There was this guy who I looked up to as a guide when I just started studying Japanese and I liked him after that because he lent me a helping hand. But then, he changed from the person who I once saw him as.
He said some pretty rude things which were nothing but his own
messed up perception. He was rude to me for no reason, like the
More examples/details would be usefull. Like what have he said to you that was nice/rude? How have he responded to you in certain situations? How did you act towards him?
Also, What ages are we talking about here?
I don't know if I can be much help at this stage, there are manny possibilities why he would be rude to you.
Remind him of who he is. He probably had some emotional changes or something... something in his family, perhaps? Someone should talk to him about how he feels. It's the only thing one can really do...
The only other reason is because it is psychological... his frontal lobe was damaged, if that's the case... which totally re-writes his personality.
I try and put myself in his place I know he might have his own
problems and troubles to cause him to act they way he is but
What seems clear, at least, is that his oppinion of you changed. The question is why.
"You should stop advising people 6 years older than you."
Man, that line really pissed me off. Age does not make him any more mature or superior than you.
I'm not going to internet diagnose this guy but it sounds a lot like the experiences I've had with someone who has bipolar disorder.
>Just don't talk to him at all, or he'll rub off on you.
I will try and talk to him. I don’t mind accepting him the way he is, I doubt if he’d realize. We are all human beings with our flaws. I know.
He’s not been in a relationship. Heard it from someone who knows him well.
I was like “WTF? How does that mean ANYTHING?!” when he typed that.
Also I didn’t give any advice, I merely stated that I wasn't comfortable with what he said.
bipolar disorder? (O_o) Oh boy.
And don’t worry, It won't rub off on me.
Hey OP, I don't know what to say, but I can see you're having a difficult time. I hope it will pass for you...
Please keep us posted! I'd hope to see problems resolved!
Sure, I hope the thread doesn't die...keep it alive!
Oh just so you know, I don't mean bipolar will rub off on you, I mean that being around someone like that on a regular basis can be really damaging/hurtful and incredibly stressful, their behaviour tends to get worse the closer you are to them. I had to cut that person out of my life completely to get my self back.
He hasn't got on chat for a while.
He will be back from Japan next month.
(Again, hope the thread lasts)
I'll probably sort things face to face, but till then,
Oye... hope he gets back and gets back in contact with you. Best wishes on your re-encounter!
I get the feeling that you like him because he makes you feel something. Girls go on date after date with guys asking the exact same questions like they were all given a script. This guy comes along and although the emotions you feel are negative, they're balanced out by the limited good that he throws you. Within the pick-up community, this is known as push-pull. He pulls you in with private lessons and free anime, then pushes you away with childish comments.
As much as I hate to admit it, I guess I do.
Yes, I'm gonna give him a piece of my mind.
I'm gonna say what I have to say. Come what may.
bump to keep thread going
** Still waiting **
OP here. Just thought I'd let you guys know he'll be back on March 19 from Japan.
Good to know!
12 more days!!!
3 more days!!!
OP here, it's march 19 not 11 :P lol
But looks like people want to know where this goes,
so I'm happy you guys!
It's 29 OP. Dropped by to bump the thread :P
He's back! He said he'll see me on Sunday (･ω･)
Guys you won't believe it, he is like his old self. We are back to being Jedi master and Padawan :D (he calls me his padawan)
I was on a happiness trip the whole day, I felt light as a feather (≧ω≦)
News, give us news!
Op here guys, today in Japanese class, he had brought us stuff back from Japan. I got a Gashopon of Alphonse Elric from FMA!
It's so cute!
Well, he was kind to you. Probably a little bit more than to other students, it seems.
Keep your soft approach going. Looks like that's the way to getting closer to him.
Sure thing, I'll do that. I'll let you know if anything interesting happens this Sunday!
It's been so long since I've been on this site...
but to check out what's been happening to the OP, it sounds great! ^o^
I didn't' see him on Sunday but I did see him on Saturday because we had a farewell of our Japanese Teacher. She is going back to Japan. He may not come to Japanese class as he is taking up the final level which is just self-study...
He picked a fight with me again.
I'm gonna ignore him...
he was sorry and we're back on track. This is sweet ;]
Regardless, don't expect him to change. If he does, it likely won't have much permanence.
Ah well, C'est la vie I guess.
It's the love-hate waves that keep this boat sailing :]
I can't bring myself to 'hate' him. He is my Jedi master, like I mentioned before :)
And besides, I just thought; what is life without a bit of upsy-downsy (^_^)
But will you be so willing to compromise as such when the infatuation is gone? Keep that in mind.
I'll cross that bridge when I get there (^_^)
But yes, I will keep that in mind :)
It's just like that other Anon said. He's playing "push-pull" with you in a bad way. You're getting played like a chump, young lady, and I say this to you because I've been there. And because I've been there, I know you wont listen to me, but I feel I should let you know anyway. :\
I will listen to you. If I don't listen now;
I will look back and think, if only I had listened.
But I don't think OP is in a situation of the extent she is getting 'played' :( is she?
Wake up u're in <3 .... hhhh xD
"the more you hate, the more you love" bear that in mind. note than some guys tend to annoy you so that they could hide their feelings and at the same time to make himself be noticed by you...
as long as he makes you in a state where your head is full of thoughts about him ... may it be anger love or your worried .. you will get confused more and more .. and will eventually break .. and speak your true feelings for him .. most of the time .. you confesses how much you hate him .. and afterwards .. you will tell him that even if thats the case .. I cant stop loving you .. well good luck .. if u ever need advice just mail me .. Tri3edGe666@yahoo.com --- well good luck .