I currently work with a group of people that I only met in the last few months. We were all brought in to do casual work for a project for 6 months. We are on a work-for-the-dole program, so we are all unemployed.
I got to know this chick, she is really nice, she's very kind and sweet and is very patient when you ask her for some help etc.
But recently, I've been getting a little suspicious that she's not all she says she is.
She seems, at times, to be a bit of a chameleon, in that, anything we're talking about, or is the latest thing I or someone else is into, she seems to know something about it. Now, that's fair enough, I myself am like that with a few subjects, but it her other things I wonder about.
Her stories seem to be getting wilder, or more dramatic as I get to know her. She says she lives with her boyfriend and they recently moved into a house. Fair enough, but I've asked to see pictures of him and she says that "he doesn't like getting his picture taken". Now fair enough, I know pople like that, but they at least have one photo, even if it's candid. So I believe she has a boyfriend, but he description of him (quite nice looking, european looks), may not be what it is.
We were talking about pregnancy a while ago, and she was talking about how they couldn't afford it blah blah blah. Suddenly, 3 or 4 weeks later she tells me she's pregnant. Now she's telling me there is a possibility that she's having twins.
She says she owns a hotel (I believe that, she's shown me pictures, but maybe...) but recently...omg, it was robbed! And then the culprits turned out to be...a rival hotel! And they were fined, like $1,000,000 of that countries currency! It's a little hollywood ya know? (Btw, she explains it well, and makes it sound very concievable that she owns the hotel, due to the countries status as third/second world)
So the recent one is that her partner's father went into hospital, and they did all these scans and tests and couldn't find out what was wrong. Finally, they told him that he had appendicits. She then says that it was many hours later (at least 6 I think) that he was finally operated on when it finally got done, and just as it was removed and in the dish, it burst.
Now I know that it is sometimes difficult to diagnose appendicitis is elderly men, but they usually operate ASAP becuase they know that it can burst at the start of an infection, or after a long time that it is infected. But most doctors won't take that chance because they infections brought on after one has burst internally are horrible.
And a appendix is tiny, how the hell does one burst after it's remvoed with no blood flow etc.
Is she bull shitting me? How can I catch her out on it? Can an appendix burst AFTER it's removed?
I'm not a doctor so I can't tell you anything about the appendix. Also I'm answering to this thread, assuming you aren't lying either, because there is nothing to gain from lying about this other than a laugh, I'm going to go ahead and assuming you aren't lying.
However the whole story about her boyfriend, house, and hotel and all. It's possible to tangle her up in her web of lies.
One thing is to wait nine months and see if a baby pops out, now her boyfriend ought to show up at the hospital. But I'm guessing you don't want to wait nine months.
Do you happen to know the name of the hotel? And have a chat with the manager. Can't help you without any more information on what you know about the hotel.
How can she know that there's a possibility of twins this early?
Why would you hang out with someone like that? People who excessively bullshit in order to make themselves feel like they belong or are wanted are generally really insecure.
Try to think of some topic that you are really familiar with. I've seen this bullshitting done so many times with drug users and I always call them out on it. shit like methamphetamine causes holes in brain, spinal fluid lsd, etc. It's always entertaining to see how they react, "well my buddies buddy said so who knows" is the lines I've gotten quite a lot
So are you going to try and catch her in a lie?
If you don't know what to say, then it can be tricky to ask the right questions without having the person catch on to your suspicions. Perhaps you have another coworker that might be charismatic, witty, brainy, or just have a lot of specific/general knowledge (about anything that could help)? They might be willing to assist you, even if you don't tell them exactly what you need help with.
It's actually been a few months now, so it is possible.
Thanks for the advice guys. I'll get back to you on the name of the hotel, and I'll suss it out.
just go with the flow and be VERY accepting, have her think you are total idiot. never tell anyone about her stories so she trusts in telling you more bullshit. and at some point that she really started to sound ridiculous tell her that she fucking stupid.
I'll wager she "miscarries" before too long.