Approaching Women (121)

1 Name: shadow!WqZjpnt2w6 : 2007-09-19 12:28 ID:qTBJXIZr

I'm in a mixed high school... and can't communicate with women...

2 years before it I was in a boys only school. I now can't talk to any girls because I can never think of anything to say. I can talk to men easily because I've been with them before my temporary transfer to the boyschool, so I knew a little about them. But I never knew anything about the girls...

I can communicate with them online because you seem obliged to reply. That and I could think of something to say without looking weird. I try to follow them around, and contribute something if I knew something about the topic, but they usually have that "who the fuck are you?" look on their faces.

I was a girl's lab partner today... and we both acted like robots because we didn't show emotion. Everybody else was enjoying their experiments while she looked like "ugh, I wish I didn't come to school today."

I appear to be normal, my hair is just a bit long. I can't really smile or give a little one because of my braces. I'm not nerdy or anything...

So 4-ch, how can I start communicate with the other gender?

72 Name: Sathvelos!!7dqJVZgC : 2007-11-08 06:33 ID:/8mNHfJr

>>71 yeah good point

73 Name: Anonymous : 2007-11-10 16:11 ID:Ck480BM3

Meet a girl you hate. That will force you to get over the idea that women are a different species that don't share you're language.

74 Name: Anonymous : 2007-11-11 09:29 ID:v1hbs7x2

It doesn't even have to be a girl you hate, it only has to be a girl you don't want to have sex with.

75 Name: Sathvelos!!7dqJVZgC : 2007-11-11 15:25 ID:/8mNHfJr

>>74 they don't exist, unless they are so ugly they look like man. lol, but if thats the case, why would anyone talk to them?

76 Name: shadow!WqZjpnt2w6 : 2007-11-12 08:14 ID:lT/8qYyy

Okay, back to the new girl thing.

I usually see here alone. Should this be a good chance to approach her and try to talk to her and get to know her better?

77 Name: Sathvelos!!7dqJVZgC : 2007-11-12 11:07 ID:/8mNHfJr

>>76 yes.

78 Name: shadow!WqZjpnt2w6 : 2007-11-14 09:52 ID:H7hLRYb5

Now I'm faced with a new problem.

Either play cards with my good friends
Approach the lonely new girl

I think I should give them my cards to play, then approach the girl for the time being.

79 Name: Anonymous : 2007-11-14 09:57 ID:PKdFnfnd

fuck, play all of them.. chances may never come again. make the most dumb fuck

80 Name: Sathvelos!!7dqJVZgC : 2007-11-14 11:33 ID:/8mNHfJr

>>79 agreed. srsly, just go for it. try and get as much poon as possible.

/thread

81 Name: Anonymous : 2007-11-14 13:39 ID:pku9+re2

I thought "new girl" was abducted by the popular clique.
Get your info clear first before you ask for advice.
With the wrong info, you're just asking for wrong advice.
If she is indeed lonely, then the nice thing is to introduce yourself, and then ask if she wants to join your group for lunch. I'm assuming you just have the intention, and want to give the impression of being just friends. If you evidently ditched your group to spend alone time with her, then she and others would think that you want more than friends.

82 Name: shadow!WqZjpnt2w6 : 2007-11-14 21:57 ID:H7hLRYb5

She was abducted by the popular clique, now that they're done "leeching" off her she walks alone.

I was going to tell my friends to play cards without me, because it's my cards so they won't have to be all "grr he hang out with girl"

83 Name: Anonymous : 2007-11-14 22:43 ID:npRYuyy6

I don't understand why inviting her to play cards with your friends is out of the question. Surely if she doesn't know the rules of the game you can teach her, which would be a great ice-breaker.

84 Name: Anonymous : 2007-11-15 01:59 ID:v1hbs7x2

Yum, teaching a girl to play cards. Resting lightly behind her with my arms around her, pointing at the cards, whispering hints in her ear while the sweet smell of her shampoo plays with my senses. Obsess

85 Name: Sathvelos!!7dqJVZgC : 2007-11-15 02:47 ID:/8mNHfJr

>>84 lol

>>83 good point. shadow!WqZjpnt2w6 should do this... just dont let it become a competition between friends to get into her pants.

86 Name: Anonymous : 2007-11-15 03:44 ID:pku9+re2

>>85
Does OP even want to get into her pants?

If all else fails, remember bros before hoes.

87 Name: shadow!WqZjpnt2w6 : 2007-11-15 08:42 ID:H7hLRYb5

Great! This thread has really helped me so far.

I'll try tommorow, was busy today.

88 Name: Sathvelos!!7dqJVZgC : 2007-11-15 12:23 ID:/8mNHfJr

>>86 well i would assume so. and yes, bros before hoes UNLESS you actually have an opportunity to get into her pants for real lol

89 Name: Anonymous : 2007-11-15 12:43 ID:pku9+re2

>>88
Guys misreading friendship zones as "opportunities", as well as devious girls waving enough just bait to keep you hanging, is a sad fact of life.

90 Name: Sathvelos!!7dqJVZgC : 2007-11-15 13:01 ID:/8mNHfJr

>>89 indeed. but at least some people/OP are trying, rather than not doing anything because its "a waste of time". you never know, he could get lucky

91 Name: shadow!WqZjpnt2w6 : 2007-11-15 21:44 ID:H7hLRYb5

Well, I would let her play cards but I don't want to stop her from getting other friends.

92 Name: Anonymous : 2007-11-16 00:02 ID:npRYuyy6

>>91
But you said in >>82 that she now walks alone again. So nobody is stepping up to be her friend so you and your group should if you want any kind of chance. Even if its just being friends she'll be glad to have people make an effort to get to know her.

93 Name: Sathvelos!!7dqJVZgC : 2007-11-16 03:23 ID:/8mNHfJr

>>91 if you let her play cards with you it doesnt mean your "claiming" her as a definate part of your group. if she doesnt bother to try and make more friends other than yours than thats her problem and her choice.

94 Name: Anonymous : 2007-11-16 08:21 ID:TrkqXTWs

This boy lusting pedophile is amused by this thread.

When the ice melts, the man who can't ice skate laughs hardest, lol.

95 Name: shadow!WqZjpnt2w6 : 2007-11-20 21:54 ID:H7hLRYb5

And just when I thought it was safe for me to talk to her, she gets abducted by the popular groups.

There's another new girl, she walks alone more often and I want to talk to her. Though, when she passes by, I don't have the guts to move and talk...

96 Name: Sathvelos!!7dqJVZgC : 2007-11-21 03:00 ID:/8mNHfJr

just do it, you'll probably get rejected at first but think of it as practice.

97 Name: shadow!WqZjpnt2w6 : 2007-12-01 10:52 ID:7NcUAkwa

Okay, so I tried.

walks towards new girl
closer
closer
closer

walks away

98 Name: shadow!WqZjpnt2w6 : 2007-12-01 10:55 ID:7NcUAkwa

Whoa, I didn't know putting asterisks around words would make them italic.

99 Name: Anonymous : 2007-12-01 10:58 ID:GBSnplh+

*WTF?

100 Name: Anonymous : 2007-12-01 10:58 ID:GBSnplh+

WTF?

101 Name: Anonymous : 2007-12-01 10:58 ID:GBSnplh+

WHAT THE FUCK?

102 Name: Anonymous : 2007-12-01 11:07 ID:npRYuyy6

>>97

Erm that would look really weird if somebody walked up to me but then just walked away.

103 Name: shadow!WqZjpnt2w6 : 2007-12-02 21:37 ID:jkTFpcVK

>>102

I walk up to them behind them. It's like Jaws, eating an unsuspecting person just like that.

104 Name: Anonymous : 2007-12-03 03:00 ID:v1hbs7x2

Eating? That's for much, much later.

105 Name: Anonymous : 2007-12-03 03:35 ID:KtN7Fz/R

1>> You're going to have to just man up and get practice in being rejected. You have to hit on women so much that being rejected doesn't bother you anymore. The mall or other teen hangout is a good place. I used to hit on cute girls in the drive-in windows at fast food restaurants. It doesn't matter how, but you have to get over your fear of rejection.

Girls smell fear.

106 Name: shadow!WqZjpnt2w6 : 2007-12-03 12:07 ID:Fcx1a1Zc

>>105

Awesome.

I had a great day today, I felt unusually happy. Though I didn't approach that girl, but I tried to follow her and say hello, but failed...

I must gather my courage!

107 Name: Anonymous : 2007-12-03 17:02 ID:BEE3g8MS

>>106
stalker stalker stalker stalker stalker stalker stalker stalker stalker stalker stalker stalker stalker stalker stalker stalker

108 Name: shadow!WqZjpnt2w6 : 2007-12-03 22:10 ID:Fcx1a1Zc

109 Name: shadow!WqZjpnt2w6 : 2007-12-03 22:11 ID:Fcx1a1Zc

110 Name: Anonymous : 2007-12-08 11:14 ID:pku9+re2

>>105
That is lame. Whilst it is important to be able to get over rejection, that is the worst possible way to go about it. Soon you'll earn the reputation of being a desperate fuck that would nail anything that walked on two legs. With that reputation, you're just setting yourself up for rejection and more failure.
OP will just have another reason for girls to not like him.

111 Name: Anonymous : 2007-12-08 12:49 ID:npRYuyy6

>>110

It depends if the women know each other. If you just go round at school and hit on every girl you see then yes you will be labelled as desperate. If you are out in town then women aren't going to know each other so you can talk to as many as you want because they're always coming and going. If they see you trying to hit on a girl and then going to them then again yes they will see you as desperate. But you just have to sit and wait a few minutes for people to walk off and then try with new women.

112 Name: Dr. X : 2007-12-08 21:45 ID:Ch3A/Ai6

I bet you never had a friend as a girl
I bet you never kissed a girl
I bet you never hugged one either
But that is my assumption.

You want to get better at something, practice it! The first is always hard, but it will be the greatest experience you will ever have. The more you do it, the more confidence you have and girl loves confidence. Also, ask something about themselves likes where did you get those shoes, what do you think about class, stuff like that. Most girls always talk, so if you just talk to one, they can't help it but just to talk back.

113 Name: Anonymous : 2007-12-09 13:01 ID:pku9+re2

>>111

Perhaps it could work at a club/pub scene...but I doubt OP is a person to socialise there. Even then, word spreads pretty quickly between girls/women. You shouldn't underestimate the level of their networking.

114 Name: Anonymous : 2007-12-09 15:43 ID:npRYuyy6

>>111 here

I suppose it also depends on what you are actually doing with these women. If you are just presenting yourself as a sociable guy trying to make friends then it's not so desperate; you could get away with working your way round a pub because you're not picking up women you're just having a fun time.

115 Name: Kira : 2007-12-10 09:28 ID:3NUpfweN

You can find many girl... The question lies with finding a "good" girl.

116 Name: Anonymous : 2007-12-10 11:57 ID:v1hbs7x2

>>115 speaks the truth, and kills criminals for JUSTICE.

117 Name: Anonymous : 2007-12-10 13:56 ID:Heaven

>>116
lol..

118 Name: Anonymous : 2007-12-11 13:12 ID:Heaven

When you think about it, Kira is just Batman on a larger scale.

119 Name: Anonymous : 2007-12-12 14:11 ID:Heaven

>>118
Ha. Howabout....no?

120 Name: Anonymous : 2007-12-19 12:49 ID:L10QHUOO

>>2
Girls are not human just act like you give a fuck about what their saying say "yea def" alot and smile and look them in their eye and be charming and show maners then they might give you their number and then you fuck em leave and call em again if you get horny.

121 Name: Anonymous : 2007-12-19 20:36 ID:Heaven

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