figurative revenge (13)

1 Name: TS : 2008-04-20 10:57 ID:4HFsGH6T

hey all.

before college, a lot of people i knew would tease me or look down on me for a lot of things. i never wore nice clothes, parents rarely let me go outside, etc. in short, i had nothing to brag; no skills, no crazy talents. i spent my days playing video games.

now in college, i've discovered several things i have a passion for; art, music, even programming, which is tough as hell for me. i want to pursue these things, but i have little time in college.

my main goal is to show these people in the not too distant future that i've gone from ugly duckling to beautiful swan. i want them to be jealous of me, i want them to be shocked at how much i've changed, i want to hear 'holy shit is that you? you can do these things? that's amazing!'

what if they arent impressed? what if it lasts for only a moment? who cares. because regardless, i've become a better person.

what are your thoughts everyone?

2 Name: Anonymous : 2008-04-20 12:12 ID:GlkEiWKu

personally i think it's a piss poor reason to better yourself, although the reason doesn't really matter as long as it motivates you into doing things.

3 Name: Anonymous : 2008-04-20 20:15 ID:XJAa/p2K

I suppose its an alright motivation to start improving yourself, but it's not really a long-term motivational tool. For the last 2 months I've been weight training, and look better already. I don't just do it for looks, I do actually really enjoy the challenge of it and tracing my improvement over the weeks. Sometimes I may feel a bit half-assed before a workout, but what pushes me forward at those points is a mild form of "I'll show them!" motivation, but its only a temporary thing to get me going. Once I'm going I realise that actually its fun to improve myself even if its only for me rather than other people.

Also, I'm guessing those people who saw you as an ugly duckling didn't really pay you much attention even when you were in school with them every day. What makes you think they will be paying attention to you after a few years of college? I can't really imagine the bunch of you getting together, and if you just bump into some of them in the street they aren't exactly going to realise that you've improved yourself and actually got good at art, music etc. You need to have spent time with the person to see the change - friends are more likely to realise than people who didn't care about you in high school.

4 Name: Anonymous : 2008-04-20 20:44 ID:czEfQ/uj

I think it's a great trigger, but not a so great motivation.

But then again, I think that you saw yourself as an ugly duckling, and you're going to do your best to see you can be a beautiful swan. The fact that on the way it'll show them is just a bonus.

Better yourself and be proud of yourself. If you have the will to do it, you deserve it.

5 Name: Anonymous : 2008-04-20 21:34 ID:rAcL/6tm

If this is what gives you the initial drive to better yourself, then it can only be considered a positive thing, but you might find it a little dissapointing if you continue to judge yourself by their standards. It sounds like you've come a long way already, but if you could find pride in yourself, you will really find it more enjoyable.

To be honest, if they would tease you or look down on you, they don't sound like the nicest people anyway, so they would be unlikely to congratulate you sincerely on any changes you make. Do you really want approval from that kind of person?

what if they arent impressed? what if it lasts for only a moment? who cares. because regardless, i've become a better person.
That's the spirit. I wish you the best of luck in achieving your goals, especially programming, which you say you find difficult. It seems there aren't many people willing to approach subjects they find difficult with enthusiasm, so I salute you for this.

6 Name: Anonymous : 2008-04-20 21:44 ID:Heaven

It's great that you found out some of your talents, but it's rather showing of your great lack of common sense to exploit yourself by proving it to others. Just stick with your studies.

7 Name: Anonymous : 2008-04-20 21:48 ID:rQwQy1CR

The best revenge is living well, unless you're Charles Bronson and your entire family has just been murdered in cold blood by drug dealing street thugs.

8 Name: Charles : 2008-04-20 22:36 ID:Heaven

>>7

Anon, I thought we agreed to stop talking about that!!! :'<

9 Name: Anonymous : 2008-04-21 17:02 ID:A34MR3Ep

You'll stop caring about their opinions as you start kicking more and more ass at life. Yeah, it's fun to daydream about running into them and showing them how much more amazing your life is than theirs, but most of the time you will be too busy having fun to care.

10 Name: Anonymous : 2008-04-21 17:04 ID:Heaven

>>9
QFT

11 Name: Anonymous : 2008-04-27 04:01 ID:A1yW6Ls5

Want to really impress them? V-Tech just kicked in, Cho

Oops, this isn't /b/...

12 Name: Anonymous : 2008-04-27 13:11 ID:/OaEANvp

Yeah, I can understand how that feeling might kick in every now and then. But don't dwell on it. Having your main goal in life be holding up every action you make against those of others = welcome to depression city. There's always someone better than you. Take it easy, keep focused on the satisfaction of improving yourself and your self-esteem. Bring your perceptions of other people into it and you risk all those feelings of inferiority, jealousy, alienation, loathing and self-loathing bla bla.

Do it for yourself, not "them". It sounds like you worry a lot about what other people think - I'm the same way, so maybe not the best to give advice - but if that's the case, just remember that what's bothering you is your own idea of what they might be thinking, or your own perceptions of them. The way you think people see you is probably grossly out of proportion, since they're probably more fixated on their own lives than judging yours and yourself as a person. So yeah, just focus on self improvement and the good feeling you get from it, anything else at this point is probably just meaningless bogging yourself down.

13 Name: TS : 2008-05-11 06:18 ID:4HFsGH6T

thank you everyone!

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