Hi, everyone. I'm having a bit of a problem letting go of someone who hurt me, but not because I still care about him; rather, it's the opposite.
Long story short, I met a guy near the start of 2010. Soon we started to like each other and hung out a few times, till we finally both admitted our mutual feelings for each other. However, every time we made plans to hang out after that, he would come up with some excuse not to come at the last minute. He continued to flirt with me over text/phone, however, and all of his excuses seemed plausible, so I didn't think much of it. (How dumb of me... :[)
if you are with a boyfriend but still feel like you need to mend that bridge with the other guy, I would let him hear him out. As much as you might not like hearing it, he might actually would of thought "we were just friends, right?" If that was the case, they you would tell him how you felt...and leave it as that. You could continue as friends...or it can be the final chapter of the anxiety you've been stressing on. Either way, just let him in once and hopefully you'll find your answer
neither of you owe each other anything. if hes that thickheaded it will lead to relationship problems for him in the future and that should be a comforting fact. from a practical perspective, its not like an apology would have any bearing on the relationship you currently share with him. if you have to explain to him why you feel you deserve an apology, it wouldnt stick with him, wouldnt be sincere, and in the long run does absolutely nothing but make things awkward for both of you. if i were in your place id simply stop talking to him completely, remove him from your friends list etc.