Totally self-conscious about what others think of me (10)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2007-10-26 02:30 ID:9STFr/x6

I care way too much about what others think of me. I get offended very easily by even the slightest infraction and am especially sensitive to when people call me stupid. Needless to say this has impacted my social abilities quite a bit. Sometimes on forums I also get easily hurt and offended when people disagree with me in arguments, insulting my viewpoints even though I know that logic is on my side. I think it's me being more afraid of the possibility that I'm wrong even though I know that there's a 99.9% chance that I'm right anyway.

HELP ME 4-CH!

2 Name: Anonymous : 2007-10-26 02:34 ID:xoJu3tf/

you're a fucking retard
i hate people like you and hope you die

3 Name: Anonymous : 2007-10-26 02:56 ID:9STFr/x6

>>2

Lol.

Sorry. Takes a bit more than that to get under my skin Anonymousu-chan.

4 Name: Anonymous : 2007-10-28 19:48 ID:0WRLpILG

>>1
I have the same problem, I care too much. Especially after having a day full of conversations, when i lay on the bed and think about the day, I even starting to tremble when i discover how fool i was when i said or did that. i am desperate

5 Name: Anonymous : 2007-10-28 21:36 ID:HksyinXA

Similar problem here. I take it all to personally. I'm a perfectionist and for every mistake I dwell on and analyse it like forever. Because of it I also procrastinate a lot. Even when I scold myself for it, tell myself it's not that bad and that nobody cares to much about that mistake - it wont go away! It can take days for me to let go.

I wrote it off to insecurity and poor self-confidence. Ever since I try to express myself as I am and show as much of my personality as I'm comfortable to. But most importantly I stopped comparing myself to others, stopped comparing my achievements to theirs and my success in life with theirs. I decided to live for myself and those unfortunate enough to be nearby :)

6 Name: Oblivionistheanswertoall : 2007-10-28 21:42 ID:d55OnhHV

Sounds like AVPD (avoidance personality disorder)..well not completely but you do show some symptomps:

hypersensitive: crashing down after someone insults you
low self-esteem:

etc etc..

tell me you like people and you got out much,etc etc if not. GOOD LUCK.i won't wish AVPD on my worst enemies (i have avpd:s)

7 Name: Anonymous : 2007-10-28 22:46 ID:dI5M4rot

>>5

dear god teach me how you stopped comparing yourself to others

8 Name: Anonymous : 2007-10-29 01:23 ID:DDt7EKHT

Eh, another one here.

I wouldn't be surprised if it was AVPD, as I'm pretty sure I have that already.

Comparing myself and my achivements to others has always helped me strive to do better and become #1. Not sure if that's a good or bad thing, though...

9 Name: Anonymous : 2007-10-30 13:09 ID:HksyinXA

>>7 Some people can become better by comparing themselves to others and trying to do better - like >>8 To me it presented a burden and a big source of stress. Competing and trying to be better and have more than others is not my thing. I took me one (1) whole year of reading many self-help & motivational blogs and books (like Dale Carnegie's books) to finally kick it into my head that everything I decide to do should be for my own goals. What are my own goals? So I worked on that for a while. The trick with determining my own goals is that all of a sudden I have a plan and a vision of what I want to do. There is no more comparing to others and how well off I am compared to them. There's just my goals and my plan and my estimation on how well I'm fulfilling it. My current efforts include some health related issues, a financial plan and I'm working on one particular personal issue I want to resolve as it stands in my plans way. I also determined what I want in the long run and am taking steps to get there. I have a vision of my future and it's my vision, it's not somebody else's vision I need to compare to and try to beat that person by getting there before them. This is how I did it, >>7, I hope this post helped :)

10 Name: nanashi774 : 2007-11-02 05:24 ID:bMaJ6ihQ

yeah sounds like avoidant personality disorder to me. i've got that to the point where i never leave the house. dunno any treatment for it, and don't really care. i like my life.

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