I know this isn't the first time this subject has come up, but I'm in love with my best friend. We've been friends for about five years now. About three and a half years ago she said she had a crush on me, but as luck would have it I was infatuated with someone else. Of course the girl I liked at that time just ended up breaking my heart, and I realized I made the biggest mistake of my life. It was a little awkward between us for a while, and about a year after she told me she had a crush on me, she started dating this guy. They were together for a couple years, and it was torture at times. I tried to get any notion of deeper feelings out of my mind and for a while I was certain that I did not love her, but I knew in my heart that was not true. They broke up earlier this year. Since then it's been a struggle. I value our friendship greatly, especially since I don't have many friends, and I don't want to do anything to hurt it, but I always feel a little weird around her because I just want to tell her how I feel, but I'm scared to do it. I'm going away for a couple months soon, so I don't know if I should tell her. If she doesn't have any feelings for me, then it will give us more than enough time to avoid any serious awkwardness, so in a way it's a safe thing to do. Obviously if the feeling is mutual, then it's a bit of a bummer, but we've managed to stay friends through similar circumstances, so then it's something that can be overcome.
I have the urge to smack you on the head. So you have been interested in her for two years, and now that she's free, you don't make a move, even knowing that she has shown interest for you? What more do you need, that she rapes you?
OP here. I'd be the first to admit that I'm a fool, so I'm not oblivious to the circumstances. I guess I just wanted a third party opinion and some perspective, and you guys really gave me a kick in the pants, so thank you.
Hey, I'm just trying to help ya out and I'm sure anyone else would too. It's weird to help out from sitting behind the computer giving advice, suggestions, etc. OP, it's a one chance in your lifetime. Don't expect anything in love.
I guess it is a little strange, but it's just nice to confide in somebody. Really though, thank you, you really made me realize that if I don't do anything, I can't expect anything to happen.
If you don't do anything, you're going to regret it for a long time. Take it from someone who's been there.