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How does one attract someone without coming off as gross and persistent? (23)


23 Name: SomeoneStuck : 2009-11-23 09:47 ID:ag/YlmT2

After I last updated, I realised that I was just too tired to keep trying with a guy who was clearly uninterested in me. The last thing I wanted to do was make it obvious to him, so I'm sorry to say I did not take the last poster's advice.

Weeks passed, I met other guys who sparked my interest, and didn't meet or email with him in the meanwhile at all. Just saw him at the social gatherings where we would share a bit of banter, smile, and that was it.

Last weekend, however, I met him at two gatherings. The first one, he just sat quietly next to me while I was talking to someone else, and would occasionally pour me a beer or a shot. Afterwards, he tried to pay my cab fare home, but another guy beat him to it. (This is a culture thing, by the way. I happened to be the youngest at the gathering.)

The second gathering, at some points I would walk a little ways off to get some air, and he would join me and we would chat a little. It happened around three times? Later on that night, I got really drunk (go me) and woke up this morning with a killer hangover.

What really surprised me was that he texted me this afternoon to ask if I was feeling okay. Remember that older girl I mentioned in my last post? And that wild party this guy and our mutual guyfriend were talking about the last time we had lunch together? Well, in the wild party, that older girl got drunk on wine and went home alone. This guy and our mutual friend were laughing about it, and the guy said, 'Please tell her I hope she got back safely on my behalf'. He's that kind of guy, even to that older girl -- and he actually bothered to text me!!

While I'm kind of happy (since I'm still very fond of him, even if my feelings have receded quite a bit) I'm also very confused. I wonder what happened. And I'm not really sure where to go from here.

Well, that's the latest update I have for this thread. Let me know if you have any advice for me, I appreciate it!