Dealing with parent's divorce (3)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2008-11-05 06:10 ID:jYFoudQn

My parents are getting a divorce soon. There are many reasons and it has been waiting to happen for many years. I'm twenty years old and I think I can deal with it right now. I am only worried about my younger brother who is just finishing high school. Being the youngest he also has been the most vulnerable. Today he had a panic attack. I told myself I would deal with it and not let it affect me that much. But today my mother had a conversation with me. She told me she had been talking to another man. Which is what sparked the divorce. It's something out of a novel. They had met many years ago, in her teen years. And now they have met again, both now having bad marriages. I must admit I am afraid, and I feel immensely lonely. We all moved here six years ago, hoping that living in America would improve our economic situation as well as bringing us together as a family. But it hasn't. Now that they are leaving I'll be alone. And I don't have anyone or anything in this country. My shyness hasn't allowed me to make many friends either. And now I feel like I have nothing left without my family. I know that even though we'll live apart we'll still be family. But it won't be the same. I don't know how to deal with this. I'm scared. I just wish I could fast-forward through all this. I always thought of myself as lucky seeing my parents were still together. Unlike many of my friends. Now I know that their love was not forever. And it breaks my heart. I just feel lucky that I met them, and that I love them and they love me as well. I know many posters must have gone through this, or grown up with only one parent or none. How did it go? How did you deal with it? Share your stories.

2 Name: Anonymous : 2008-11-05 09:14 ID:jq8bizKW

It's not as bad as it seems. It's more of a hassle/annoyance than anything. However, it probably won't be as much of a hurdle as you're making it out to be.

=) You'll be just fine.. it takes time, but you'll get through this!

3 Name: Anonymous : 2008-11-05 09:21 ID:cbZr2VtE

Divorce is not always a bad thing, specially when you consider the alternative. My parents divorced when I was five, and I couldn't wait for it to happen, because daily life was hell with them (too many shouts and arguments). Of course I was sad it did not work for them, but after the divorce their relationship improved a lot and they stayed in good terms. Nowadays each of them found another partner and they lead happy relationships, what better result could you expect?

And being divorced did not prevent them from parenting. It was not always easy, but it was infinitely better than having to stand their arguments.

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