I met a really neat girl a couple months ago. We hit it off really well, immediately became close friends. It became apparent quickly that there was mutual romantic/physical attraction. As we progressed down that route, I realized she had a long distance boyfriend. I confronted her about it, told her we can't be the way she wanted to if she's someone's girlfriend.
For the record, texting someone "I think I owe you an apology" doesn't make up for this shit.
I'm a 23 year old kissless virgin and even I know that’s how the game works. As soon as she is available that is the time to make a move. Heck some conventions also states you should have made a move even when she was with her boyfriend, hell for all you know that might have been what this new guy did, I don’t know. Though I commend you on your noble efforts to keep your hands clean that doesn’t always work to your favor you should have expected that much.
Don't turn into a bitter asshole over this. Nothing kills a girl-boner like a bitter asshole.
She texted me today to say that she did truly care for me but "it [her feelings, presumably] went nowhere."
Every time I open my heart it's rejected. I must have some glaring personality flaw (flaws?) that all the women I know have spotted but I fail to see.
There were red flags already showing at the beginning, where she seemed willing to do stuff with you while still keeping things going with her long distance boyfriend.
Yeah. I suppose I should have seen that, but she and I just got along so damn well. I don't really have a best friend and she was as close as I got in like 6 months or a year.
I'm feeling a bit better now.
I think I understand how you feel, something very similar happened to me as well. I was all but dating a girl for around a month; flirting, cuddling, and kissing. At the same time, she was "going out" with a guy she was getting really annoyed with, so she didn't feel bad about flirting with me. I didn't take the valiant route and confront her about it, instead I listened to her complain about her boyfriend and bash him as well, in hopes of making her simply dump him so she could be mine.
Yeah. I would have liked for my feelings to slowly fade. This abrupt cessation has caused me a lot of emotional pain.
At this point I don't really want to date her though. Between thrashing my heart and being so capricious with relationships, I can't trust her again.
I saw a counselor at the university today. I had set up this appointment before all of this romantic stuff happened. I always feel generally unhappy and dissatisfied with life. I think part of why I fell so hard from this situation was because I had placed so much hope for a less dull future in this girl.
get rich first and those bitches will be a magnet that you can't get rid of
Look at the bright side. After all these relationships, you're still a virgin, rather than a jailed rapist.
Life's good, man!
STDs don't cost money, and masturbation is free. Sex is Sex; and should never cost a dime. Every city has a (male/or/female)prostitue, if you wanna buy some--b-o-d-y ...for a minute. Save your money for a weekend-vaction to Hawaii & get laid over there. Home-town relationships can happen if the other person is a mature & understanding Human Being 1st, and a (non-game playing, non-manipulative, non-needy) relationship-partner 2nd. Be self-sufficient. Find a relationship partner that is self-sufficient. Cherish the addictive words: "i WANT you" and "i am Thankful for you". ~.~ Runaway-from (and Leave) the codependent words: "i NEED you" and "without you my life sucks" - because those lies create suffering & a superficial reality.