Love and Romance @4-ch

email hacker (3)

lost in thought

hello! Well here goes going to make a long story short.
Been dating a guy for 18 mnths. Shared him with my kids and they love him as much as he says he loves them. We also work at the same place but MOT together. Months ago I noticed him talking to a coworker alot. Lately over the last few weeks he has been acting odd and distant. I logged into his email to find that from feb to just this past weekend he has been emailing her comments like calling her beautiful, has a smile that lights up the room and since she is recently single and that hopefully soon he will be to they can get together to help each other out.
She has emailed him back but has made no such reference or comments to him.
How can I confront him without revealing my source ???
please help me!

big problem (5)

np123

i have a big problem. i like this girl but when i was young and stupid i touch her waist two times i know dumb right. so now she hate me like hell and ignore me. so can i get some advice on what to do to make it up to her. i tried to writing a letter to say sorry but she won't forgive

japanese boyfriend (87)

Secret Admirer

i want a japanese boyfriend. someone like nishijima hidetoshi.
but i'm not in japan. nor will i visit it anytime soon.
where to get one?

I'm an evil bastard...and I need desperate advice. (complicated situation) (4)

Secret Admirer

Man where do I start? Three years ago I met girl A, fell in love far too fast and basically thought she would be the one I would marry. But ultimately we fought too much, she "dumped" me many times when I did things not to her liking, like going to anime conventions. Slowly we were drifting apart, to the point we were on a status of "dating", even though we still loved each other.

Fast forward to last week. I went to a convention, she went out of town so it wasn't too troublesome. Then I met girl B. But heres the deal: girl A is 25, I'm 24 and girl B is 17. But girl B and I kind of hit it off, and we got really close, she was so cute and tender and incredibly mature that it surprised me when she said what her age was. We went....far enough, that I started feeling badly. I told girl B we should be friends and she was kind of like whatever.

Throughout the following week I couldn't stop thinking about girl B. And as of the mid week I decided that I would somehow end it with girl A, the drama was too much. So basically today, I broke girl A's heart by admitting what I did with girl B. girl A now thinks (rightfully so) that I'm a cheating rat bastard and I don't think I can fix things, but the messed up part is I don't want to, really. I don't want to get married anytime soon or commit to anything, not like I used to want to. I essentially grew over time to pull away from her. I'm such an evil bastard I know.

Girlfriend won't kiss after almost a month? (9)

Secret Admirer

I've dated my girlfriend as friends for a month, and she became my girlfriend on valentine's day. So basically, we've been together for almost two months.

I've tried to kiss her, but she won't. I asked her why and all I got was: "I'll kiss you when I love you".

Also, whenever I touch her randomly, she has a shock reflex action(?).

What should I do? I feel like she doesn't like me at all.

argh.

First Date Ever (3)

Secret Admirer

I had asked about internet dating a few weeks ago, and, much to my surprise, actually met a cutie with a ton in commom with me, from my college within a week.

My school is on Spring Break right now, but I made plans with said girl to hang out after we returned, so as not to lose her interest over break. I suggested we find a place with food we both like that also served beer, and she felt more comfortable just going to my apartment ( :D ), as she's a little anxious and shy in public places.

Anyway, I've never been on a date before. I've fingered a female friend on the bus in highschool, but never had a true date or kiss anyone or anything. Is there anything I should keep in mind? This'll also be the first time I see this girl in person. We have similar taste in RPGs and comedy, and she even likes Azumangah Daioh, so I figured I'd try to find something we could watch and cook a small dinner and have a small amount of decent beer with her. Everything else I'm a little unclear on. Would it be creepy to compliment her appearance when we first see each other? Would it seem cheap to cook the food myself / should I order delivery instead? Are there any cool interactive things things that'd allow us to get to know each other better? I'm a huge fan of conversation, myself, but I'm sure a lotta girls want to see you put in more creativity and effort in than that. Are there any decent kissing tutorials, in case we have future dates?

Someone explain things for me? (33)

Secret Admirer

There was this guy who I looked up to as a guide when I just started studying Japanese and I liked him after that because he lent me a helping hand. But then, he changed from the person who I once saw him as.
He said some pretty rude things which were nothing but his own
messed up perception. He was rude to me for no reason, like the
whole of last year.
He is a proud jerk and picks on me just because he can.

I don't want to talk to him anymore, but somehow my mind is
refusing to let go, I feel like a fool.
Why the fuck am I attached to this jerk? I hate myself for it.
But really, I want to never talk to him again.
I wish I thought he never existed and got it all out of my head.

This is so messed up, please help me.

I miss you (rant) (dont bother reading) (1)

sad

We've been dating for a month now, and I hardly get to see you. Even though we dont live that far away, our busy schedules keep us apart. I'm lucky to see you once a week, and even then only for a few hours...
I wish we could go back to the way things were when we were not dating, we saw eachother more often then. But now you have your project due soon, and I have my finals and work.
I know a month really isnt that long of a time to be dating, and people would tell me to just suck it up because so, but we've been "dating" as friends since christmas, I was always just too much of a pussy to ask you.
Last night, I was listening to Vanilla Twilight by Owl City (who you know I hate), but I couldnt stop listening to it because that's how I feel.

all in all, I cant wait till you are done with your project and my finals are over, because then maybe we dont have to worry about going whole weeks w/o seeing eachother.

Hopeless of finding love (6)

Maelle

I'm 21 (well 20 at the moment but I'll be turning 21 this year) and sad to say, I never had a boyfriend before. I've been asked out twice in my life time and both have been rejected (the first one doesn't really count because that was back in Grade 7. The Second one was a friend of mine. I didn't really seem him anything more than a friend). I've been hit on quite a few times-- those guys were either too young or had girlfriends.

Honestly, I don't think I'm ugly at all. I'm slightly chubby (size 3 in jeans) but I'm healthy. I'm quite outgoing and I'm just a bit shy when I meet people for the first time. However, I do start getting talkative when I get to know them more. When my friends and I hit the clubs, I usually just stick with them the whole night.

I guess this subject of finding what love is didn't really hit me until last year when all my best friends suddenly had boyfriends and I was the only one who didn't. I feel like I'm being left behind like I'm missing something I should be experiencing. I do want to find out what it is like to fall in love with someone but I feel like I won't find him at all. After watching some shows that had 30+ year old women who is looking for love, I feel like maybe I'll turn like them too and it scares me. I know probably it is my fault for having quite a high expectation but I still don't want to go out with just anyone. There was a guy that I "like" from high school (still kind of think of him now and then too) but the only problem is that I haven't seen him for nearly 3 years (he graduated a year before me) and that he doesn't really know I exist.

would you change your appearance for your partnet? (4)

Secret Admirer

would you change or refrain from making any changes to your appearance if it would please your partner more? or do you think how you look is totally an individual thing and if your partner doesn't like it he/she isn't worth dating anyway.

i'm talking about more 'basic' changes like haircuts or dressing; not stuff like plastic surgery.