Topic title says it all. thank goodness for anonymous forums...
Anyway, I'm 24 years old. I'm basically doing okay in life. I wouldn't call myself a great success yet, but I'm doing well enough. I have good friends, a promising career (though the money isn't much at the moment), and life is basically alright.
Why should someone be creeped out or disgusted? If they are it's their problem not yours so stop being so down on yourself and apologetic about your post.
I think it's good that you expressed the way you feel somewhere, it's healthy, if you do it more often you might feel better about yourself.
I wouldn't worry so much about sounding creepy to us, in case you have missed it we're a pretty creepy lot ourselves.
I really can't offer you much advice apart than actually talking to someone who's been through it all themselves. Hope you'll be happy with whatever choice you end up making.
Everyone is different. You can't expect everyone to be the same don't you? It's good that you express yourself to the world.
Everyone that has hard time in life for you have a steady life. But you're beginning to feel some emptiness right? You want to do something different and trying to go out with a girl. Don't worry, your time would come.
>>4 LMAO, you are probably one of those people who believes Gay reform centers work..jeez pray? To what? Pinky the Dragon.
Don't listen to him OP. If the feeling gets stronger it must mean something. You probably cross dress right? I bet there is a club or something like that. You might meet some people who you can ask about your "feelings".
Thanks, everyone. I really do appreciate it.
As I said before, I don't necessarily see myself as gay. I still think females are attractive, but I picture myself in that gender role more than anything else.
>>6 So.. maybe try to go as close to real as you can, waxing, behaviour, make up and all that. I'm guessing its also better to go partway than it is to not go anywhere at all right?
Is it, >>7? I really wonder.
Say, for instance, that I'm not convincing as a girl. I run the risk of being hurt or humiliated by the whole experience.
Try dressing up in a place far away where no one will recognize you. Also, the Native Americans thought of transgender people as special as "two-spirited". Look up more if your interested.
>>9 True, Homosexuality or transgender wasn't a big deal in many parts of the ancient world (even something to admire:japan,greece;America,etc etc until the CHRISTIANS came...
But yeah i know you are straight (like female), and he's right..maybe you should travel there in "man form" and book into a hotel or something and change?
That sounds like a crazy idea... but you know, that might actually be something worth considering! I'll have to give that some thought.
You get me wrong, I recognise gays but don't support them. What I mean is that he thinks he may look disgusting. Pray to what? God of course. If you wana flame, fine with me. No loose or win here.
Just be happy of yourself to keep it plain simple. It's better to get good advice from adults or experts or whatever to see which path you take. I would prefer you go out with a fine girl. Just do your best. You are a MALE. BE STRONG.
>>You are a MALE. BE STRONG.
Maybe he's not male. Maybe his body does not resemble his soul.
OP, I can only hope that you'll find your way and happiness. Don't be ashamed, there's no reason.
Transsexual transition is not easy. Even if you're flawlessly passable and stinking rich. It carries many health and social consequences.
I took female hormones from my sixteenth birthday until Jan. 2008. That's two years. when I left home, I realized how difficult life can be. You basically have an option between sex work to pay for your lifestyle/surgeries, or a dead-end job that pays barely enough for you to live. My detransition was a result of not wanting to do sex work, and clearly not having the money to continue. Sad but I am finally enjoying the many facets of life as a male.
Is OP were a female trying to be a male, what would you say to him (er her?) BE FEMININE?
Thanks for all of your advice, everyone. Even the advice of people that don't like anything about this is helpful in its own way, and very much appreciated. As cautioned in this topic, I have no intention of rushing to a decision. I still want to raise some pros and cons about everything in my mind and see what I decide. Thanks again, everyone.
You shouldn't ignore the feeling at all. There are many people who go through their whole lives with the same feeling that you have and then regret they never did anything about it.
If you do go for the sex change, just be sure it's what you really want, because while they can give you female parts, the male parts are harder to get back. You can get orgasms and feel everything else you would should you undergo the procedure. Just be sure it's what you want and you do know what your doing.
Hey OP, same age, same boat. You're not alone.
I read the first post, and was worried I was drunk posting here or something at first.
Just a small update, I'm going to see a specialist regarding this issue next Saturday. I'm not sure if this is the right step, but I figure talking about this with someone that understands the subject is better than doing nothing.
I am only 20, a heterosexual, and an occasional crossdresser. Your sentiments are very understandable.
It's good that you're going to see a specialist! They will help. But, ultimately you have to remember...... it has to be what you want. Honestly, I'd say wait at LEAST a year or three before making the decision, as it is obviously a BIG ONE. I know of someone who underwent a full sex change, and less than a year after the final stages (everything... including vocal surgery) decided it wasn't what they wanted... but wow, what a process to go through, just to decide it's not what you want.
hey sorry to hear about your misfortunes, hope everything is better for you now:)
You didn't creep me out. I actually think this is very interesting.
I can't possibly overstate the importance of speaking with a psychologist (particularly one who specializes in gender identity disorder). I've been seeing a psychologist about this for a while now, and it's been really helpful. Actually sitting down with a professional and discussing these issues is the only way to uncover some semblance of truth. There's usually so much shit surrounding gender-related issues, that you might uncover something you hadn't really thought of before (i.e. various reasons that you may feel more feminine than masculine, etc.).
The surgery costs thousands of dollars. And it doesn't actually turn you into a woman, you know. You'll need to use lube because you can't get 'wet' naturally and you'll never have a period or children or menopause.
>>13 gender identity has nothing to do with homosexuality. two completely different issues. it's not a issue of sexuality, it is and actual psychological condition.
there was a recent special on tv about children with gender identity disorder- very intriguing stuff.
oh, and for a recommended list of therapists, look here:
What I'm curious about is WHY you want to be a girl?
For example, do you just appreciate feminine beauty and traits more than male ones? Or do you want to take up feminine gender roles such as feeling dependent and passive?
Alright, so, late response.
I think I understand the situation at least a little; I'm a vagina-haver who has had some gender confusion in the past, though not as severe as your situation.