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Have i one more change? how? (16)


1 Name: Soujiro : 2009-10-28 02:07 ID:WFOjKlxv

Hello. im having problems with a girl. I and the girl were in the same class-room for more than 5 month.after like 1 moth begins talking to her. we talk everyday about things that she and i like. but one day she start smoking(just cigarret not drugs) because she will look sexy(that she thought). i didnt like that and i quite talking to her.
The problem is that after a week i begins missing her. when other guys were talking to her i felt jelous of it. then when other friends aske why i was not talking with her i made the excuse that she doesnt want to talk to me. later she talk to me and we start again talking. but nothing was the same as before. sometimes i was with her and other friends at the same table and i talk to her and she ignored me like if she doesnt heard me. she left school and is not more online( i know that she just block my user) she change her cell phone number.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-28 05:19 ID:QbFNNqtl

Just confront her on the issue you have with cigarette.

But honestly, the fact that you suddenly stopped talking to her for that sole reason is a proof of immaturity and probably shows that you're not ready for something to happen. How old are you?

3 Name: Soujiro : 2009-10-28 12:01 ID:WFOjKlxv

I'm 21. yes you right. I dont care that she smoke, what i dont like is that she did it to look sexy.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-28 15:53 ID:Heaven

>>3
It's still not a reason to stop talking to her.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-29 00:32 ID:1OxGL2fC

If you loved her, the smoking may bother you and you'd wish she'd stop, but it wouldn't stop you from loving her.

6 Name: Soujiro : 2009-10-29 16:13 ID:WFOjKlxv

what can be the best way to get touch with her? what can i do? i really loves her. what can i do to speak with her if she doesnt want to talk to me?

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-29 19:06 ID:Jq3TwDT/

God gave men brains larger than dogs so they wouldn't hump womens' legs at cocktail parties.

Find a new girl. She is a lost cause.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-29 19:23 ID:1OxGL2fC

>>6
I think the best way to do this is in person, otherwise phone, but you said she changed her cell. Do you know her home phone number? If she doesn't answer, that's expected. She will need some time to cool off, but most women like to know the guy will make futile attempts to reconcile the instant you've realized you've done something wrong. Do you have her email? Maybe you could relay a message through a friend of hers or yours, but I only recommend this as a last resort. Once she's willing to talk, you need to explain to her why her smoking upset you and hope she understands how you feel, but you really dug a hole when you stopped talking to her. Good luck.

9 Name: Soujiro : 2009-10-29 19:57 ID:WFOjKlxv

I sent email to her, but she doesnt answer me. i dont have her home phone number.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-29 23:15 ID:Heaven

>>9
Well, maybe she really doesn't want to talk to you. There's nothing you can do about it. You can't force people to do this, can you? And even if you can, it's not really fair and probably isn't what you want.

11 Name: Soujiro : 2009-10-30 00:48 ID:WFOjKlxv

Exactly Secret Admires. i dont want to force her to speak me. i want her to speak me if she want not because she need something from me or because somebody make her to do it.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-30 03:37 ID:1OxGL2fC

>>9, >>10
Then you've done all you can. Ball's in her court now.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-30 04:37 ID:Heaven

>>11
What I was saying is maybe it's a good time to consider giving up.

14 Name: Soujiro : 2009-10-30 22:44 ID:WFOjKlxv

what about if i see her on the street? what should i do? explain to her why i stop talking with her?

15 Name: W-roar man : 2009-10-31 00:48 ID:o+TTlbgb

Here's what I got to say. (plz ignore anything that might offend)
First,try to find places she hangs out at, or a common place that you both go by/know. (try and meet her there)
also, take advantage of times in which she is alone to try and talk to her. (thus little interruptions)
I know this would feel akward, but you might need to be somewhat forcefull when talking to her. not like shaking her and such, but by pushing through those akward moments. good relationships will sooner or later encounter arguements, akwardness. But it is overcoming them which strengthens the relationships.

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16 Name: Soujiro : 2009-11-04 16:17 ID:WFOjKlxv

now i need to forget her. somebody tells me that she has bf and want to get marry. grrrrrrrrr :(
fucking life i have