Last Oct 2010 my girlfriend got accepted to start her Phd in march 2011. Her phd professors asked her to start coming in to the dept to help out and get accustomed to phd life...
Strangely, she has to go in everyday at 9am and she leaves at 10pm. When she's there she doesn't really do anything, but she isn't allowed to leave. We have been having problems recently because of the amount of time she's spending there... it seems unnecessary and excessive to me... that's 65hours a week already without taking weekends into account. most importantly is that her phd hasn't even started yet.
a person is a person when they have a life. and a life is not another person it can't be. she can't spend time with you because she wants to have her own life. it was cruel of you to ask her to choose and then say something stupid like if it was another guy i bet you wouldn't do this. you are reacting normally but there is no reason to be mean apologize to her about that comment and just support her if you cant wait 3 years for her tell her that too but if she is willing to wait for you i don't think she is secretly seeing someone else you are just being paranoid. but i only know what you told us only you can make this decision and know what is happening. I have a feeling some complex emotions are clouding your view on things though.
You're all she has, you fucking asshole.
I understand how you feel, but I understand how she feels too.
Dude, this PHD is her entire fucking life. It's hundreds of thousands of dollars of debt, it's years of work and schooling, it's her only chance. If she doesn't finish it and get that job as a professor, she will be so entirely screwed, you don't even know.
What's is she doing the PhD on? I'm on biochemistry and I don't ever do that many hours. I think the most I've done is 60 in a week.
Also, I'm surprised they'd give her the professorship that easily. Unless you're in the states where being a professor is not a title but a job.