I thought that I had left my hikikomori lifestyle for good. I started going out, made a friend, and have been having a great time these past few months. The friend I made, however, is driving me insane.
She's a typical attractive female. She uses her looks to get what she wants from men, cheats on her boyfriends ("What he doesn't know won't hurt him!"), is entirely unreliable, is constantly late, always feels a need to defend herself even when no insult is being made, relies entirely on other people's kindness to survive (Food, clothes, etc)... It's horrible. I've been listening to her rant about how annoying her boyfriend is for the past three months, and she finally broke it off about two weeks ago. I admit, the guy was a douche. I'd constantly hear him making fun of her and arguing with her, calling her a bitch, etc. But now, he's been nice since she broke up with him, and she's trying to get back with him. She even wants to move in with him! Honestly, how dense do you have to be?
I'm so sick of it! I don't want to deal with her horrible choices anymore. Our friendship is entirely based on conversation, rather than activities, so I doubt that there's anything I can do to change it. I've told her that it bothers me to hear about her men, and all she does is adds a "I know you don't want to hear this, but..." before each sentence!
So, do I go back to being a hikikomori for x-amount of years, or do I put up with her, just to keep from not being alone?
Make more friends, even use her to expand your friend circle. Once you have friends that you feel more comfortable to be around keep some distance from her. It is not necessary to get rid of her, just keep some distance.
dont entirely get rid of her. i agree with >>2. keep her at a distance. when your not with her/not busy you should go do some activities that interest you and make some more friends. try to make some male friends, they are less likely to be bitches and wont use you to make themselves feel good about themselves like this girl is.
dont let her use you because thats what she is doing. your the "nice friend that doesnt want to fuck her". wrong, your nice, but you want to fuck her. she just using you so she can say "im not a decieving despicable lieing cheating slut whore, because if i was, a <insert OP's name here> wouldnt hang out with me, because hes so nice". face the facts man, your being used as a tool so she can feel better about herself. but dont let that get to you. trust me, as an ex-hikikomori i know how painful it is to be alone in a room. you need to get out more and in the process you will meet more interesting people ad befriend them. i for example decided to go to an anime club thing and met people there.
OP here.
>>2 The only friends that she has are her boy-toys, which I certainly doesn't want to be associated with. Using her as a pathway to friendship doesn't seem like a very realistic idea, however I will try to keep my distance from her.
>>3 I'm a girl, but I agree that she may be using me as her safety net of sorts. I mean, I tell her when she does something wrong. "Hey, that's mean, you shouldn't have done that, I think less of you," but I suppose that just telling her dirty little secrets to someone might make her feel better.
I'll keep my distance, and try to make some new friends through other means.