I'm currently studying abroad.
I'm going to visit my hometown in a week.
So a guy from back at home asked me out for movie and a dinner.
You're right, I'll just be normal.
I think hiding it would be more of a problem than it being known, like you say it would be.
>As in- just how physical can things get on a first date?
This totally depends on the culture and experience of the people involved. Speaking of western countries, if you are for instance thirty something, experienced and confident about yourself, it's entirely normal to even have sex on the first date. If on the other hand someone never had a kiss, or even a date, it's highly unlikely that things would get that far. What matters is what do you feel confident about and wish for yourself. You said kissing and making out, then set a hard limit on anything beyond that. Like, if you were open for a sexual relationship, you should take condoms with you. If you are not taking them, then you have a hard limit at that point.
I am Indian. I like to have all other kinds of fun but I prefer to keep my V-card :)
Okay, since those issues do kinda worry me a bit, I'll let him lead the way :P And gotcha, thanks :)
>>5 my pleasure.
One more comment: don't be surprised if nothing happens beyond the kiss. Just as you don't want to come across as a licentious girl, he may also be wary of scaring you into thinking that he's a sex obsessed beast. The net result is a standoff where not much happens. But that's ok: as time goes on you will get to know each other better, and gain more confidence into how your partner feels about you.
I won't :) And you're right,he would be wary of himself too.
But one tiny question, what sign should I give if I want to go further without coming off as a tramp? Like, to convey 'I'm open to go furthur than a kiss (but I'm not craving your flesh)'
Well, since you're waiting for him, your best option is to have a warm and encouraging attitude towards his initiatives. For instance don't stand or sit too far from him, don't retreat or freeze if he approaches or touches you. I don't know enough about Indian culture to recommend this, but if in your culture it's acceptable for friends to touch each other when they chat or laugh (as is common for instance in southern European countries), don't hesitate to touch him when you speak with him.
Yeah I know the bits about maintaining a comfortable proximity.
And caresses. And don't worry I won't freeze. I would be quite responsive.
I'd be annoyed if I met a girl whose definition of 'more than a kiss' falls short of foreplay.