How to avoid, and stand up against the assholes? (school) (90)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2006-09-20 13:00 ID:LuNB+YzE

High school story, the average kind. I have some jerks in my class, that keep harassing others. Usually the ones with less physical, and/or social skills.
One of them kinda bullied me yesterday because I stepped on his shoe by accident after the gym class in the dressing room. Lol what a prick. Just because im shorter than he, and not an asshole. This means that im the nerdy type guy in there, so excellent material for a good day harassment, but thank god they usually leave me alone and go elsewhere, because I have my own crew, and also, im kinda a hikkikomori and simply too "low" material for them.
My questions are: Why are they doing this?
And, what can a socially inept-like guy do against these kind of persons?
Any good insults and comebacks against them? I need verbal self-defense skills. It would be kind of fun too, because our fights are always verbal.

41 Name: Anonymous : 2006-10-12 19:18 ID:TPKXJ6el

He should befriend some sharks with friggin' laser beams on their heads.

42 Name: Anonymous : 2006-10-13 19:52 ID:GYw9u3CG

An important thing to understand is that when you are bullied by a group, the group dynamics can make otherwise decent people complete assholes.
If you have the balls to do it, a nice way to defuse some group bullying situations is to choose a specific target in the group (if you can, someone that looks about your stength), and say that "If any of you guys continue giving me shit, I will hold you (point finger to your target) responsible, and will fuck you up completely some day when you're alone."
Helped me once, and worked 30 years ago for my father who told me about it, but it may not work for you - make sure you understand the ennemy so you won't make things worse.

43 Name: Anonymous : 2006-10-16 02:46 ID:3aB1L5E5

>>41
best advice on /personal/

44 Name: Anonymous : 2006-10-16 03:32 ID:H+MYOSzP

>>43
Yep, Doesnt get any better than that.

45 Name: Anonymous : 2006-10-21 23:43 ID:Heaven

>>44
>>43
>>41

SAME PERSON.

46 Name: heaven : 2006-10-26 10:15 ID:OAQB4cBM

testing

47 Name: Anonymous : 2006-11-04 01:40 ID:8IiEz90S

Don't pick on nerds 'cause they're your future bosses. Hah.

48 Name: Anonymous : 2006-11-13 01:52 ID:DtKwdShH

?

49 Name: Anonymous : 2006-12-31 21:22 ID:WhQPGtkm

if its verbal go with one of two ways
show your intelligence and outsmart them
or
simply go for the sting figure out what he likes and bomb it to oblivion

50 Name: Anonymous : 2007-01-02 05:41 ID:wQaiTrKm

Call the cops on them each and every time. The police will get so tired of coming that they will tell the school to take care of the students or they will be fined for keeping a disordely place.

Bullies do crap for the attention. Ignore them. Dont try to get back at them because thats what they want. They want to show others they can get a rise out of you and a good laugh.

51 Name: Anonymous : 2007-01-02 14:45 ID:wjxGfcnW

If I ever, ever have kids, I'm going to raise them to be fucking awesome kids on the playground. They'll be strong and confident, just like the bullies (more so, because they'll have self-esteem too), except from day 1 I will teach them to love all people, I'll teach them that we're all equal. Every human is wonderful, even the small few who have problems that cause them to be assholes. I'll teach my children to stand up for those who can't stand up for themselves.

My kids are going to be fucking awesome B)

52 Name: devildogmre : 2007-01-14 10:50 ID:Ijhguasw

#47, nice Bill Gates quote there.

Try luring them to a secluded place, away from school, where you've already set up a camera far in the distance. Act upset, wimpy, get the bully to attack you, then bust out the stun gun and fry them!!!!Continue to shake and bake his ass till his eyeballs burn out! Bully will NEVER attack you again. I swear to god. Video works in your favor as long as it is edited properly. Legally, you were defending yourself! You "coldn't control yourself" and were overcome by rage. With you age and the public's current perception of teen issues...you would walk away scott free.

53 Name: Anonymous : 2007-01-14 19:56 ID:XtWDKkAZ

Knock his fucking ass out.

54 Name: fart man : 2007-01-23 09:24 ID:68HYHeWK

tell them u are a gay. they might run away

55 Name: Anonymous : 2007-01-23 21:35 ID:Heaven

troll detector going fucking nuts ITT

56 Name: fart man : 2007-01-25 06:26 ID:68HYHeWK

>>54
or they chase u

57 Name: fart man : 2007-01-31 10:57 ID:68HYHeWK

or u can just stab them with a knife, and eat them.

58 Name: Anonymous : 2007-02-01 04:01 ID:VHvnTKZ5

People say that i look like Drug Dealers. I usually wear camouflage pants, an earth colored T-shirt, got long hair but with a gray hat over it, a bit beard and this fucking huge gray jacked with pockets which my hands is always in them. I also have "tattoos" on my right wrist, but its fake...

I had happened to me a few times where people have asked me if I sell weed. not to mention i don't even touch cigarettes(well, did only once ... or twice). And some classmates are a bit couscous around me. i know it sounds stupid, but i think my looks got me through high school with no problem. never had some one on my case.
yea , once this guy was bothering my cousin, told him to fuck off and he pretty much did. Its great to be in "good" part of the twon , hah!

59 Name: fart man : 2007-02-01 05:01 ID:68HYHeWK

people say that i look like a gay. i usually wear nothing.

i had happen to me a few times where people have asked me if i have sex with guys.

yea, once this guy was bothering my cousin, told him to fuck you and he ran away. its great to be in "good" part of the twon

60 Name: Anonymous : 2007-02-02 04:26 ID:Heaven

>>59

That is very insulting. Don't put yourself in that title. You are worth shit. If I see you on the street, I beat you up to death.

61 Name: Anonymous : 2007-02-03 21:14 ID:1hqmHI1k

>>1

Eric and Dylan had the right idea but went about it in the wrong fashion.

If I ever had kids, I'd teach them how to fight and win just like in Ender's Game. None of this chivalry bullshit. Someone hits you, hit them back until they can not get up and hit you again.

62 Name: Anonymous : 2007-02-03 22:14 ID:Heaven

>>58 here
I loled

63 Name: fart man : 2007-02-05 18:33 ID:68HYHeWK

>>60
relax man, i was just joking. if >>1 say that was insulting, he can beat me up in a street, but not u.

64 Name: Kira : 2007-02-10 08:29 ID:sWu3ihH3

It's because strong likes to prey on weak. You have to become stronger (mentally and physically). Here's what I would do if that happened... Be witty... Play cool... Play around with words etc.

Anyways good luck... I can't help much since there isn't anyone who is bullying me really... So I wouldn't know well.

65 Name: Anonymous : 2007-02-11 07:38 ID:EQBGOw7Y

No one messes with me at school, I am too quiet so people don't really pay attention to me. Sadly, many think I am a faggot and girls ignore me. Oh well...

66 Name: wandering jack : 2007-02-12 00:45 ID:WhQPGtkm

too quiet so people at my school think im "off" just dont let it bother you and if it does introduce them to something hard like a pipe or a fist

67 Name: Nox Puss : 2007-02-15 16:08 ID:COA5huvI

I got bullied for dressing and acting differently. They never took me seriously when I told them I was going to lose my temper, until I actually did. But when I lost my temper and started screaming at them and throwing things around, they just laughed. Now, in their eyes, I'm not just The Goth Chick, I'm The Mentally Disturbed Goth Chick, and I get bullied even more. If you ask me, it's safer to come up with witty replies, and act emotionless.

68 Name: Anonymous : 2007-02-15 17:36 ID:WiFdImNA

>>67
You probably just forgot to hurt them hard in the process. Things that leave scars, or things that hurt for some weeks. If they aren't hurt, they don't care.

As a guy I hate to say this, but you're bullied so whatever... aim for the balls.

But of course, managing to reply and get the upper hand emotionless would be better.

69 Name: Anonymous : 2007-02-17 08:50 ID:HfulfO/B

well you have to earn peoples respect so they dont fuck with you.. either by doing something respectable.. like not giving up on something hard. or simply just tell them the truth like hey what the fuck is wrong with you? why are you messing with this person or that.. as for me, i phyiscally fought people who messed with me.

70 Name: Anonymous : 2007-02-26 16:48 ID:E8lBjAAw

just keep smiling and act like they dont exist.

71 Name: Anonymous : 2007-02-27 08:40 ID:nw58TPYU

I'm a girl and I've experienced bullying from guys. Not because I'm part of the less popular group or whatever, but because I didn't turn out like they expected. When I first moved to the school, they were all cracking on to me, but when I wasn't responsive enough they started being snide and gossipy. Basically, they were used to bimbos and ditzes. It didn't bother me because I never try to pretend to be something that I'm not. Treat everyone equally. Stand your ground. Don't ever think that because they appear more popular, you should talk to them differently or try to assimilate. Then you're just acknowledging that they're better than you, and inviting them to segregate you. At the same time, don't be cocky either. People respect and trust me. You decide who you are, not them.

72 Name: Anonymous : 2007-02-27 12:00 ID:fJ48mYYk

>>17

What he said. Just laugh it off, really.

73 Name: Anonymous : 2007-02-27 17:32 ID:E8lBjAAw

>>71
i would rape you. you may not assimilate, but i will most certainly inseminate.
(this is a personal issue of mine that may deserve its own thread)

74 Name: Anonymous : 2007-02-28 05:32 ID:/15AS9BQ

just a suggestion: if you do get in a fight, get a weapon. knives, a length of pipe, a thick stick, a golf club... it doesn't matter. get something heavy and hard and attack only when they attack you. you will probably get hit in the process, but they will get hurt a lot worse. i have seen a 200lb guy die when hit in the head with a golf club by a guy close to 100lbs. you CAN fuck them up.
the trick is to get it through their thick skulls that if they try to hurt you they are going to get hurt very badly. even if they do end up beating the shit out of you, if they have cuts or a huge bruise on the side of their face they will think twice next time.
people also don't fight to well when they have an inch or two of steel in their gut. it's not fatal, but the look on their face is priceless

75 Name: Anonymous : 2007-02-28 13:27 ID:nw58TPYU

>>73
How poetic.

76 Name: Garamonte : 2007-03-04 14:21 ID:s10a+/jX

Get friends of your own... could save your butts (and can be great meat shields)

77 Name: Anonymous : 2007-03-05 07:27 ID:VHvnTKZ5

BE a mage and have your friends tank and gett all the agro while you can fireballs. A healer (preferably female) is good to.

78 Name: Anonymous : 2007-03-05 07:32 ID:VHvnTKZ5

Have your friends tank, getting all the agro. Also invite a female healer in your group, cast fireballs from distance and have the healer cover the tanks. You should be fine as long as you keep your DPS higher than them for the most part. When they reach 20% have the healer focus on you and go ahead and nuke them, then a DOA and done!

(fixed >>77 , looks like i need to get some sleep)

79 Name: Anonymous : 2007-03-05 09:49 ID:XfMbXD0Z

ummm... I think more realistic way to handle this situation is to stand up for your self, stand up for others, learn to self defend, and always act cool/calm. Well I hope it goes well.

80 Name: A guy that cares : 2007-03-06 02:04 ID:0xveTFOo

nah man... what you need to do is... basically learn some vital spots... the balls... neck... near the chest(by the arpits). Basically since u seem weaker than them... Confront em one on one... Follow them home or w/e... Then as the other guy said... Kick their ass.. Do w/e you have to do... Kick em in the balls... and jab em in the eyes... Since they gang up on you (probably dont beat you up or nething) but its still a gang up... So theres nothing wrong with playin cheap. Neways Get a few of them one on one. But dont stop with just a few kicks or w/e... Make sure u make a big impression... A BIG one. If you dont make em scared enough they will come back at you and prolly jump you.

Im not saying go kill neone... but yea...

That whole "confront your fears and stand up to them" is bullshit... and u will probably just get beaten up. Because most likely you will be like "im not going to stand for this" Then the guy(s) will just look around and see people are expecting something because if he doesnt kick ur ass on the spot... it makes him look bad... I really dont think violence is a good thing... but sometimes its needed.

81 Name: A guy that cares : 2007-03-06 02:06 ID:0xveTFOo

ah by the way... i really didnt real the whole thread... so if something sounds out of place... its because i only saw like the begining and the end... so somone might have suggested this already... and yea... i prolly sound stupid.. but it doesnt turn out like in cartoons where the kid "stands up" and like people are like whoa i better leave him alone.

82 Name: Anonimonte : 2007-03-13 14:30 ID:3U8fm8At

why not create E-mails for each bully and send extremely insulting mails around the school. that way, the bully(s) would get expelled/embarrassed/suspended and then, "BAM!" situation done. and >>80 is right. standing up to them is a bad idea. it would give the bullies more of a reason to bully you.

83 Name: Anonymous : 2007-03-13 15:33 ID:E7Wev7El

bullies do this kind of thing to be more accepted in their own "group", as it's the only way they know to be accepted amongst others of that mindset.

i wouldn't let it escalate into a confrontation, just answer "my bad, oops", and let it go. Don't actually go picking the fight... Avoiding a fight takes much more skill than actually fighting..

should you get into an actual, physical fight, however, it's a different story... if a fight is started, then fight with every intent to end the fight, even if you come out of it hurting... Only stop when the other person isn't continuing his aggression...

84 Name: Baillie : 2007-04-12 00:40 ID:vBoKkquk

i am one of the popular kids and it ticks me off when kids just ignore me when i mouth off to them so just try that!!

85 Name: Anonymous : 2007-04-12 06:46 ID:VHvnTKZ5

never been bullied, never bullied

86 Name: dogmania : 2007-04-25 21:54 ID:ltkWXGoJ

dig your fingers into his eyes and yank them out, that il sho dat bitch

87 Name: pashaw : 2007-04-26 16:55 ID:wQEZutbp

Sacrifice them to the Darklord.

88 Name: cuntcuntcunt. : 2007-04-26 16:56 ID:wQEZutbp

pashaw.

I agree brother.

HAIL SATAN!

89 Name: pashaw : 2007-04-26 16:57 ID:wQEZutbp

I miss my postcards from Hitler.

Someone hold me.

90 Name: cuntcuntcunt. : 2007-04-26 16:57 ID:wQEZutbp

How sad.

:I

I got mine from him last winter.

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