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Long distance effort (3)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-03-01 03:37 ID:01U1qDEO

My boyfriend and I have been long distance while we are at school. We have been together a year and a half, but have known each other 8 years. I feel like I am the one making all the efforts in our relationship. I don’t doubt that he loves me, but he is more selfish. I drive across the state about once a month or so to visit him, but he never visits me. Neither one of us has a job right now since we’re focusing on school, so he can’t afford to come visit me. But even when he had a job, there were different reasons he didn’t come, like he didn’t want to drive through snow. I drove 10 hours through a snowstorm once to be able to spend time with him.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-03-01 04:50 ID:dEQGW9FG

He sucks, is selfish and way too immature for you.
Do yourself a favour and stop being his mum.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-03-01 05:21 ID:T27WEHDH

>he says that he can’t change who he is and that maybe we should break up if I’m not happy

Unfortunatly this terrible response on his part is your answer. Your only option is to either deal with or figure out some way to make him understand how bad it makes you feel when he ignores you. Maybe you could ignore him for a bit or specifically ignore him when he wants to talk to you. This can backfire though and make him even more apathetic or he might just give up and go for someone else. It doesn't sound like its good for either parties though he probably feels annoyed if you bug him too much and you feel annoyed he ignores you too much. You can work this out. It is possible but something needs to happen and its unlikely. Of course I don't know you and I don't know him so don't believe what I say if you feel differently.