I have no friends! (100)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2008-06-14 22:45 ID:p9Mzo7Rz

The title says it all, while everyone is planning trips with their friends this summer, I'll be alone in my room...again. How do I make friends without going out and getting myself killed? (I have a slight fear of leaving the house). Failing tips, anyone want to chat? I'm really lonely after 3 straight years of doing this.

2 Name: GOD : 2008-06-14 23:08 ID:MJhWsvoQ

Can you say me your name young man? I might be able to check your name in the universal computer 42 and change your situation...

3 Name: Friend-chan : 2008-06-15 00:15 ID:jw3qNd9C

Lonely-chan, i'll be your friend.

4 Name: Anonymous : 2008-06-15 01:02 ID:Heaven

I'll be your friend too.

5 Name: Anonymous : 2008-06-15 03:10 ID:ep+eFHvf

Don't worry, we are all friends here! Let's plan some virtual fun!

6 Name: PK : 2008-06-15 03:53 ID:I7S1DN5l

I've got the snacks!

7 Name: Dusty-chan : 2008-06-15 05:16 ID:sjQUI3A6

Ah, that's how I feel sometimes OP

Try to develop an interesting hobby to keep your mind off the loneliness, it really helps

8 Name: Lonely-chan : 2008-06-15 06:59 ID:p9Mzo7Rz

Thanks you guys, really means a lot to me :) I have a lot of hobbies (I play 4 instruments, sing, dance, play games, watch anime, the list goes on) but I think my fear of leaving the house really doesn't help.

I'm a reasonably nice guy though and my dream is to go and volunteer helping kids, maybe I could meet people through there?

9 Name: Anonymous : 2008-06-15 07:11 ID:1mFI9+Ep

If you have trouble leaving the house and feel lonely, I suggest you read the following book. "Hope and help for your nerves" I had the exact same problem years ago and that book helped me out alot.

10 Name: Lonely-chan : 2008-06-15 08:06 ID:p9Mzo7Rz

>>9
Thanks, I'd love to but I'm stuck in a vicious circle, I'm too scared to leave the house to get a job which would give me money to leave the house, etc. I'll take a look for it online and see what comes up though.

11 Name: Friend-chan : 2008-06-15 08:42 ID:jw3qNd9C

We have similar hobbies Lonely-chan. You could definitely meet people through there.

12 Name: Anonymous : 2008-06-15 13:05 ID:fX2rajOZ

try contacting your old friends(you must have friends at some point right?) even if you haven't talk to them for ages. some of them should willing to get together and catch up with you. then ask them to introduce you to their friends

13 Name: PK : 2008-06-15 15:09 ID:I7S1DN5l

Best way to overcome your fear is to confront it straight on. Force yourself to go outside. Make plans with old friends, volunteer at a local organization for helping needy children, or even take a walk. You'll eventually find that you have nothing to be afraid of in the outside world.

14 Name: Anonymous AKA !5EJ71eKlNQ : 2008-06-15 16:35 ID:ep+eFHvf

>>11

Yeah, everyone we should all do something together, like start a forum or something for Lonely-chan.

15 Name: Anonymous : 2008-06-15 18:19 ID:p9Mzo7Rz

>>12
>>13
I'm gonna give this a big try, I might have to sign up on Facebook or something to find them. I lost a lot of people when I moved so maybe they still want to talk?

>>14
You guys really are the greatest :)

16 Name: Lonely-chan : 2008-06-16 19:08 ID:p9Mzo7Rz

Great success is upon us!

I took a leap and asked a guy if he wanted to do something this weekend. He was like "uhh no I'm going camping this weekend" so I was about to frown until he said "so do you wanna come with us?". I can't believe I got invited out somewhere, this is like winning the lottery for me. But the problem (as some of you may have guessed) is that I'm not just going outside, but out into the woods with a bunch of guys that could be thinking negative thoughts. I hope I'm going to be ok...

17 Name: PK : 2008-06-16 20:15 ID:I7S1DN5l

Congratulations!

What do you mean by "thinking negative thoughts?"

18 Name: Anonymous : 2008-06-16 20:45 ID:Heaven

>>16
Thinking negative thoughts? I'm pretty sure they don't care.

19 Name: Anonymous AKA !5EJ71eKlNQ : 2008-06-16 21:44 ID:IMOkXmhb

Yay! Lonely-chan! Give us some updates on the trip, when you get back!

20 Name: Lonely-chan : 2008-06-16 22:30 ID:p9Mzo7Rz

>>17
>>18
>>19
Thanks everyone for supporting me, I'll be sure to post updates :) and by thinking negative thoughts I meant perhaps they're thinking of taking me into the forest to fight me or something. I hope not though, it would be great to be out with people again.

21 Name: PK : 2008-06-17 04:35 ID:I7S1DN5l

I don't think that would happen. That's probably due to your fear of the outside. I'm sure you'll be okay!

22 Name: Anonymous : 2008-06-20 20:23 ID:ZsX5n1ht

I wonder when Lonely's going to get back...

23 Name: Lonely-chan : 2008-06-21 19:13 ID:p9Mzo7Rz

Sorry, I haven't had much news recently, except I'm no longer going camping. I don't know why not but I'm hurting pretty bad from it. The only good news is that I left home alone today:

I went out to hand out CVs for a new job because I could do with the cash, so I walked 2 miles into town and although most stores had 0 vacancies one I went to took my CV and a really pretty girl kept smiling and blushing when I spoke to her, something tells me I'm not the only one that would be happy if I get this job... Then on the way home I stopped off at the site of a new Sikh Temple and ate a picnic before heading home. It was a beautiful day out and I wasn't expecting everyone to smile and say hello to me as I walked. This has given me a lot of hope to try this again soon.

Nevertheless, on another Friday night spent alone basking in the glow of my monitor, I still wish I had someone to be with or talk to. Loneliness, for me, strikes hardest after I realise what I could have but how empty my life is.

Oh well, sitting at home feeling sorry for myself isn't going to help.

I love you all and thanks for caring!

24 Name: Anonymous : 2008-06-21 21:18 ID:MJhWsvoQ

>>23 I'm sorry mate it didn't work out. At least you tried, better luck next time!

25 Name: Anonymous : 2008-06-21 22:12 ID:p9Mzo7Rz

>>24
Thanks, I spoke to him sometime between me posting that and this and he said we'll meet up sometime after he gets back. I don't want to jinx it but I'm looking forward to it.

If there's anyone out there that wouldn't mind cheering me up please feel free to ask for my email address. I don't mind what gender, etc as long as you really want to chat and not just have me talk my ass off :P

26 Name: Anonymous : 2008-06-23 10:47 ID:3ViBKP8D

^ age & gender = ?

27 Name: Anonymous AKA !5EJ71eKlNQ : 2008-06-23 18:49 ID:ep+eFHvf

>>25
Sure, I wouldn't mind talking. What is it?

28 Name: Anonymous : 2008-06-23 21:00 ID:eDFnQ0zK

I'm always looking for friends to chat with. Do you have windows live messanger or anything? would be cool

29 Name: Anonymous : 2008-06-24 03:51 ID:Pm9AMyL6

I have the same problem: no friends whatsoever. Although I do have a job and I talk to my coworkers. I had two very close friends in high school, but after hs I had something of an emotional breakdown and I became a recluse like OP. I want to catch up with my old friends, in fact one has been calling me to hang out, but I've gained a lot of weight since the hs days and I'm don't want to be judged.

30 Name: Anonymous : 2008-06-24 13:45 ID:lXBfg/Xh

Get a myspace, for years I was friendless and the past year I found the greatest friend ever, we're going to be moving out and hes going to be my roommate.

31 Name: Anonymous : 2008-06-24 15:05 ID:p9Mzo7Rz

I'm a guy (probably scared a few people off now) and I'm delighted at the response. Thanks again guys, my email address is ivory.keys@live.com and I honestly don't mind who adds me.

>>29
Weight can be lost, beat it before it beats you!
http://www.crossfit.com/

>>30
I had one and I hated it, PC4PC and "hey I'm adding you because you look cool not because I want to look cool with 1,000 Myspace friends" drove me insane.

32 Name: Anonymous : 2008-06-24 19:49 ID:8CLpGzYH

up

33 Name: Lonely-chan : 2008-06-24 21:24 ID:p9Mzo7Rz

Oh, I really should start using my name for posts too. Apologies.

34 Name: Lonely-chan : 2008-06-25 21:14 ID:p9Mzo7Rz

Bad news, sorry for the inconvience but I forgot my password. Send your emails to ivory.keys@gmx.com for now until I can figure how to set up a new one (Hotmail isn't working properly for me).

35 Name: Lonely-chan : 2008-06-28 16:02 ID:p9Mzo7Rz

Update time!

I just broke up with my girlfriend (or rather she broke up with me after I hinted I was done) over something really trivial. She had a message on her profile from a guy that seemed a little over interested and she decided to PM him back rather than leave a comment. Little things I know, but I want to move on, right now I'm in the "fuck that bitch" stage but slowly but surely it's descending into utter sadness that I lost the one person that talks to me. She dropped the bomb then logged straight off saying she'd email me, but being as foolish as I am I sent her one first saying how I don't care that we're done and I don't mind being right.

What the hell is the matter with me? Even if she wasn't sure, I think I pretty much killed it off with that stupid email. First time I've said it in a year or so but I hate myself so much right now, everything is falling apart. No job, no SO, no friends, no money, the list grows and grows while I sink into a shell of a person.

I would ask how to get her back but... well... I know I've pissed her off and I can't unsend the email.

Can someone email me please? I haven't got any yet but a shoulder to cry on or just a few friendly words would be fantastic right now.

In the mean time I'm walking to a grassy area to cry this off.

Lonely-chan out.

36 Name: Friend-chan : 2008-06-30 14:27 ID:jw3qNd9C

I have friends... But i'm kinda lonely too, I guess after 23 years, i'm unconsciously starting to look for my SO. But the loneliness is bearable... Might sound strange but I just usually cheer myself up and it works. Cheer up man, destruction brings beauty - that's what I recently learned.

37 Name: XX : 2008-06-30 14:44 ID:D+8kDyq5

man, i was just like that when i was younger. i went through years- long periods without friends. it sucks, but it will pass eventually.

you guys are pretty awesome and supportive of each other- it's good to see that :)

38 Name: Anonymous : 2008-07-01 04:13 ID:ficNGxdI

I don't have any friends either. I'm quite active socially, but I am strictly business. I haven't "gone out" socially in a year or so. To make matters worse, I've moved to over 9000 cities in the last two years.

I have zero problems socially, but a lack of time and enthusiasm about people leads me away from making friends. Lonely-chan, I will be your friend. :)

39 Name: Anonymous : 2008-07-01 05:19 ID:CgzUz4zs

Whoa, >>38, are you my doppelgänger?

40 Name: Anonymous : 2008-07-03 08:01 ID:OyeYClvq

I guess I somewhat understand how you feel I am currently living in a deserted part of the world. I have lost all contact with people I knew in the past and dont know anyone here. Even worse is that I found out that we will most likely move again next year. I am so tired of this and so painfully lonely.

41 Name: Anonymous : 2008-07-03 08:55 ID:EPaSlO4T

I don't have many friends either. In fact, there's only one.: my boyfriend, he's my best buddy and I wouldn't know what I would do without him.
There are other people who might think I am their friend. But after a short time, I lose all interest in them. It's not that I don't like them, I WANT to have friends, but their presence starts to bore me and eventually gets annoying.
So I start to avoid them, tryng not to be hurtful. It's not their fault, obviously there's something worng with me.

I guess I'm doomed to have distance-friendships without too much contact.

42 Name: greentea.o5 : 2008-07-05 11:48 ID:yeaH+gil

well, u can't always rely on some1 coming over to u n offering to b friends. u need to have that sort of initiative. or else u'll end up living in ur own little shell n nevr being able to smell da fresh air n enjoy the sun shining on u.
i was kinda like Lonely_chan too. i use to have no friends n b laughed at by cruel ppl who've got no hearts.
its how u handle situations like these n nevr let them beat u down. that way, u'll stay confident. confident enough to go out n introduce urself to various ppl n perhaps make more friends?
it actually doesn't take long to make heaps n heaps of friends. dun b too critical of others too soon n nevr judge ppl. staying true to urself is most important. if ppl like u, they will stick with u naturally. dun try n b some1 ur not or else ppl might end up being disgusted.
go out, hav some fun, make a few friends. take this as a challenge. soon enough, ur friends will introduce their friends. not long after that, ur mobile would b brimming with so many contacts!

43 Name: Anonymous : 2008-07-05 15:25 ID:ep+eFHvf

>>42

Great adivce 42! Go for it!

44 Name: greentea.o5 : 2008-07-07 12:22 ID:yeaH+gil

thank u >>43. feel so complimented!
u really need to hav experienced stuff like these in order to understand how to overcome emotional turmoils.
dun u think that the biggest enemy >>1 had to face was herself? she had to overcome her own fears b4 sstepping out? i think b4 making friends, we should all ask ourselves if we're ready or not. that way, there's no excuse to run away from being introduced. lol

45 Name: Lonely-chan : 2008-07-09 21:27 ID:p9Mzo7Rz

Wow I left this thread because I thought it had died. Amazing to see see others like me, maybe we should start a group to bring lonely people together and help each other to find/build new relationships with other people.

@greentea.o5: I agree, the moment you try to be someone you're not is the moment life starts to slip away. It's upsetting to hear people were to cruel to you, but I'm glad you've pulled through it.

Oh yeah, and it's true, I had a lot of demons to face up to back when I first started this thread, but two amazing people emailed me through here and one has spent countless hours pushing me to be the social flower I could be. I honestly think that without them I'd have spent a few weeks straight indoors. Although I still have a little trouble and do all of my shopping online. I'll get there eventually... I hope.

@Friend-chan: Maybe you could organise a night out with your coworkers? I'm sure they'd love to let off some steam and get to know each other a little better. Even if a few say no, I'm sure a lot will say yes just to get out for a few hours.

@>>38/>>39: You sound like a charming guy/girl that just needs a push, I'm sure you can get there with a little help (I'm willing to be there for you). Maybe even going to a bar alone would help? People are always chatty there. Remember, we all have 24 hours each day, it's how we use them that makes the difference.

Oh, and thanks! :P

@>>40: Do you live with any brothers/sisters at all? If so, tag along with them, I'm sure they wouldn't mind too much if you told them the honest reason why you wanted to spend time with them, and probably would introduce you to people closer to your age. Also, try speaking to your parents and letting them know how hard it is for you to keep moving at such a crucial stage of your life.

@>>41: That's so sweet to hear something like that. Silly question: do you live near your boyfriend? I'd advise the same as I did for >>40 in that you tag along with his friends. If I've thought this through correctly, you are (or were for an extended period of time) an only child, thus used to your own company. You don't dislike the people but you dislike them invading your inflated personal zone because you're not adjusted to it yet. Forgive me if I'm wrong, my intentions are good.

Anyway, I suggest you try immersing yourself in an environment where you'd have to deal with lots of people on a regular basis to help break down this barrier.

The great thing about 4-ch is the whole community aspect and it's great we're all here for each other. I love each and every one of you that is helping me and others like myself get through this. I'm still open to emails at ivory.keys@gmx.com or find me on synIRC in #4-ch (irc://irc.synirc.net/4-ch).

Thanks again, I hope we can all get through this together.

46 Name: greentea.o5 : 2008-07-10 09:23 ID:yeaH+gil

lol self-confidence had a lot to do with the change.

yes yes, we should start a groupto bring lonely people together? any suggestions?

47 Name: Anonymous : 2008-07-13 02:13 ID:F/tgP7da

Maybe we could start an IRC channel?

I'll be honest, I just woke up from the worst nightmare I've ever had. I was 37 years old but didn't look a day older than I am now (which I am assuming has something to do with saying that I've acheived nothing and am basically the same person, just years older) and a guy fell off of this building who aged backwards in my arms until he we a screaming baby whose eyes roled back and....

Well I forced myself awake here. I can still hear him now and tears are streaming down my face, the sight of him in pain crushes me and I couldn't help him. I'm not usually into drems but that one really hit home very hard. I'm done, I want to go out and live my life before it's over.

48 Name: Anonymous : 2008-07-13 02:19 ID:F/tgP7da

Oh, and #lonelychat on synIRC.

49 Name: Lonely-chan : 2008-07-13 02:21 ID:F/tgP7da

Sorry for triple post last two were me.

50 Name: MasterKitty : 2008-07-13 17:25 ID:tEcRVS4x

hobbies help out a lot.

very social games like TCGs and RPGs are a big plus. Shooting or building something helps. basically if theres a convention for it and you're interested in it theres scores of friends and activities to get involved in

51 Name: Anonymous : 2008-07-13 19:46 ID:F/tgP7da

>>50
I'm up for whatever, do you have any browser based ones you'd recommend?

52 Name: MasterKitty : 2008-07-13 20:36 ID:tEcRVS4x

Browser hobbies? Other than general social networking like tribes, craigslist and meetup.com i'm not aware of any good browser based games. but i was more of suggesting table top hobbies to kinda get you out and meeting people near you that are into the same thing.

if you're willing to go with it playing yugioh or magic the gathering online is fun. anonidate is good too.

53 Name: Anonymous : 2008-07-13 23:19 ID:F/tgP7da

>>52
Anonidate it is then. I'm not looking for love, just a friend to cherish. Tabletop games sound good if a little expensive but I'll see what I can do. I'll check out Yugioh too, thanks for your help MK-san.

54 Name: MasterKitty : 2008-07-14 02:12 ID:tEcRVS4x

anonidate can help with friends. i met a friend on there last month.

table top games dont have to be too expensive. especially if you play the right ones. in nearly every town there should be a general gaming store that sells table top games. sometimes its the same place as comic stores. if you have a hard time finding one look for the nearest one on magic the gathering's website. any place that holds magic tournaments are bound to have other table top games.

if you want to really keep your money in your pocket i would reccomend Anima, King's Blood, and Munchkins. they're all stand alone games that are very fun in groups and serve as wonderful poker night games for friends to hang out.

i reccomended yugioh and magic because trading card games are inherently social because trading is a big factor in casual environments.

55 Name: batmannu : 2008-07-17 18:02 ID:67Aem7MX

>>35

Hei bby! I'm so worried about you, whats going on? Things are not going so well as I see for u right now. I wish i could help you.
You know i love you and you know you can trust me, but for some reason you don't do that.

Please contact me ASAP and confirm your wellness!

Batty

56 Name: Anonymous : 2008-07-28 10:08 ID:DD2QeSQ7

>>55
LOLWUT

57 Name: b : 2008-07-28 23:28 ID:67Aem7MX

>>56
r u stalkin' me?

58 Name: Anonymous : 2008-08-22 11:10 ID:Suq/X3Xs

where was crap like this when i was going through this problem?

i went through several years-long phases in my life where i had no friends- you guys all seem pretty awesome and supportive of each other, at least in some way you don't have to deal with it alone.

i am now 35, have a husband, and plenty of friends ranging in age from 17 - 37 years old. we live in a house with a couple of room mates, and spend our time partying/ hanging out/ gaming.

unfortunately, i am kind of becoming a recluse again. people can come see me all they want, but i am developing a real issue in leaving my house. it's ok if i'm with my husband/ friends, but i have a hard time going anywhere alone.

i wonder if these kinds of social issues ever really go away?

59 Name: Anonymous : 2008-08-27 16:59 ID:f3t/1gCX

I feel like Lonely-chan at the beginning of this thread.
I've spent so many years being quiet that I am slightly anxious even when paying for things, facing the cashier. It's not that I'm depressed, I have my happiness and a person I can really talk to, but sometimes that person is also a weight and I feel I have to get away. I suppose I'm bound to be like this, but I really do want to make more friends. I attend a "life-long learning" class but it seems the people there are of different ages, situations, and do not seem particularly interested in talking much.

I guess, I would like some help as well.

60 Name: Lonely-chan : 2008-09-06 19:57 ID:F/tgP7da

Hi, I haven't posted in a while although I have been watching the thread.

I think it makes sense for me to post now because I'm lost. The last week I've barely eaten (today I ate 2 bagels and some toast, which for a guy over 6 foot and a muscular build just isn't enough). I've stopped sleeping as much, yesterday I had just over an hour but I average 2-3 per day now. I've had real mood swings from apathy to depression to blind rage (more often than not I'll get really angry over nothing and sit around crying). Plus to top it off I've had a lot of headaches/tummyaches and my skin looks awful.

My guess is I can't take the stress anymore and it's finally getting to me. Today I woke up and cried because I hoped I would have died in my sleep.

The only release I have from this relentless depression is this girl I like. I haven't told her yet but I'm sure she knows, maybe I'll tell her soon.

But, back on topic, I really don't know what to do - I'm sure it's not normal to fantasize about dying. A few nights back things got a little overwhelming and I almost went through with it. "Luckily" in the time it took for me to find the major artery in my wrist I found someone to talk me out of it.

I don't know what I'm looking to achieve with this post, I'm almost certain that if things don't change soon I'll disappear before the end of the month. It is relieving that I can tell you guys this stuff though. I just hope a certain someone doesn't read this or I'll have some explaining to do.

Anyway: if you ever get the chance to save someone in my position, take it. You'll never know how serious they were until you realise you haven't seen them online for a few weeks and they don't respond to any emails.

61 Name: Anonymous : 2008-09-08 22:13 ID:tFsFjhX1

What's stressing you out? What happened a few nights back?

62 Name: Anonymous : 2008-09-09 19:50 ID:SvPdlGdl

>>60

Talk to the girl!

63 Name: bat : 2008-09-20 18:01 ID:67Aem7MX

>>60

I love you, talk to me please, maybe i can help u a little. At least i could try to cheer you up, and im 100% serious with that post. You know where to find me ;_;
dont hurt yourself sweetheart, its not worth it, yer the most awesome guy ever and im certainly not the only one who is thinking like this! Start eating properly and goddamn, fly to estonia, so i could take care of u :3

64 Name: Anonymous : 2008-09-21 09:58 ID:RQJlNvh+

>>60

Are you still around?

65 Name: Anonymous : 2008-10-02 14:17 ID:7HKpUsXc

this thread needs to be updated!

66 Name: Friend-chan : 2008-10-03 13:48 ID:jw3qNd9C

Hey, long absence. Recently, my friendster were visiting me frequenty. I realized that friends doesn't always mean happiness. I don't know, I just think i'm not the kind that likes my kind... Anyway, they're still my friend, i'm just too lazy to actually interact with them.

Hope you're doing fine Lonely-chan. You have us, even if we're anonymous. Somebody always cares!

67 Name: Anonymous : 2008-10-04 21:29 ID:dP7HQRZ1

Hello Friend-Chan!

Sometimes I feel the same about the friends. Lately I have been ignoring most of them (including my family) and it actually makes me feel good. I sure don't care about anything and have no motivation to care enough about the people around me either, if you know what I mean. For some reason it feels good.
I remember from my childhood, when I used to spend some time in the summers at my uncles place, countryside. And every time their family had visitors I felt like "Damn, another bad day with guests".

Hi Lonely-Chan! Take yourself together and bring us some joy through your news/update!

68 Name: Anonymous : 2008-10-21 17:08 ID:7HKpUsXc

bump

69 Name: Anonymous : 2008-10-21 23:02 ID:Heaven

No news, good news

70 Name: Lonely-chan : 2008-10-27 02:40 ID:5ciKuEt/

Wow, people want to hear from me? Fantastic! Thanks for your concern, I'm still here plodding along with life, a few near-misses here and there but I'm otherwise fine.

Words cannot convey how amazing it is to have people out there that care about you, thank you all again.

I'm glad people can identify with my persona I've put forward, and hopefully we can all move forwards and out of loneliness.

Updatewise: I spoke to her and it's progressing reasonably well. I've broken relationships with several people, gained a few too, I think for the first time in a while I can say I have at least one friend.

I don't know what else to say but I'm sure at least one person will reply to this, until then remember I love you all.

71 Name: Anonymous : 2008-10-27 12:54 ID:dP7HQRZ1

>>70 You can't imagine how happy the knowledge of you still being around makes me feel!!! Please update more often, seriously :)

72 Name: Anonymous : 2008-11-01 23:23 ID:dP7HQRZ1

How are you doing Lonely-Chan? Pity you don't consider me one of your friends though. Good luck, you can beat the issue, I believe in you!

73 Name: b : 2008-11-04 20:00 ID:7HKpUsXc

Hello OP!
How is the most awesome living man doing tonight? :) I hope everything is OK. Just wanted to tell you how awesome you are, so you wouldn't be feeling down about yourself. Your personality literally rocks! Keep us up to date with your approaches! :)

74 Name: Anonymous : 2008-11-06 11:25 ID:5ciKuEt/

Hello /personal/! I'm not really sure to say with this message, I'm SO lonely, it's been going on for like a week now, and to be honest. This is pretty much the most depressed I've been for a long time. I sit down and want to just cry, but the tears won't come. I want to shout but I don't have the words.

I feel so raw and vulnerable, my appetite is gone and I have terrible cottonmouth from not as much water as I really should.

Help?

I'm so sad right now and I really need someone, I think 72 and 73 know me so email me, call me, please. I'm tired of making up excuses for why I've stopped talking and I sit around head in hands, I want to talk. Not just about me, I just want to chat with someone.

75 Name: Anonymous : 2008-11-06 11:27 ID:5ciKuEt/

Whoops, I forgot to add, thanks for your support 71! <3

76 Name: b : 2008-11-06 13:03 ID:7HKpUsXc

I don't have your number, otherwise i would call. I would call you every day to make sure that you are doing okay :)

77 Name: Anonymous : 2008-11-07 11:57 ID:7HKpUsXc

Hello OP.. i remembered something.. i could call, but i don't know if i have the right number. I prefer not to do it right now though, as I'm not 100% sure about it. Do u remember, when I called u long time ago and talked to *** saying I'm Scandinavian luwah? :P

Sorry for strong stalking skills.. i will be around again in some hours, if u want a friend to talk to, i will be around..

78 Name: Friend-chan : 2008-11-08 06:55 ID:jw3qNd9C

>>67

I exactly know what you mean. I think we feel the same way... or something... Like, we feel better when we're alone... Most people annoy us more than they make us happy... I don't know why! Maybe it's just in our programming...

>>70

We love you too Lonely-chan!

79 Name: Anonymous : 2008-11-08 18:36 ID:dP7HQRZ1

>>78 makes me want to get reprogrammed. I admire those people who are kind and happy almost nonstop. Yes, I'm jealous over the people who smile from heart, just because I want to be like them as well! i hope life grows me different from what i am right now, so i could become a better and more caring person.

Good luck Friend-chan :)

80 Name: Anonymous : 2008-11-10 01:18 ID:6tr1fbNP

This is somewhat related to the thread, I guess.

Where is a good place to make new friends? (Assuming I don't have any friends currently.) I'm 17 year old girl, I can drive. I live in a small town but close enough to a large city to be able to visit there frequently. To be honest, it's hard to say what my interests are anymore, other than gaming, so I'm thinking of expanding my horizons and finding some new things to do, since I really don't know what to do anymore. I'm open to anything really, as long as it doesn't cost a lot..

Thanks in advance.

81 Name: Mandy : 2008-11-11 06:13 ID:JzAhNAa4

;( I'm having the same problem.

I'm married but i don't have any girlfriends or friends that are males...

D:

I've been living in this country around 3 years, and 0 friends...

:D sometimes i want to kill myself.

My Only friend it's my hubbie but i need someone else to hang out and stuff and feel secure besides him because there's stuff that i can't share with him & stuff you know, like what i i think of i don't know...

I can be your friend.

82 Name: Anonymous : 2008-11-11 17:20 ID:jpnC1m9e

I didn't have any friends until I joined a bunch of social networking sites. I have a really nice group of close, reliable friends now. Here's the websites I use:

OKCupid
PlentyOfFish
Mingle2 (Previously "JustSayHi")
Anonidate

If you only join one, I suggest OKCupid. I've made most of my friends on there. Most of these claim to be dating sites, but you can just as easily select "Looking for friends only". Good luck.

83 Name: Lonely-chan : 2008-11-11 17:34 ID:5ciKuEt/

>>80
At 17 I'll assume you're in some sort of schooling, right? I made a bunch of friends through gaming at school, just don't be afraid to put yourself out there. Give out your gamertag/Steam name/whatever most gamers would love somebody to play with when servers start to empty out.

Also, put yourself out there, friends rarely find you, you need to go get them. Last year I set up LAN parties at college every Friday Try looking at social events at the mall and consider giving someone a lift home. It often starts with a small action which would lead to a brief chat when you bump into each other again, at this point getting their number (male or female) is a great idea.

Keep us updated!

PS if you don't mind having friends online, IRC is a great place to chill out and chat without there being too much pressure on you to be extra social. I wouldn't recommend going in with a feminine name though...

>>81
I really should stop assuming but I'm guessing you have a job, talk to the people at work! Consider asking to take a few out for drinks after work one Friday even if you don't want to drink, just get a glass of orange juice and relax. If, by chance, you don't like them, stick with it and keep meeting them outside of work and they'll introduce you to their friends over time, especially if they know you're new to the country. Before you know it you'll have your very own social circle!

But if anyone wants to email me go ahead, I usually check everyday: ivory.keys@gmx.com

>>77
Haha yes, that was a fun night :) I didn't hear the end of that for a while. I'll probably be on IRC later, see you on?

>>79
I think most of us that are like that spent a lot of time alone as children not having to learn to cope with other people, now we're a little older we have to deal with it but haven't the tools. I'm sure it can be fixed, maybe if we spent more time around the people that frustrate us the most?

84 Name: Lonely-chan : 2008-11-11 17:35 ID:5ciKuEt/

>>82
Good call, thanks for the sites, will check them out tonight.

85 Name: Mandy : 2008-11-11 20:04 ID:JzAhNAa4

Lonely-Chan,

I have a job but i do it at home, by internet. D: (No pals)
I don't like to drink, smoke or do drugs.

86 Name: Lonely-chan : 2008-11-11 20:23 ID:5ciKuEt/

Now we definitely need to talk! I'd love to work from home.

But that makes things a little more difficult, where in the world are you?

87 Name: Lonely-chan : 2008-11-11 20:42 ID:5ciKuEt/

Oh, and how's Mr. Mandy's social life?

88 Name: b : 2008-11-12 01:20 ID:7HKpUsXc

>>83

sup cutie? :)

89 Name: Anonymous : 2008-11-12 02:36 ID:6tr1fbNP

>>80 here..

Actually, I'm not in school, but I will be starting college in less than 2 months. I don't have a job, either, but I've been -thinking- of getting one.. I've never had one and I'm really nervous about it. About joining clubs and such, I was in the video game club for a year or so, but I never really had much fun. They mostly were into Halo/UT/other FPS games so that's all we played, and those aren't my type of games. Plus, many of them were annoying and/or didn't bathe... Not to mention, I'm a girl, and most of them were guys. For some reason I tend to think of men as a different race or something, and find them hard to talk to/act around, even when I like them or want to be their friend. I just get nervous and act really awkward, my mind begins to focus only on how I am coming off to the other people, rather than what we're actually talking about, which leads to problems..

So as you can tell, I'm not good with people because of my self-consciousness. However, I really would like to try and make some new friends. I have plenty of online friends, but it's just not the same as being face-to-face with people.

I think I took somewhat of a step forward today. I forced myself out of the house and went to Gamestop. The guy at the register was really nice, so when I went to pay for my game I made myself start some smalltalk by asking a question about the game. It actually made me feel better. However, now I'm wondering, how the heck do I actually make friends by doing things like that?

Well, any help would be appreciated.. thanks. :D

90 Name: Anonymous : 2008-11-12 08:57 ID:7HKpUsXc

>>89 Hello! Having a job is always fun, you anyways have to talk to the coworkers and its just a question of time to become more or less close with the people. Usually people try to get along well and are very friendly, specially as you are just starting to work. They help out with all kind of problems and its most likely to become good friends with the new people in early stages, while you have just met them. I think its a good idea!

And of course you will get some new friends as you start the college! Just be more talk-active and stop worrying so much about how you come off than try to talk about random things. Talk your mind :) Then again, I know its really hard to do!
I'm usually rather shy in new situations. But sometimes, when i subconsciously realize the person is weaker/more shy/more afraid/etc than me, I become very confident and I think i come off as a person who knows what she is doing (but i might look like a total bitch to the other person).

The way you acted in the Gamestop today was a really good way of starting a convo. Just keep on doing this, as you become more confident and forget about the other issues. I think practice has it all. The more you do it, the more dull/ordinary it looks to you, and the easier it is for you to step further to the next level! (yes i know how hard it can be, trust me!)
Give it some time and go!
Just remember, that nobody can make friends overnight!

:) Good luck! and let us know how it is going :)

91 Name: Anonymous : 2008-11-12 17:10 ID:Heaven

>>Having a job is always fun

WROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOONG.

92 Name: Lonely-chan : 2008-11-12 18:15 ID:5ciKuEt/

>>89
Lather, rinse & repeat!

Nice job at Gamestop today, now just keep doing it and after a few times you'll get a little better acquainted, at that point it should pretty much flow. Ask if he's busy after work one time if he doesn't ask you first, visit him when he's not doing much (work is so boring, he'll really appreciate it).

Also, I'll bet guys are uncomfortable around you too, most people are a little on edge around the opposite sex, don't worry too much about it. It will fade over time.

>>90 is full of helpful advice :)

PS: Do you have Steam?

93 Name: Anonymous : 2008-11-12 18:41 ID:dP7HQRZ1

>>92 umm.. I can redownload it. In fact, I will download it right now. you know what my username is, add me :)

94 Name: Lonely-chan : 2008-11-12 20:08 ID:5ciKuEt/

>>93
Noo, I meant does >>89 have it.

95 Name: Anonymous : 2008-11-12 20:29 ID:dP7HQRZ1

>>94 HEHE OKAY FINE FINE!! brb uninstalling it..
sup, come to irc ;)

96 Name: Anonymous : 2008-11-13 23:41 ID:7HKpUsXc

where is u? :3

97 Name: Anonymous : 2008-11-19 22:45 ID:dP7HQRZ1

bump... 7 days already...

98 Name: Anonymous : 2009-01-02 22:04 ID:TqUkDOwf

Now got some friends?

99 Name: OP : 2010-02-21 17:21 ID:5ciKuEt/

Wow, this is still alive? I'm glad to be able to look back on how far I've come since I posted this thread. I guess you guys really pushed me to see the best in myself and stop worrying so much.

Don't get me wrong, I still worry all the time, but now I worry that the dinner I've cooked isn't delicious. Still silly, but a leopard can't change its spots! I'm actively volunteering and it's a challenge but I really do enjoy it.

To anyone reading this, the best advice I can give you is that people are like cats. They're scared as scared of you as you are of them and the harder you chase, the faster they'll run away. I used to be a little too nervous about what people thought, so if I perceived something someone said as negative, I'd bite back unnecessarily hard and end up losing them.

When I look back, I spent all of my time playing games, listening to music and, well, fapping. The world felt tiny because I didn't let myself see it. But after a little push, I realised that damn, the world is really really cool.

Thanks to everyone who posted, read and emailed me, you all helped me to where I am today and I'm eternally indebted to you

100 Name: Anonymous : 2010-02-24 20:40 ID:+VnfDu7v

>>99 God, im so happy for you :)) Im happy you are feeling happy!! But im as well little sad cuz i will be missing you as hell!! I AM SERIOUS!! you should write me an email and let me know how you are doing sometimes..

Love You :3

b.

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