet the first girl in a year that I can see a relationship possibility with. (Most important part is that she isn't taken, which every other interesting girl I meet seems to be.)
I'm aware that my friend also has his eyes on her, and I can't help but think that he's got a better chance than me.
all right... what the fuck is happening? my friend ended a long relationship like few days ago, I introduce her to my other friend and they have sympathies for each other and will probably end up dating... I am happy for them, they both deserve it but how the fuck did it happen? how is it possible that I'm trying pretty hard to find someone for myself, I went through a lot of hard stuff to only have a possibility of having a girlfriend but I never had one and they are just being introduced to each other, have some talk and they like each other?
stop being so insecure and just go for it! >:D
If the girl shows CLEAR signs of liking him as a guy rather than just a friend, it might be best to stay as friends, for the sake of your friendship.
You've got to find the middle ground in the pursuit and the idleness of relationships. Put yourself out there with some intent, but at the same time not. Increase your confidence, but don't be arrogant. Everything in life is about balance and you've got to find your own!
so ronery.. :(
The sad or hilarious (depending on your viewpoint) thing is that this place is a singles' lounge full of ahem.. singles giving love/romance/relationship tips to other singles... I am really not being an @$$ as I am single myself, but that is the reality... I have come to an understanding that tricks don't really work when it comes to meeting that special someone. Maybe there are no tricks in the first place. Liking is but a sum of complex factors (appearance, personality, popularity, etc.) For whatever reason, people do like to see changes on you. New hairstyle, new clothes, whatever.. one just needs to change something (not too drastic though, no plastic surgery :)) and you will be noticed. I guess a change sends a subliminal message to one's possible counterparts that one is in for a mating season (in a romantic kinda way -- really). So, if one is a guy (like me), he needs to have some money (for clothes, a hairstylist/not barberer, etc.), decent car (girls love it -- end of story), moderate confidence and no extra weight. Again I am not trying to be mean here, I myself am overweight (or fat, whatever). That is if you want a decent looking girl.
Look at it this way:
Losing weight = health + self esteem [win already] = girls [bonus]
I got rejected by the same girl for the 3rd time.
Why the 3rd time? It can't be helped. The feeling just goes back again and again
that is a bullshit... or maybe not but just in case, don't believe her... because she can eventually find someone and it will hurt you... also, I would recommend moving on... being rejected one time is enough, three times is better than enough... from my point of view, any romantic feelings for her will lead only to pain on your or both sides...
Plastic surgery isn't always a fantastic way to go.
>>46 To undergo plastic surgery to please others is stupid. The only valid reasons to undergo plastic surgery is to address some disfigurement condition, or to please yourself.
As for others, it's much easier to find someone who likes you the way you are, than to knife yourself into an abstract ideal which won't be perfect to no one. There are plenty of people on this world, with all kinds of tastes, don't lose your sweat trying to please everyone, find people who like you as you are.
You know those people that you always run into, and yet you have never met them before? There's this guy that I keep bumping into at uni. He does a different course to me, but we keep crossing paths, to the point where it's become almost ridiculous. When I see him, we exchange the quickest of glances, and I know that he's thinking "What the heck, there's that girl again". I've ran into him every day of this week, except for today. I'm posting mainly because of withdrawal symptoms perhaps.
Or try asking: ,,Didn't we see each other somewhere?"
It would be really cute and playful if you touched him lightly on the elbow and said "Tag, you're it".
k so 21 year old female is me.. i have been basically in love with the same guy off and on for the last five years.... thus far it has been friends zone to the millionth degree. Neither of us has ever dated anyone. within the last year and a bit there has been a minor shift in his actions. When he is around i catch him staring and we have awesome back and forth talking. problem is he lives 4 hours away and i dont have reliable internet to keep in touch. some texting but thats not what i would call an amazing way to start anything.
This can go on and on forever. Just make a move. You probably won't hate yourself forever if it does not happen, and I doubt it could be any "worse". If you don't act, though, not only are you going to have regrets for the rest of your life, but it will probably fuck your chances up with other guys and will take you ages to get over him because of the lack of closure.
i have always been told that guys perfer when they get to make the first move!?!
have i been lied to? it always seemed to be the way it was...
Hey poster 53, ermm... I've also bumped into the same girl who was in one of my classes before summer break at university. I kept seeing her on the streets whenever I walk around campus. Erm, its probably a crazy coincidence though.
No, they don't. And even though it's true that they like to be the ones "in control" in some situations, it's definitely not an absolute.
Haha nah, but I wish I did. I'm glad we can relate tho :)
Haven't seen him since before my first post :(
Why is it the more you want to bump into them, it doesn't happen?
You've been lied to.
He's probably as afraid of rejection as you are.
Erm poster 63,
So the last time you met him was during the normal school year? Since we're all anon here, can I ask what university you're attending?
now i am scared.....
k so any advice on how do i ask him?
i mean with him living so far away and all??
Oh nono, I think you misunderstand me, I'm probably on the other side of the world from you. The last encounter I had with him was last week..we don't have break now, and it's the middle of winter here :P I go to UWA, in Australia. It would be too insane for me to comprehend, if you were the guy I was bumping in to. So much so I'd probably marry you.
Well poster 66 my advice to you is that ask him what he thinks about long distance relationship,,since if you know that he is fine with long distance relationship,,your next moved would be confess to him,about how you feel just probably say what you really think about him,,you don't need anything fancy to say to him because if you don't you'll probably regret it later on..
it sucks being single.
This isn't really a single's rant but it may as well put me back here.
My gf's bday is coming up and me and her best friend are planning a party. So while discussing the plans over coffee, what first was friendly banter now turned into intense flirting.
now this is one of those problems I would like to have
>>71 fucking asshole,this is SINGLE RANT THREAD. SINGLE. GTFO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
any single girls here wanting to meet single guy? :P
leave ur contact details belo... uhm wait. that doesn;t make sense at all.
Just went on a maybe-date, but I think it wasn't. :(
I just broke up with my boyfriend :P
Being single is good sometimes.
You don't feel guilty about being attracted to attractive people :) Less drama too
This is the general board for /love. It is the fml of romance in 4ch. It doesn't not have to be exactly about SINGLE rants. If you want to get something off your chest this is where you go and confess.
My point was that it was a rant thread, not a feel good thread.
I'm feeling just awful. I beg for your pardon, but English is not my native language, so, if I don't get myself clear, I'm really sorry.
My name is not important, nor where I'm from. I have a story to tell and I'm not proud of it.
I felt in love with a girl. A pretty little flower in the right time of my life. I have been always a lonely boy, or man now, I'm 21. This girl, which I love for everything she gave me, was the light of my world, so warm, so kind.
If she can't understand that you have other commitments as well, then she's also being selfish.
count yourself lucky that you even had a girlfriend. I wouldn't believe it if someone told me a girl had even the slightest interest in me. it's just not possible.
I've never fallen in love with anyone, nor do I think I ever will.
When I look into someone's eyes I see a tangled web of desire and worry; this is the way I feel about love, and I'm pretty sure everyone else feels the same way. When I see that, though, how can I act on my own desire? Men usually talk with their dicks, but my libido just drains out of me. Whenever I try to flirt with someone, I just get plain old scared. But flirting is never instinctual, it's always based on me remembering my emotional needs and desire for a serious relationship with someone who I can help in their times of stress, and who will help me likewise. What a stupid desire--you have to have a relationship before it gets serious. So I've cut it out entirely.
I can "work on" guys that I don't have feelings for. In that instance, the flirting just comes naturally to me. In fact, most of the times I'm not aware that I'm doing it. But sit me beside the guy that I like, and my words fail me. I somehow always manage to make the most normal situations awkward between us, leaving him to salvage the conversation. I know this isn't an uncommon problem, but I'm just tired of the fact that the more you want things to work out, the more you stuff it up.
I feel you. I don't know if you're guy or girl, but I'm the same. I can be a total player to people I'm not interested in (tried it, isn't really fun, I don't like being a manipulative bitch).
25, male, never dated or had any sort of girlfriend.
Somehow, I thought that maybe in grad school, I'd find more opportunities for dating -- my undergraduate faculty advisor met his wife when they were in grad school, so it must be possible, right?
If it's any consolation, at 22 years of age, I'm heading down that road myself. It's probably my fault that I've never been kissed, or experienced young love, I've always put other things at a higher priority than love. That's how I've been raised. But I'm not lamenting about the past at the moment.
there was this girl whose personality was just like mine... she was like me in woman version... but she had a boyfriend and needed to choose... she chose him... and now she is writting to me that it was probably a bad choice, I should be angry right? or at least feel something... but I don't... this is so typical I think I'm practicaly used to it... frak her, I'm going for someone else now
>>88 Good luck, really! My sister has had the same problem, never dated, and just graduated a five year program of college, and never dated/kissed that I know of. Hope it goes well to you.
I've kissed more than my share, (mainly close friends who 'miss kissing other people' and me, being the lonely one agrees to 'help them out'.) The topic usually never arises, until I end up having a crush on them, and they bring up how much they'd like to be kissed, which, with my infatuation, turns out to be knotty at times. :/ (I'm a pansexual female, with female friends)
I can't imagine kissing someone just to "help them out," without any mutual emotional attachment. Perhaps this comes from growing up in a formal, conservative environment, but I'm highly uncomfortable expressing or responding to physical affection -- and kissing is a pretty serious matter.
k-i-s-s-i-n-g? kiss? whats that? I've never experienced one of those :3
I'm so goddamn sick of this game
I work so hard just to get out of bed in the morning
Just once I wish that would be because there's someone sleeping next to me that I'd like to stay close to
It kills me how many folks out there don't know how lucky they are just to be healthy
I'm not >>95, but I'm in pretty rough physical shape, and I often wonder if that means I shouldn't bother to date. I have a weak heart, exacerbated by a family history of heart disease. My grandfathers both died in their 70s of heart attacks, and my dad developed cardiomyopathy about ten years ago. Since then, he's had to take a vast cocktail of medications daily to survive.
>I also have problems dealing with physical and emotional intimacy
I enjoy my solitude.
No matter what, no matter how appealing they may seem...
> let's say that in addition to my manifest physical defects
What exactly is a physical defect that renders one unfit for love? I believe saying that anything short of lacking the brain chemistry necessary to create such feelings should fate one to be alone for their entire lives is cruel. I'm sure Joseph Merrick had little hope, but if the internet had been around back then you'd be sure he would have had a fighting chance.
>>I'm sure Joseph Merrick had little hope, but if the internet had been around back then you'd be sure he would have had a fighting chance.
If the internet had been around back then, he'd have been cyberbullied to hell and back. Anonymity, sadly, is a two-way street: it may be comforting to hide behind when you need to discuss problems, but it also enables people to indulge all their worst impulses.
>I thought the rule was always that you had to be a healthy and complete person before you were allowed [...]
You thought wrong: no one is every healthy and complete, even with love. The requirement is maybe to not be broken as fuck as to not suck the other into a black hole of madness, but no one asks you to be perfectly adamantine.
>You thought wrong: no one is every healthy and complete
> If the internet had been around back then, he'd have been cyberbullied..
I'm only saying he could have found that blind girl he was always looking for, or someone with a similar illness. Surely, might not the hope for love be what kept him going?
>>I'm only saying he could have found that blind girl he was always looking for, or someone with a similar illness.
>>Then again, maybe you're thinking that we imply that by changing your ways, anyone you set your heart on will suddenly fall madly in love with you. That's not the case; love comes in many forms, and maybe one of the solutions is to learn to accept these different forms.
>And what might those different forms be?
> interested in you because of your disability... "why?"
How dare you
How dare you tell your friends our relationship was nothing, that you never liked me. I can remember those cold nights, you cuddled in my arms asking if I would ever leave you. I remember you telling me how you missed me and wanted to see me. Tell your friends that we weren't that serious, that we were nothing more than friends with benefits. I know and you know that there was something more. You can hide it under the floor but you know it screams loudly; there was something between us. Go ahead, let them think, I won't stop you. The fact you have to play it up, remind them over and over is enough proof. Tell them what a bastard I was and how big of an asshole I am. Tell them every day and every hour. The more you tell them, the more I know you are trying to hide the fact that you allowed yourself, the queen of the campus, the princess of palestine to fall for a nobody, nerd, geek trekkie otoku like me and how you wish you never let me go. I was never the perfect guy for your friends, but I was the perfect guy for you.
I just met a girl who likes video games, anime, manga, rpgs, and hates Twilight... not to mention she's hot. I think i'm in love
Sounds like you won the lottery! Good luck with her!
I'm getting sick of being single. I want to go on dates but people who ask me out are the ones I'm not attracted to at all.
Lull, if they're "nice" give them a chance. Sometimes love is born through experience and not through attraction
It's Christmas day today and i just confirmed how sad and lonely i am being with no one at all - not family, not friends, and no special other. I sincerely hope the new year will bring something new for all of us.
Im a young male, unemployed due to a rough educational history though still trying. Due to my very low self esteem i seem to find reasons for girls to dislike me which also lowers my confidence for talking to a girl in the street. Most of this has stemmed up from my uneasy, sickly and lonely childhood. I can't say ive been single all my life though, ive experienced many relationships. Most girls ive dated seem to be shallow and never took notice that i'm more serious then just physical contact which can last but a moment, where as feelings and experiences stay with you forever.
>>i guess i feel im at the edge of a cliff hanging on barely and that maybe something may change by opening up.
I still got a trauma after the failed relationship with 5 ft 11 in with long-haired natural blond in 200X
i just tried signing up on eharmony and it said it was unable to match me. I am THAT big a loser :(
I hope all of you find someone special in the new year! Give it your all!
I don't know. I feel bad for giving them hopes for something that wouldn't happen. I know that it's my fault for having a standards when it comes to guys. I try to lower it really but no one seemed to have given me the "I'm interested in you.. sure why not, I'll give you a chance" feeling yet.
Hakuna Matata. You can't let a crush that you don't know very well hang you up on the possibilities in front of you. Maybe you should take charge and possibly give the guys you're not attracted to a chance too. You might end up finding someone special if you stop giving yourself an excuse not to be happy.
sighhh, 20 and still single...
Age= being girlfriendless
And so officially everyone i know has either dated or currently dating. Am i that much of a loser?
5yrs single here. damn, why the hell? anyway, i'm looking for nice, kind jap chicks that's why.
i think i'm very unsociable when some girls are trying to get my attention whom i don't dig.
crappy life being single. waiting for that perfect someone might leave me single for a decade. crap.
omfg. Some idiot just bump this.
Just create a thread -.-
Don't just wait, get out there and do something!
It said the same thing to me! its not the greatest site Dx
Ughh, I'm so lonely and lovesick lately. But the worst thing is that I don't even have any girls to dream about. I'm pining for somebody I haven't met yet, I guess. Hopeless.
I know how you feel man I'm stuck in my apartment with my friend and his girlfriend every time I see them it just reminds me of how alone I really am which is great because I see them everyday. I really want to find someone but I'm too paranoid and see emotions in people that don't exist. Oh well sometimes I see them argueing and I think to myself maybe being single isn't so bad after all. Every lifestyle has its hardships. After my last relationship maybe being lonely isn't so bad but still it's cold really cold being alone.
Just take a chance on someone you wouldn't expect to be with. They can slowly become your world
I just wanted to put it out there...I'm 22-years-old, been single for that long, and have been pining for this particular boy since I was 16. Half of me wants to hit myself in the head until I get a very minor concussion and the other half won't let me forget...and all the while, my alter-ego is shaking her head at my indecisiveness.
Been a while since I'd been around here.
Last night something odd happened. I dreamt of my childhood sweetheart. I very rarely think of her now; we lost track of each other after elementary school. I haven't seen her in something like... fifteen years?
Life's all about direction, not position.
I took >>135's advice and hooked up with a girl. After a couple weeks, just as I was getting comfortable, she went back to her ex-boyfriend who had dumped her but suddenly changed his mind once he saw how happy she was with me.
I couldn't get along with anyone who isn't brilliant in their work, whether it be technical or artistic. Also they would have to be beautiful in body as well as mind - being healthy and physically active is a must. No, I am not a fat slob who dreams of what he will never have. I'm just a highly disciplined nerd who expects no less from people than what I expect from myself.
Perhaps your standards are too high? I know plenty of people who are brilliant and also are beautiful. The more people you meet you are more likely to see these types of people. Sometimes it is not evident but if you have an open mind you can see someone who is amazing in both looks and personality.
Spent a cold night next to my cute neighbor watching the moon. My inner cynicism tells me it won't lead to anything. But for now, I'm going to sleep in the happy bliss of potential love yet to be tarnished by harsh reality.
This is gonna be yet another lonely Christmas.
This caught my eye. Don't forget that, ultimately, it's the person that matters, not the bond. They should not suddenly lose all value, simply because they won't be "yours". You should just enjoy connecting with others, regardless of what becomes of your relationship. You'll enjoy life more that way, trust me.
Whoo, it's 2011 and I'm still a single dude ._.
I have to admit, the moment of New Years (countdown) is only wonderful if you have someone to share that moment with :/
Oh well, one year... hopefully with someone from Hong Kong. :3
I've been single for 23 years now, never had a girlfriend in my entire life. However I believe that it will eventually happen, just hang in there. Even densha otoko eventually found his girl ^_^. So every new year's eve I always tell myself: another year, another chance!
As my thoughts oscillate wondering if I'd ever feel love with a special someone or won't, it's as if my heart is caving inside itself (._.)
Its the start of a New Year, don't let the past bog you down in your attempts at happiness. Keep pushing forward. If the world really does end in 2012 then go all out in everything you do!
I really need to stop spending so much time and energy on this girl that already has a boyfriend. It's not that I don't enjoy our platonic moments of warm friendship, but in the end it's painful when we can't kiss.
>>150 just let it flow naturally, if things work out naturally then it'll all work out in the end :)
and yes i agree, you should touch a girl with a bf lol
My ex thought Valentine's Day would be a good night to tell me about her sexual encounters she's had with another guy. Seriously, what the fuck?
I can't bring myself to like women. I have sex with them sometimes, but I've never had anything even approaching a friendship with a girl, let alone a relationship. I guess I am just an old-school misogynist. If females didn't have boobs and a vagina, they'd simply be regarded as boring, annoying people who suck at everything.
I'm a 23 year old female virgin and fear I'm going to continue my slow walk down the path of crazy cat lady if I don't do something about it. While part of me wants the companionship more than just about anything, at the same time, I can't help but feel like maybe it's meant to be like this for me, because it almost feels right that I don't belong with anyone, even if it's not what I want.
to Secret Admirer, I think you should get to know me and let me teach you how to relax and get to know the pleasures of the sexual side of life and enjoy it fro what it is, not live in fear of it.
How does an older fella find some good young sex, havent been laid in years
I lose again.
Of the last three girls I've verbally expressed interest in:
1. Flat out no, she was dropping out of school and leaving the state, her feelings for me are unknown to me. (1 year ago)
The strongest adult bulletin board in Japan
I really need to stop thinking about...let's just call him "baka deshi" (at least, that's what I called him). I'm 22 and I loved him since I was 15. I wanna hit myself in the head and get a semi-concussion so that I can suffer from selective amnesia. The best part of this post is that I'm listening to DBSK's "I Wanna Hold You" while writing this. Damn me, damn the beautiful song, and damn being a single, horny, lonely young woman.
so why do you call him "baka deshi"
whats the story behind that?
I called him that out of affection. We had this extended joke...I was the "guru" and he was the "baka deshi." I helped him with everything academic except history (for that, he ended up helping me). Anyway, that's how "baka deshi" came to be. Sometimes, if he was really good and amused me, he would get "promoted" to "idiotic apprentice." The weird thing is he never got beyond that because he would often get "demoted" back to "baka deshi." Sounds abusive but believe me, we mutually respected each other and used these nicknames as a friendly joke. Does that answer your question, #160?
man I wish I had that sort of friendship with someone
Hey 162, thanks for the sweet youtube clip. And damn, you're so right. @163, I hope that you do find somebody, even if it's for a little while. Although I don't speak to "baka deshi" as much as I should, I'm grateful for the little time we had together. I just wish that it became more. -_-
I've finally asked somebody out for the first time after all these years. I did not mention to "S" explicitly that it was going to be a date and such because I did not have the balls yet to do that (and I thought it would be just tacky). Although I do hope that this would be the start to a steady relationship.
I am >>152. I got together the balls to just finally ask her directly since all my indirect shit wasn't working out. She deliberated on it for four hours straight. (I was sitting nervously awaiting her answer for those painful hours. Though I kept saying she could think about it and tell me later, she kept saying "no, just wait a little longer..." and continued debating internally.) Eventually she chose me and broke up with her long-distance boyfriend (with whom her relationship had turned mutually passionless long ago, I found out later). We've been dating happily for nearly three months now and the future still looks bright...thanks for the support, >>151.
Congrats >>152 who's really >>150! I'm glad things worked well for you! And to >>165, I agree with >>152. I regret that I didn't pursue "baka deshi." Although my gut tells me that it would have been hopeless, I wish that I had at least tried. If that had been the case, I would have the comfort of knowing that I did everything in my power. Instead, all I have are good memories and this nagging bit of regret/heartache. Go put yourself out there, >>165! You can do it! And here's a little bit of late advice - since you didn't explicitly state that it's a date, just make sure that you restrict your behavior and activities to "friendly fun." Hopefully that will encourage "S" to hang out with you for more "events." However, if "S" suspects that your evening out is a "date" as opposed to "friendly fun," it's best to be honest. Be candid, polite, and considerate...after that, it's all in "S's" hands. Good luck!
Sorry for double-posting...but I really need to rant. I turned 23 today. I'm happy that I'm alive and that many people love and care for me, but I still feel lonely. Despite the fact that I have a wonderful family and great friends, I don't think that it can satisfy my longing for a serious and meaningful romantic relationship. I have had one-sided romances, but I'm tired of the heartbreak. I've also had people pursue me, but I unfortunately had no romantic feelings for any of them. (On a side note, to those have have expressed interest in me, I thank you and am humbled by your attentions.) Usually, this doesn't bother me. It's only when the rest of the world is fast asleep and I'm awake and alone staring blankly at the ceiling that I start to wonder if I'll find my someone. Even now, I find myself watching the blades of my ceiling fan turn over and over again...and with every turn it reminds me of how many moments, how many years I've spent being single. Because I am a proud young woman, I often tell myself that I am a SAP (Single and Proud) and that I should embrace my freedom and independence. Because I've never had a boyfriend, I only know the joys and privileges of being unattached. You would think that I can't miss what I never had. Even so, there's still that small feeling of loneliness that tugs at my heart. Sadly, that small feeling is enough to undo me.
Still misunderdstood ._.
>>169, have you given any of your suitors a chance? Perhaps you would develop feelings for them over time if you hung out with them a bit.
Besides that, all you can do is keep searching. You're still young and there's still plenty of people whom you have yet to meet. It's hard to fully appreciate the advantages of being SAP until you've actually been in a relationship and seen what it's like.
>>171, I feel a little embarrassed saying this...but whenever I had a "suitor," it would always be after being friendly with them for a while (usually a year or two) that they would tell me they liked me. And the only reason why they would tell me is because I was too oblivious to notice it. Ah, how funny in hindsight but a little bit sad at the same time. But thanks for being kind and for trying to reassure me. I think I'm just frustrated because I never experienced mutual attraction. It was either a one-way attraction or we'd like each other but for many reasons wouldn't pursue it.
My curiousity has ushered me to this site. Interesting topics. I don't believe I'll be able to read them all but excuse me while I do. lol. Good evening everyone by the way. Hopefully your morning/afternoon/eve/night is well.
I doon't know if it's me but it seems like when I mention that I'm a christian a guy puts me on pause and runs away then by the time I'm off this "pause timer", he's gone. I'M A PERSON WITH FEELINGS! HELLO?! Is it because a guy thinks I'm going to reprimand him from doing every single thing in the book. To be honest 'yes' it would be nice to meet someone who is christian as well but if I do meet someone who sparks my interest; which is rare because I'm picky; why do they run away based on religion?
>I'M A PERSON WITH FEELINGS! HELLO?!
that does not obligate anyone to be with you
Maybe if guys are going away is becauase religion is making you behave in ways that are not interesting to them. Or maybe is not just religion...its just the way you behave...maybe you think it´s all about religion when it´s not.
>>174 religious types are often not worth the trouble for those not belonging to the same religion. it results in a lot of headache in the long run depending on how strongly religious the person is. for those of separate faiths, the conflict should be obvious. for the atheists, as far as they are concerned you have a mental disorder. they cant deal with your bullshit and will roll their eyes every time you pray. for agnostics, they dont want to be preached to or converted, and we all know how christians love to convert people.
When I was twenty-four, I dated a nineteen-year-old girl. When we met, I thought she was older, and she thought I was younger, so it was kind of a surprise to us both. But there was mutual attraction, so we went for it.
Single after an off-and-on, one-sided relationship that ended either one or five years ago, depending on who you ask. It was a real disaster. And it was the only relationship I've ever had, so there's that too.
hit me up for a good time;) 4254175777
I asked a girl out, I thought she was interested in me. Turned out she was gay but just really nice.
A woman gave me her number around two weeks ago. I was getting some teeth removed and she was the dentist's assistant. I really don't remember what she looks like or what I said to her because of the anesthetic they gave me. I told myself I would call when I had finally healed from the surgery, but I have refrained from doing so. I don't what to say to her.
Nothing's happening, as usual. I just work and drink and sleep and repeat that process. I'm not interested in women, so I don't mind this kind of life, but living alone might get rough after a while. I may have to settle on someone just to have companionship of some kind. I don't like that idea, but what else can I do?
Most of the time, I'm totally fine. I don't mind being alone, I actually kind of enjoy it (especially when I see my friends in their relationships being miserable). I live like they do, except I don't constantly have to be on the phone telling them what I'm going to do or where I'm going to go. It's nice.
so here i am, finally in japan.. i'm always witing for a hermes-tan.. man can't seem to find one.. but all the chicks here are so fine.. a handful are fuglies.. y
almost 3years in, no gf in japan yet.. but there's a kid about 15yrs old is so into me.. i dunno what to do. i'm no lolicon but she is so cute.. help? i'm15yrs her senior btw.
more like 18-21years her senior.. damn
>>193 well in some cases i know some girls like guys that are older because they feel like they are more mature. but 18-21 years older that can cause a few problems such as generation gap. i know people who are 55 years old that have a girlriend who is 20 years younger then them, they sometimes get into a few fights due to generation gap as older people wont understand what the younger generation are thinking.