First of all, I'm a girl.
So, my story (in which I need your guidance) is basically this:
There's this girl from my college band, well, we never got along very well. I mean, from the start, she got along with me, treating me as if I was her friend, with all the confidence and openess. And this was the main problem, because I'm more of a..let's say, I take my time getting used to people, and she didn't understand that and treated me in a way I didn't accept right away, and that created a negative tension. I get embarassed very easily with Public Display of Affection, unless it's a hug with a very close friend of mine, that kind of stuff.
Because the point is, when we started to get along we had fun and all, because I got used to her behaviour, and she got used to mine, but eventually something changed about her way of being alone with me.
She may just be more social with a group than with an individual. Personally, I'm much more outgoing when I'm with a group of friends, instead of being with just one friend.
The only exception is when they're a really close friend, and from what I read, you two aren't really that close.
I think the real question here is to know the following:
What would you do if she's attracted to you? Would you get along, or reject her? And if she's not, would you try to seduce her, or happy to simply remain her friend?
>Give it some time, but I wouldn't ask her about it; that could make things even more tense.
Yes, I never really intended to approach her directly about her.
Tell her your intentions of getting closer, without being too explicit.
I don't think she's really into you any more. Maybe she realized that she didn't like your sarcastic tones? It may be possible, I'd just let it last a bit, and see what happens. Good luck, and go band!
Oh wow you sound like me.
I suspect, based on my own experience, that her quietness with you is more to do with not knowing where she stands with you.
You said something that came across as hurtful to her and now she is unsure about your behaviour or intentions. Which explains her increased observation of you, monitoring your facial expressions more closely and such? Perhaps try asking her if she thinks you are a hard-to-read kind of person, her answer might inform you well enough.
>Id prefer for it to happen naturaly.
then let it happen naturally