So I've been dating this guy ( we'll call him Ota-kun)for about 6 months now and I'm so head - over - heels in love with him. He's funny, sweet, a bit shy and he's very honest. I love him to bits >< We've decided to take the next step and move in together. Now we share similar interests especially anime and video games....however...i didn't know the extent of his love of anime, especially when it comes to the " H " stuff. I'll admit, I am a bit conservative. And I do get jealous when he plays his H-games. But I really want to understand him better.
My honest opinion is that he simply appreciates the idealized proportions of an H-girl. They are indeed fake, and also, impossible to mimic in reality. He may be playing those games because the scenarios are also idealized, and therefore, amusing to see. The same applies to the H-anime. I'll have to think about an approach for you to deal with this... But in the meantime, just try to accept it face-value.
Watching hentai and saying he doesn't masturbate to it is like him watching porn and never masturbating to it.
Anyway, point is that all guys do this, and it's pretty normal. While it is hard to comprehend for a girl, trust me, you have nothing to worry about. I can almost guarantee he loves you whole-heartedly.
Yeah, don't sweat it. Ya know, a lot of married women end up one day finding porn folders or pornsites in the browser's history or (for the elderly amongst us) playboy magazines behind the toilets. Then they act all surprised, disappointed, jealous, start doubting themselves, etc. And it's okay, because that's what women do.
Hey, I'm not your boyfriend haha, you just happened to use my screen name. Anyways... theres nothing really to worry about here. Its like women reading cheesy romance novels and enjoying them. Think especially about the guys who have to deal with girlfriends and their Twilight obsession.
It's really not competition, so you shouldn't look at it that way. It's stupid fantasy. (But it's still normal to feel that way so don't feel bad about feeling bad).
If you asked him to stop, you'd probably just drive it underground.
Best thing you could do is ask him if there's anything you can do to fulfill those fantasies. (But don't be judgmental about it if he mentions something weird)
Don't worry because I am otaku myself I know how he feels.
He loves you, that's for sure. Judging by the fact that he is an otaku it is most likely that he never loved anyone and nobody ever loved him.
So go on, don't worry...
Wow! Thank you all very very much.
#6 I will take your advice.
As another otaku(well more like art-school fuckhead anyway but it does not matter) who wants to help both of you is here.
Just because Ota-kun is an otaku his personality made him to pursue some strange and bizarre love decision. For a guy like him it is possible to have mutual relationship with a lesbian. Which is happened to me. But as for me I want to forget what happened and start new thing, which I am sure is the same with Ota-kun.
I'm back with a new update. I took the advice that you guys have given me, I actually surfed the net and got a cosplay outfit from one of his favorite anime shows >< I waited for him to come home....I thought he was going to be home early..but I ended up waiting for 2 hours hehe. Anyway, I'd never been so nervous. ( and when im nervous I tend to want to clean things...takes away the stress)
Oh~ I can understand why he laughed. It sounds like something silly that you'd see in anime... Plus, you were in that outfit. Don't worry, though!
If you can, you should keep us posted on this. Good luck!
from one otaku to another... that sounded really really mo-e...
you got my vote girl!
Play eroges with him
My No BS Assessment:
Men need porn. They do. Even if you fucked him three times a day and six times on sunday, he'd still need porn. I hate to say this on a friendly, family-type board but...
As a guy, I really gotta back this up. I have a healthy sex life, I love my wife a lot, but I still watch porn and masturbate. It really is exclusive to sex and romance; a lot of women just don't understand that. Either way, good luck to you. My advice is to seek compromise, but remember to try to be more open-minded yourself as well.
Guys are like that. Men do need porn. I don't know about human history but, men have the urge do spread their genes and the only way to do that without betraying our lovers, is to masturbate or watch porn or do both. It subdues that urge, that feeling. It's a natural almost animal like urge. That's why some men sleep around...I guess..I don't know. For the reason why he laughed I guess was that it does suit you,....I don't know. But that is a good thing it means he won't see you as one of those characters, but as his lover. You have nothing to worry about him preferring those anime characters to you. He won't compare you to those 2D girls, after all the real ones are so much better. It was a good effort, but don't get a refund yet, who knows in the future it might prove useful if you two role play a little to spice up your sex lives. O//////O so I hoped I help a little....but not as much as the others have.