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Cuddle Buddy technicalities? (22)


1 Name: Dragonfly : 2011-04-20 20:03 ID:7KE7C8ZW

So how do you put it across to a guy (who likes you as a friend) that you want to be cuddle buddies without it coming out creepy?
As in, how should I tell him? How do I phrase it?
Also, I was wondering- Cuddling won't develop feelings that would make him want to get into a relationship, right?

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-04-20 21:21 ID:Jrr/sL1C

I think it's likely that cuddling with someone could provoke feelings from them. It might cause him to become infatuated with you or something, there's a chance that things could become complicated.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-04-21 14:29 ID:V7JePGbW

dude....I mean if that isn't considered leading someone on I don't know what is.

4 Name: Dragonfly : 2011-04-21 14:51 ID:4FpnlnMC

>>3
Well I thought it was similar to the concept of fuck buddies, except it was just cuddles instead of sex?

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-05-06 04:32 ID:A3q6N3jo

It won't work. You can try it, but it'll more than likely just fuck up your friendship. Unless it's not really a big deal whether you're friends or not, don't try to establish such a parasitical hold on the guy. If you want to cuddle frequently with one person, you'd better be prepared for a relationship.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-05-06 22:40 ID:KqsrDsmR

>>4 this is one of the worst ideas ive ever heard in my life. i feel immense pity for your friend. its definitely the most selfish suggestion ive heard in recent memory. explain to me what HES supposed to get out of this aside from blue balls?

7 Name: Mr Write : 2011-05-07 04:24 ID:04+WdNLL

>>6
Heh, apparently guys don't like cuddling.

Anyways, feelings will almost always develop in a cuddle buddy relationship. This is totally okay, though, so long as you make it clear that the relationship isn't going beyond that.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-05-07 05:32 ID:Heaven

>>1

You know what's "creepy"? Wanting a cuddle buddy.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-05-07 06:32 ID:SDTpB80I

>>8

Why u mad, though?

10 Name: Dragonfly : 2011-05-08 20:14 ID:nms3Roj5

>>7
I should just be clear that I want him only as a cuddle buddy and not anything more than that, right?
So how do I make it clear I don't want anything other than just a cuddle buddy thing? What should I say?

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11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-05-09 01:01 ID:Heaven

>>10 Are you some kind of furry or are you just a pre-teen? No. Not normal. Cuddle after sex? Fine. "Cuddle buddy"? Seriously?

>>explain to me what HES supposed to get out of this aside from blue balls?
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12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-05-09 05:51 ID:Tt8kOrCe

>>5
Guy here with a completely Platonic friendship which involves much hugging, massaging and cuddling with who I see as a "best friend", someone close as a sister and nothing more. How is this possible? Simple. I don't care about sex. I value her as a person for her wisdom, understanding, companionship, empathy, etc., and because of this, would not dream of complicating our connection with awkward, superfluous connotations of "love", "longing", "completion". We talked about this at one point... probably out of boredom, and discovered there were no extraneous desires between us, sexual or otherwise.

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13 Name: Dragonfly : 2011-05-09 07:38 ID:E29ojZ5U

Let’s forget I asked. I don’t need cuddles. Hell I don’t need anything.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-05-09 15:33 ID:Wjd1/OZQ

>>1 you have a problem honey. the whole idea of this is so fundamentally selfish i dont even know where to begin. just quit while youre ahead, before you completely fuck up your friendship.

15 Name: Dragonfly : 2011-05-09 20:00 ID:E29ojZ5U

>>14

Hear me out, I thought it worked just the same as fuck buddies- you make something clear, do it and get it over with.
I didn't quite know so much was involved.

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16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-05-10 03:06 ID:SDTpB80I

>>14

How is it selfish? How is it anymore selfish than wanting a fuck buddy? Or a Football-game-watching-buddy? Or a drinking buddy?

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17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-05-10 15:23 ID:iMd8J+KZ

fuck buddies rarely ever work out either

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-05-10 21:34 ID:Heaven

>>How is it anymore selfish than wanting a fuck buddy? Hint: It's not

All sorts of wrong. If you need clarification you probably aren't a man.

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-05-11 01:06 ID:SDTpB80I

>>17

True, but it doesn't stop people from trying, and sometimes it does work out.

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20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-05-11 01:52 ID:KqsrDsmR

>>16 for one thing theres actually mutual gratification with fuck buddies. only a whiny asexual guy could possibly derive enjoyment from cuddling without sex.

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-05-11 12:38 ID:w97JzjLE

>>16 Girl pretending she knows something about guys

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-05-11 16:55 ID:Wjd1/OZQ

>>16 youre an idiot. and your analogies dont make any sense. i dont know how you could possibly draw the conclusion that im 'butthurt' from any of what i posted, but i think its safe to assume the people who are rightfully calling the idea ridiculous and selfish have touched a nerve with YOU.