Hate meeting new people (5)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2007-11-07 02:52 ID:aTOYTw4N

I'll start by saying I'm 17 years old and a senior in high school right now. I'm not a loser or anything since I got a lot of friends and I'm on the basketball team. I guess you can say I'm shy since I don't really open up to people untill I know them, but that's the thing, I just hate meeting new people. I just can't start coversations with people I don't know. Even if we have something in common or I can relate to them somehow, nothing comes out. I've tried starting coversations before but they really don't go anywhere and end quickly.

I'm not really an outgoing guy or anything, but I can be pretty funny and talk a lot around people I know. But if I'm meeting a friend's friend or something like that, I just don't have anything to say to them and just keep talking to my friend or don't say anything at all. At parties where I don't know a lot of people it's like I can't even stand being in the same room as everyone else. I feel so out of place and I get the feeling that everyone thinks I'm some sort of loser or something. Whenever my friends bring up the idea of meeting up with people I don't know I get pissed off and just feel like going home. I don't know what to do.

2 Name: Anonymous : 2007-11-07 23:23 ID:wDjwPlR4

well why not start with a simple hello, talk about a subject in school, an anoying teacher, about the weather , how your friend beacame friends with the person he introduces you to.
I mean just say something and you will probably get a response and then slowly start a conversation....I mean it´s not like you are talking to walls and peaople often respond to a question and such. And if the conversation dies and you tried to keep it up then that means that the person you are talking to isn´t the talkative type....

Sorry for long post.....

3 Name: Anonymous : 2007-11-09 09:41 ID:06WPFnTq

You say that you hate meeting new people, but do you WANT to meet new people? If you're content with your current group of friends, there's no reason to meet new people. It's fine to turn down offers of meeting friend's friends. It can cause a lot of tension in your friendships if you don't like the person. You don't really sound like the party type, so just try to avoid large parties if possible.

If you really WANT to meet new people, try doing activites in which you don't have to hold conversations in order to have a fun time. For example, play pool, see a movie, enter a videogame tournament, etc. It would stress anyone out to be in a situation where they're expected to hold conversations with total strangers, particularly when you feel inclined to like them due to a mutual friend.

4 Name: Anonymous : 2007-11-09 17:29 ID:TbxOTjeF

As you grow older you'll find yourself in more and more situations where you have to deal with talking to strangers, and it's a lot more fun for you if you actually manage a nice conversation with the other person rather than just exchanging monosyllabic words.

5 Name: Anonymous : 2007-11-10 16:02 ID:K52mLT42

If you can't talk about what interests you, talk about something that interests them that you're clueless about. You'll get to learn something if nothing else.
I've also found that wearing T-shirts that are humorous and express something about you are a great way to get people with similar interests to start talking to you.

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