How to get her trust back (13)

1 Name: stoner : 2009-04-30 06:14 ID:D32bLn4l

So, last month i got caught smoking weed at school. my mom and dad were called and everything, and then i had to go to a rehab place for an evaluation. i promised my mom i wouldnt smoke anymore. but, after a while with the people i hang out with i started smoking again.
now, just 30min ago, my friend and i got caught by my mom. My friend wanted to smoke, but i didnt know where we would go. I figured my mom already went to bed so we just smoked out the window. i guess she came up to check if my friend had a ride home and caught us. the thing is, he was taking most of the hits. but then, rght as i decide to take one, as i finish my mom comes in the room so i had the shit.
she gave me a long talk, i'm grounded longer than i was before, and i probably wont be allowed to have any friends. She wont even let my girlfriend come over anymore. the only time i can see her is at school.
so, i guess a way to be would be how can i ever get her tust back? i mean, i know i would never trust myself. But, i'm going to tell her that if anything like this happens again, i wont expect to still call this place home. and i'm serious, if this happens again i wont expect her to put up with me any longer. It took me two times getting caught to finally figure out this isnt worth it. I'm a slow learner, i know. but the lesson has finally sunk in. she wont believe that though, and it crushes me to know that she has NO trust whatsoever in me anymore. i want to get that trust back, but idk how.

2 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-30 08:18 ID:Heaven

>>1

Prime example how smoking weed rots your brain.

3 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-30 10:25 ID:qN9Cb7Ou

>>2
You're wrong. I think the kid was stupid beforehand.

OP, she's your mom, she's pissed at you (and she's right to be), just give her time. You fucked up big time, you deserve what was coming at you. But heh, she's still your mom. Given her reaction, I think she cares. She'll probably have a hard time trusting you in the years to come, and that's expected facing someone like you, but if you start getting your shit straight, maybe over time she'll regain some trust in you.

4 Name: Scotland : 2009-04-30 12:34 ID:Qzxun4Qt

>>3

LMAO
"You're wrong. I think the kid was stupid beforehand"
I just laughed cos he will be more retarded from smoking weed..if you want it legal go to amsterdam for a holiday once in a while, no-one can complain cos its legal.

however, you can only get her trust back in time...you can win her any favours.

5 Name: Scotland : 2009-04-30 12:35 ID:Qzxun4Qt

cant*

6 Name: OP : 2009-04-30 14:12 ID:D32bLn4l

yea, i know i'm stupid. no need to tell me that
and, i had a talk with her htis morning. she said, despite everything in her head telling her not too, she's going to put trust in me again a little bit and "let it slide" as in, my dad doesnt find out, i'm still allowed to have friends over, and all that. the only things is that i cant go out with my friends for a unknown amount of time.
we also talked about what would happen should this happen again. and i wont have a place to call home if it does. a bit of an eye opener right there. so, i'm done for good now. All weed has ever gotten me were some good laughs, making out with a hot chick, and just make everything funny. but it's not worth the shame i felt both times i got caught. and the look in my mom's eyes this past time when I broke her trust... i just know now i'm done with it.

7 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-30 17:10 ID:iiuEd1+B

aww op, poor bby hugs

8 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-30 22:48 ID:gsw80WdP

>>6 sorry, but it won't be so easy. You are by now probably addicted to tobacco, and giving up weed won't happen just like that. All the shit you went throgh and still continued smoking it shows how badly you need it.

Your only chance of making it is not to underestimate you craving, and make a strong and sustsined effort to stop consumption for a long time

9 Name: stoner : 2009-05-01 05:26 ID:D32bLn4l

idk, maybe i am addicted to it. people under the age of 25 are a lot more suseptible to addiction. and i havnt smoked any tobacco. no blunt wraps for me. i just used a pipe, that's it.

and i know i'm gonna crave the high one day while i'm bored, but i'm not gona give in. i smashed my pipe with a hammer and threw my weed in the creek by my house. smashing the pipe felt very... liberating =D and i'm just thinking how much more money i'll have now

10 Name: Anonymous : 2009-05-01 07:03 ID:eYuuTWQ2

>>9 Well, looks like you're taking this seriously. Best of luck to you, and remain consistent. Don't even take a blow, once and a while, it will ruin your efforts.

11 Name: Anonymous : 2009-05-01 14:01 ID:fBGs01lV

>>9
I'm glad you've acknowledged you have a problem, and started taking the appropriate actions to resolve it. The fact that you want to get your mum's trust back is showing that you're maturing. The only advice I can offer to you is that no matter what happens, if your mum chucks a spit at you, or your teacher is being an asshole, don't ever, ever relapse. Don't think "I'll smoke this just to get back at her/him" because you're only hurting yourself. Hurting yourself is lose-lose for everyone. Remember that your mum loves you enough to care about what you're doing, there are others out there who couldn't care less.
If you have a strong resolve, then you'll get through this. And yes, more money, and more time to do sane, productive things is always a plus. Get your mum something nice for mother's day.

12 Name: Anon : 2011-12-22 17:31 ID:CyVeZ9S1

Well me and you are kinda the same, yesterday I got caught stealing my mums bank card & I took out 170 and my mum also busted me for stealing my aunty's purse, & my mum doesn't trust me for shit, neither does my dad & its christmas soon :/ & I really want to win my WHOLE FAMILIES trust back. I'm scared x_x

13 Name: Anonymous : 2011-12-23 01:47 ID:Heaven

>>12
That's not the same thing. At all.

>>1
I'm surprised no one has asked this little dipshit why he was smoking IN HIS OWN ROOM while HIS MOM WAS HOME to begin with.

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