I met a girl on the popular cam chat site Stickam. We started talking off line and before I knew it we were meeting in real life. Things progressed and we developed feelings for each other. Last week was her birthday and I wasn't able to be there for her, although she came to see me for mine. On her birthday weekend she slept with her ex-boy friend and said that it was because she was disappointed and just wanted birthday sex. While we're not really "together" she said that she felt bad about it. All of this came out when I had asked her if she was sleeping with anyone else other than me. I haven't been with anyone else, nor do I really have the desire to be. For me it's about the connection. What I'm confused about is, if this girl met me online, then in real life and had no problem sleeping with me the first night we were together. Then this means that she could be doing this with who knows how many other guys, right? What are some signs I should be looking for to know that I'm not the only one? I don't want to have feelings for this girl if she is just a player.
Well, OP, I'd say you've answered your own question.
She had sex with you when you first met her, and she had sex with her ex-boyfriend.
You seem to criticize the fact that she accepted to see you and had sex with you, which is somewhat retarded (she didn't rape you, did she?).
Tell her that this episode made you realize that you don't want her to sleep with other people, and ask her out. If she agrees to both, you'll be doing well.
You had sex with her upon meeting her for the first time. Then this means that you could be doing this with who knows how many other girls, right?
> While we're not really "together"
I don't think you should expect exclusivity until you ask for it.., like asking her to be your girlfriend
You are totally right, OP should ask for exclusivity first, complain later.
>>4 and >>5 and >>6 are right. If you don't assert yourself as the dominant one, there is no reason for her to be attached to only you. Also you were not there for her in her birthday, while the converse is true. Yes you want her, don't be stupid and satisfy her needs for sex.
If she wants you for sex, maybe she'll want more from you, and she is showing signs of attachment