>>13 gender identity has nothing to do with homosexuality. two completely different issues. it's not a issue of sexuality, it is and actual psychological condition.
there was a recent special on tv about children with gender identity disorder- very intriguing stuff.
anyway, OP- i send you all the support in the world. i am happy you are going to talk to a specialist.
btw, if you have a chance, you should read about Dr. Marci Bowers- she is a pioneer in gender reassignment etc. my husband- a speech pathologist- has actually emailed her about doing transgender voice therapy.
she's a pretty awesome person, read her wiki: