Hello, guy from "how to approach a shy girl?" and "the soccer girl" here, I think I've found a girl that I actually am interested in. She plays video games and is attractive, two qualities I find important in a woman.
>I don't think anything really intimate could happen with people walking in and out of the living room to go upstairs.
Sorry, just to clarify, are you the same guy from Soccer Girl?
I think first, talk more with her in class, get her msn, and ask her about her other interests. You can definitely take her smile at you as being a good sign. I think once you start the conversation rolling, give it maybe a couple of days, and you can start to ask what she's doing at lunch, under the pretense of showing her a new video game, or just "do you mind if I have lunch with you?". If you chicken out you can always say "cool, I'll see you after in class".
Man, all your threads are like this... are you sure you even LIKE this girls?
I mean, this looks like you actually need to communicate us that you like girls. Like some kind of lack-of-attention thing.
>She plays video games and is attractive, two qualities I find important in a woman.
I stopped reading here
It's a combination of the two really. I've got an over-inflated ego and I'm damn proud of it, but I've also never had a girlfriend and am incredibly lonely.
One more thing to add: how do I avoid the dreaded "friendzone"?
If I just invite her over to play videos games then...well...she'll just be a girl I play video games with. I have absolutely no skills at flirting, teasing, or kino, which I understand are all pretty damn important.
I'm not familiar with avoiding the friendzone, as I've never been friendzoned, nor have I approached the friendzone, but what would make sense to me, fwiw:
Show real interest in her, and don't be a big fat pussy. And don't be a gross stalker psycho either.
Oh god. Shit, confident guys don't worry about being friendzoned. Especially if they're as confident as you claim to be. I find it very hard to believe that an attractive, smart, cool, confident guy has never had a girlfriend before, despite being so desperate for one. There's got to be some catch. Like, gee...maybe, just maybe, you're overestimating yourself. I think deep down you know this as well, otherwise why else would you be asking for advice?
Well, you do really are married with that clique of the "smart/lonely/cool kid" man. And you overcompensate this flaw with... wtf? Another Flaw? You are trying to be cool by being all Ego here, but I think, the sad truth is that you are just lonely.
Dude, it's self-esteem. Stop butchering the word, please (even if it makes a funny unintentional joke because self-esteem is a driving power).
this is what i thinkbecuase ive kinda been there. your givin ur self 2 much credit for the quite cool guy part, an if you dont wanta be in the friend zone invite her for games at ur house an she might get you 2 come 2 hers then invite her to movies or out 2 eat ps im using my phone dats why this is bad type
Let me give you a tip.
Dont loose your time. Something similar was happening to me. the girl liked anime, videogames etc. I like that. i had a lot of time to invite her but i was scare and i never did it. when i wanted to do invited her was too late for me. she was gone....
Hehe, sorry, I'm a foreign speaker... or typer... or whatever. English is not my mother language, sorry. [Also, my spellchecker puts it like "Self-Steam", so...]
Dont worry D, you are not the only. my first languaje is not english too.
a) OP is actually doing something about his relationship with gamer girl... NAAAH!
Yes, it's choice, I went back to my old thread:
Haha, you guys are gonna hate me for switching again like this but I think I'm going with Gamer Girl. Now instead of criticizing my decisions, please give me some sound advice!
I was thinking of inviting her over to play vidya games at my friend's house where there's a LAN party type thing going on. I mentioned it was going on and that's how I got her number, so she's definitely interested.