For the second time in my life I've begun to fall for a close friend of mine. I'm dramatically more than a touch awkward socially (still haven't been on a date at 27), and the last time I fell for a friend of mine... Suffice to say, that even without confessing my feelings for her, I managed to screw that relationship up royally. And now I find myself here again. I know that she's not interested in me, She, at times, finds me mildly annoying, and my tall stature triggers a degree of claustrophobia for her.
You'll move on and it will be okay.
>>1 No problem to vent here. What is your current social situation though?
>>3 With her? We're roommates. Other than that I'm single, and have never actually been in a romantic relationship.
I genuinely understand how it feels to be told time after time that "everything will be okay." It isn't what you want to hear at times like this, but nevertheless, it's true. Also, with such a negative attitude towards yourself, how can you expect somebody else to look at you in the way that you would like? You need to excrete happiness and positivity to attract others!
I don't know if I would go so far as to say I have a negative attitude towards myself; though I can see how I'd come across that way.
As I said before, I'm rather tall (6'8"), somewhat handsome (according to my friends), and do tend to draw people to me (often whether I want to or not).
Ah, there's no need to apologize! That's what this is for, haha. :)
But, I do understand where you're coming from. It's understandable to not know how to talk to a girl, or how to act around a girl when you've never really been in a relationship outside of friendship. It's like riding a bike, right? That's extremely corny, but you fumble around until you finally get it right. So, don't feel too terrible about that, at the very least! I remember that I was always a total goon when it came to talking to a guy when feelings started coming into the equation.
I know that you're right. That being said, this pain will take some time to work through.
And that's the way it should be. These things always take time to work through, but time is a good thing. In time, everything will come into place.
Also, you're welcome. :) I wish you the best in all of your love-related endeavors!
>Part of my problem stems from not knowing how to talk to girls in a sense outside that of friendship, and haven't the foggiest idea how to talk to a girl outside of that capacity.
Talk to them as if they are friends. That's all you have to do. If there are any reciprocal feelings "there", you'll realize it. Just get ready for a lot of games if you do start anything.
nods An old friend of mine once told me that the best relationships come from friendship first.
That said, I tend to be ridiculously overly analytical when it comes to looking at the behavior of people I'm not that familiar with (my friends who are girls are either all in a relationship, or completely disinterested in the idea of a relationship with me).