Hey /personal/.
I have a relatively common and simple problem, I suppose, compared to what the other threads here seem to be about.
Often, I decide I want to spend a day working hard on whatever it is I want to get done, only to waste said day on stuff like browsing the Internet and realizing in the evening that I hardly did anything useful at all. I'm not sure whether I should call myself lazy or just easily distracted, but an obvious fact is that I don't have enough of a spine to make myself do what I should.
This seemingly compulsive procrastination is very bothersome, but the problem extends somewhat further than that. I general, I have trouble keeping promises I make to myself. For another example, I also decided that I should fap less, and tried to implement a once-every-two-days schedule starting with today as the first day of abstinence. But needless to say, I failed that already. And a similar pattern shows whenever I have large amounts of candy near me. (I see to it that I rarely do.)
In short, I lack discipline. Any advice on how to strengthen my willpower?
Military?
That's what I would do, except that they have this obnoxious habit of not accepting people who can't pass a psychological exam.
thats cause no one gives a fuck.
>>2
Joining the military?
Er, no thanks. It would probably be a good way to learn discipline, but I have other plans for my future. I'm also a bit of a pacifist. And if it comes to real-life combat, probably a useless coward who would only get in the way.
Only a small fraction of military jobs involve actual combat, you know.
Rear-echelon positions are a lot like civilian jobs, only the standard of conduct is more strict and you go to work every day wearing a uniform.
>>1
I have the exact same problem. And to an extent where I can't even keep jobs or study. I've always had this, and it would seem that no matter how I try I can't work around or over it.
>>1 You and I are the same. I've tried setting general schedules for the past three weeks and failed at following them every time. What I've determined that I need to do is schedule every hour for the next week, dedicating each to a particular task, and then follow it verbatim.
My issues are that I usually say "I'll have time to do it later" (And I do often get lucky enough to cram hard enough to just barely make it), and that I have this idea that when I set out to do a task that is required of me, it will be something I won't enjoy or it'll be a bad experience in general.
I'm not sure how I got tot his point, but the only way I can see myself changing is to be that rigorous with my schedule for awhile.
>>5
I see. I suppose I could think about that.
>My issues are that I usually say "I'll have time to do it later" (And I do often get lucky enough to cram hard enough to just barely make it), and that I have this idea that when I set out to do a task that is required of me, it will be something I won't enjoy or it'll be a bad experience in general.
Same here. We're indeed very much the same.
Exercising helps. It gets your blood flowing, giving you more energy and making you more motivated to do productive things. Once you get that initial spark of motivation, getting things done is a lot easier.
Stop.
Thinking.
And.
Do.
It.
Seriously.
Try to catch yourself when doing something that you need self control for but aren't useing.. like yelling in the street, dont.
If you are posting here, you are procrastinating.
The best thing we could do for OP right now, is to stop posting in his thread.
I'm not procrastinating because I checked my @Action list this morning and it turned out the first thing I had to do today was to check 4-ch.
That is the exact description of myself. I have a painting due tomorrow (I have had 2 entire weeks to do it), and an essay (had 3 whole days, it shouldn't take that long) plus a whole bunch of other shit. But I have been completely putting them out of my mind... keep thinking I have time and I can cram it in the last minute, or if I start on it I'm sure the whole day will be ruined so I won't do it... Endless reasons not to do something.
It's particularly bad because I'm repeating a school year this year and a part of me is arrogant and overconfident - I know all this stuff, why do I have to redo it? This is such a pain etc. - I just don't have that drive I used to have, that curiosity that led me to doing my work because I want to see what happens after that. I haven't even washed since the day before yesterday because I keep putting it off for nothing...
Banning myself from the computer doesn't always help, it ends up in me wasting time reading books or worst of all, lying on bed emoing/sleeping/getting sweaty.
But on the rare occasions that I have felt productive, it has always involved:
It's your environment. Go to a library to do your work.
And instead of promising yourself that you'll do something, tell one of your friends. Just go up to them and say "I promise that I will finish X by tomorrow, and if I don't then I owe you ten dollars."