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[long-distance relationship]in a relationship, being ignored (11)


1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-10 12:16 ID:JStpYvTb

Dear /romance/,

I'm currently out of the country visiting relatives, and won't be able to see my boyfriend this month. Due to the distance and time difference, it is easiest for us to keep in contact via email.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-10 13:50 ID:KyMN4b2a

Go outside and meet people. I promise that it's the best thing you could ever do to yourself. This whole 1 on 1 relationship bullshit is moronic. You're not married. Hell, you're not even together technically, he's away, he's not responding, why should you care? Why do you care anyway? Is he the ONE and ONLY in this world? Not possible. I'm better, I promise!

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-10 14:21 ID:d6B/XTvf

You've only been apart 12 days, that's the blink of an eye really.

Calm down, go out and enjoy your vacation okay? You should actually be enjoying a little break from your significant other. Time spent apart and not in constant contact is important for a relationship.

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4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-10 14:46 ID:6Nel0itN

> I've only received two brief emails from him in twelve days, and even then they were replies to emails I took the initiative to send first. He never replies after I respond to him, and he hasn't told me a word about what he's been doing since I left.
> only what I've been doing on vacation, and other trivial things.
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5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-10 14:52 ID:AfbcSp1E

My relationship just recently became long distance too, were in completely different time zones but we still find time to talk at least 3 hours a day. I dont know how close you actually are with your boyfriend, but if my girlfriend acted like that for 12 days i would definitely be pissed off and shed have a lot to answer for, i know it would be the same if i acted like that to her. Fuck being all considerate, if your boyfriend is making you feel like shit then you have a reason to be "nagging."

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-11 00:19 ID:0EZUs+uy

I don't know how much longer you'll be on vacation for, but isn't a good relationship supposed to be based on trust and that? It's difficult, I think, to do that when long distance calls are so cheap, but you've got to cut him some slack. You should definitely address your concerns with him, and I think he could be at least reasonably understanding if you explain your reasoning. Enjoy your vacation, definitely. Don't let this get you down.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-11 01:20 ID:Dizu743i

12 days is nothing. its probably a sign you nag him too much.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-11 11:39 ID:epxEp9yg

Thanks to everyone for putting things in perspective. However, to clarify the situation a little:

Part of the problem is that I'm currently staying at my grandparents' and there's nothing to do near the "retirement community", and I don't really speak the language even though I look like a native, so it's hard to get around. It doesn't help I become shy when there's the potential of looking like an idiot in this country-- decreasing my chances of an adventure to almost zero. This isn't a vacation at all; it's really more like a waste of time as I accompany my parents as they visit relatives.

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9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-11 12:36 ID:epxEp9yg

OP here.

Holy shit

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10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-11 13:37 ID:QSCO/kAp

>>9 It looks like you're getting the hang of it.

Leave the poor guy in peace, we all need our secret garden to relax and take a deep breath. You'll soon be together again.

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11 Name: secret admirer : 2009-08-15 12:01 ID:q8ztG6Rn

all i can say is i hope you two can deak with it in your own ways.
If not.... leave the guy there are lots more people in the world then u can think