Throughout the 4 years, we often crossed paths around campus with me avoiding him and thinking I would forget him soon enough. To my surprise, he would constantly look at me. Not glance, but look long enough to be almost staring...but not in a creepy way. I always felt that he went out of his way to look at me. See, he is very handsome and was a athletic star in school and always had many beautiful girls around him, I couldn't imagine why he would keep looking at a girl who keeps on avoiding him.

After a few times, he really started to make deeper impressions on me. Soon after, we both started our own long-term relationships. However, he continued to pay attention to me while I grew colder and colder with him out of guilt, bc i was dating someone else (who I had a nightmare with). On graduation day I wondered whether I was ever going to see him again. It's been 2 years since graduation and surprised to find myself googling him from time to time. However, he had deleted his fb and I can't seem to find anything about him.

Now, there is a guy who cares about me, and I care about him too. But he REALLY cares about me.
We have everything scarily in common, right from our musical preferences, sexual fantasies to tastes in interiors.
But I just don't feel like I'm into him?
Should I still give him a chance even if I don't feel a 'like-like' feeling or tingles?
I don't know if it's a friendzone or what, but I get shit scared if anything related to even going out comes up.
My fingers get cold as if I'm awaiting an execution and my heart feels like it stops, and yet races like it wants to run away in some blinding rain. It's like a deafening sound of a thousand beating wings.

Supplementary: she is six years older than me. Maybe she sees that as a problem.

My friend has been home for about a year now, and we have been getting on amazingly. Since the break up with my ex we have been hanging out almost all the time and talking just about every day. A few months ago I realized I actually still care about her. Since that realisation I've been trying to see if we can be more than friends since things have changed a lot. For one we actually see each other. For another we have started making a lot of sexual jokes around each other. I've also been less of a bitch about touching her, patting her on the head, a hand on the back, hugs when we leave which have been getting less awkward. Sadly the places we hang out (her bedroom and my basement where we keep the big screen) have only regular chairs so cuddling is almost impossible. She has me over a fair bit and I've eaten dinner with her family, I even go shopping for groceries with her (she pays for her own groceries, and I drive even though she said she could). Like me she hasn't dated much, and of the guys who have been interested in her, she has admitted that in hind sight I am probably the best.

So basically, I guess I am looking for any advice on how to smooth the process and make it more likely that she will be interested. Thanks for your time.

We met through some mutual friends at the Community College in my city, and he is a international student. Long story short, she ends up getting into U-Michigan, which is the school her parents would kill for her to go to, so, she ends up going. A month later, I visit her in Michigan where we decided to break up because through our time apart, we both realized distance wouldn't work for us. I would want to talk to her, she would be completely disinterested, and she was the kind to think "out of sight, out of mind".

It's been almost 6 months since we broke up, and I cant get her out of my mind. The past few months, she's been in my dreams weekly, but since friday I have been dreaming about her every night. Each time a scenario where we meet again after a long time, and get back together. I am starting to worry for my sanity, as I just cant get her out of my head. I want her back, but I know nothing will come of talking to her about it, and bringing it up.

tl;dr
I am still in love with my ex who moved across the country for University.