I'm a 28 year old, socially awkward guy who has never had a girlfriend or been on a date. I'm looking for advice on how to get a girlfriend. I'm very geeky; but my friends tell me I'm good looking. I'm into anime, games, science fiction, etc., basically your classic shy awkward geek.
How much do you know about being romantic? Or do you even like romance?
I know about as much as romance manga and relationships in science fiction has taught me, plus I bring my own thing to the table. I guess.
I try to be honest and forward, if I feel certain way about someone, I say so. I make it know. If I get rejected, I move own, and try again another time with another girl. But that's me, you're not me. So what how I act may not work for you.
I know pretty much what I've seen/read in TV, movies, anime and manga. Beyond that I've never been in too terribly romantic a situation either, so I don't know that I have enough experience to even form a basis for liking romance or not.
There are pros and cons to dating someone who was initially a friend. The main benefit is that you already know that person, so you're not going into it blind.
OP here: Yeah, that's long been my fear with dating a friend. I'm somewhat reclusive, so the friends I have I value tremendously.
I have more than my fair share of issues; but I still am hoping to find someone.
You could network more by making a group of friends and going out with them. That's what I did, anyway. As a fellow nerd/all around geek, I understand the difficulty in finding places to go that aren't stereotypical and full of the associated stereotypical women. I actually started making a bunch of friends primarily at conventions, whom I then saw regularly. From there I met other people not necessarily into the same sort of geek culture but still interesting and worthwhile to talk with. Eventually I ran into some available girls and even dated one, then another, all because I began by simply leaving the house and hanging around with people who shared my hobbies.
For reference, I'm currently 22 years old. Only ever had to avoid underage girls when at conventions, as you mentioned. Legal and available women were otherwise easy to come across.
its rare to find guys who arent looking for just a fling these days :(
>>6 I actually just went to a convention over the weekend. I actually do tend to have fun there; but my social anxiety is also in full swing there, and as a result I tend to spend most of my time in my room (last year I spent the con either in the dealers room, or in my room watching Big O while ironing my entire groups wardrobe). I did a bit better this year; but just being around large groups o people like that is enough to wear me down after an hour at most (to be honest, even my weekly anime club can be difficult).