I've never worn a condom before, so I really have no idea about them. What brands do you guys recommend? Is there a trade off between sensitivity and durability, or do condoms take away enough sensitivity that it doesn't matter? Do you have to replace what you're wearing every time you ejaculate?
Yeah, you should replace the condom.
Anyways, just get a bunch of different condoms and try them out. And condoms don't really do much to make it less of a good time. Sometimes the opposite. Once in a while I'll throw a condom on and just fap and I'll cum like 10x harder.
best to just try and find a brand that you and your partner like. trojan is an obvious brand to start out with, good luck with the zillion varieties though. it depends on how hard you personally ejaculate, but frankly its extremely unlikely an ordinary condom would make much of a difference if you can consistently break 'ultra-thin' ones. theyre really not that thin. yes, for gods sake do replace them every time you ejaculate. you may have to replace them multiple times before that even happens depending on how shitty they are.
personally i hate them to death and avoid using them whenever possible. cant feel shit. id rather just have a blowjob than use one.
Uh, weird question maybe. When a guys pees inside you while intercourse, could it be harmfull?
I read this story where various guys came and pissed inside a woman, she took no damage, but I don't think this story was realistic.
>>2 Actually, I think it could be pretty sexy. So no risk of infections or any other natsy stuff?
>>6 no more risk than you would get just from regular sex. normal urine is sterile. if the guy is sick, his urine is going to be affected, but its nothing you wouldnt catch from exchanging other bodily fluids that pass during ordinary sex.
> whats difficult is peeing into a toilet when you have an erection, since youre either peeing upwards or squashing your tubes and very painfully attempting to pee almost parallel
Headstand; Problem solved.
Seconded, urine is sterile so no problem on this flank, however it has alkaline pH which will affect the vaginal pH, possibly allowing growth of micro organisms that otherwise wouldn't grow there. I encourage you to take a bath immediately if you happen to try this.
I forgot to add, that i cannot pee while i have a full erection.
the main problem here is really the pH of the urine that will affect the pH of the vagina and may cause some side-effects
I personally can pee with a full erection, however it is somewhat painful.
It's very hard to pee with afull erection but i had a gf who was into bsdm tied me down and MADE me pee, while pushing her tushy or tits in my face and other arousing stuff, it's posible to pee...
Hi guys, 16/m here.
Lately I've been kinda bummed over the idea of sex, because... I want it to mean something for me. But it seems everybody my age is goin' out, losing their virginity and sexing people they don't actually love. It's sorta a big deal for me, it seems most girls have already done it(a lot are fucking pregnant goddamn), and it doesn't look like anyone is willing to save themselves for someone who they are SURE they can go the distance with... It's like the idea of sex is cheapened by people who just go off with anybody instead of staying monogamous with somebody they really are in love with. I don't want to fall in love and then find out that the person I love already did it with some guy they didn't like enough to stay with. That's just horrible.
Does anyone feel this way?
I wish somebody would agree. Give me hope, /sexual/!
Sex is not about love or anything magical like that. You can use it to express love or please a loved one or do it lovingly, but its not in itself about love.
I met a girl in a very slutty situation (me and her boyfriend pleasuring her at the same time.) later we were going out ourselves and have been together for five years, now we're engaged. the love of my life was found by being a bit slutty so i wouldn't diss being slutty when it comes to sex, just the stupid things that people do when being slutty.
sex and love can be related, but please nobody treat them like they're the same thing
>>7>>8 "I think it says a lot about "people like you" that "intimate relationship" equals "sex" for you." "On the one hand, they criticize people living out their sex drive and being over-sexed - but on the other hand, all they think about when getting into a relationship is: Should I sleep with him/her?"
Thank you for saying that. I have failed to articulate for a long time why the purity obsessed people bug me so much.
Sex may feel good, but from personal experience, sex with someone you love is a very uplifting experience compared to basic sex. I waited over two decades to lose my virginity, and it was to someone I loved dearly. I had the opportunity to lose my virginity two times before this, but I didn't bite. Wasn't interested in such boring people who would fuck just to fuck.
It really depends on your mindset, because some guys and girls will get the same pleasure out of sex whether they're in love or not. Since you don't seem to be that type... don't fret about losing your virginity. If you want to, do it. You can't plan out when you'll be presented the opportunity or if you should take it. When you do have loving sex, it will still mean more to you than anything a one night stand can give you.
sex is the pre-eminant form of bringing love into physical reality
Dear OP,
Stay with what you believe. You're refreshing to "listen" to.
More people think like you than you'd realise. I'm a lot older than you, and yes, A VIRGIN.
I'm a moral prick and I keeps it to myself.
A lot of people who have sex too early aren't happy with what their lives become. Then they don't have an answer to pull them away from the downward spiral they feel they've fallen into. Hopefully someone can go rescue them, but I prefer to rescue myself while I still can. It's pretty easy: don't do it.
I'm not going to bother defending the claims people made against those who choose to wait instead of sleeping around. There's no point to it, really. Regardless of the argument you represent, such as that sex isn't special, it's routine, and that all animals do it, it all comes down to one thing:
MORALS.
In a society where sex has just about become a common recreational activity, I will hold on to the belief that it is and will always be the greatest form of intimacy you can share between you and your loved one, and should be reserved for such.
But I will address one thing.
"Sex is routine, sex is mechanical, it's what all animals do."
FYI, there are a lot of human traits that are less than pleasant that we have all learned to subdue (at least, I hope so). Such as, the urge to take advantage of those weaker than us. To share with others. We were taught all these things when we were kids.
> sex has just about become a common recreational activity
I need to go to your recreational parks.
Sex, like everything else seems more interesting when you're not doing it, or when it's new.
If you convince people sex is so important, then when they are inevitably disappointed (and they are always disappointed), you make them feel like they have nothing else to look forward to. This cheats them out of an important part of their emotional development; by raising sex onto a pedestal, you're actually cheapening it.
I think the greatest form of intimacy is trust, and the fact is that having to reconcile that level of trust, with that level of fear is a large part of why most people don't have productive and successful sexual experiences early in their sex life.
Trust is a key issue. Doubting ruins any relationship. I'd disagree with >>7, >>8 because someone who didn't think sex was very important will have a hard time fully earning my trust. It's not just about the two in the relationship, but how they react when other temptations come along. It becomes a daily question that floats through my mind.
I don't know about breaking up with someone just because they've had sex already, but I don't last very long in a relatiionship where our focuses are so different. There's just too much pressure, and even romantic things aren't about the relationship or our feelings, it's all about his agenda.
How a relationship begins in the first place also sets a foundation for it's future. I see a lot of couples having to keep spinning their stories because of how the relationship started.
Funny, I recently addressed this with another of my own volition.
I'll reiterate the distinction between sex and affection that's been mentioned here: the two are not the same.
Sex is, first and foremost, for making babies - OR getting your body to shut up about wanting you to make babies. It being pleasurable is an expected side effect as motivation for the making babies part - finding a loophole around this expectation (lol masturbation) when the partner choice or child-raising environment are poor can actually be argued as wise. At the very least, if kids are an unacceptable or undesired consequence, sex for pleasure should be done responsibly to limit the consequences. STDs are a more dangerous nuance that encourages limiting your sexual partners and making sure you can trust them, but isn't a complete deterrent unless it somehow destroys the entire population. Just be careful about it. Sex for pleasure and little more is feasible between mature partners, but due to the amount of both-parent rearing required for humans, it's likely that there's some chemical encouragement/enforcement of attachment to anyone you have sex with, whether you want it that way or not. So there are some real dangers of sex-for-kicks causing as many problems as it solves (sexual release that's potentially superior to solo vs. jealousy, possessiveness, one-sided attachment, motherhood desires/demands, etc - though all resistible or possible to talk through if both are honest enough about it).
Is it possible at all? Does it fit in?
What does it feel like? And for her?
Even on an anonymous imageboard like this I can't see anyone with experience wanting to answer this.
>>4 this.
and yes, we all know what happens when a woman gets horny. thanks. a preteen doesnt even know what horny is. theres no way in hell they are getting wet the first time, theyre just confused. unless, as i said, you are talking about filipino child prostitutes. in which case, again, use your common sense. look at the size of the girl, the size of your dick, and you figure out if its going to make it all the way in, its not hard. girth wise its never going to be a problem.
Okay then Im going to get some lube and go for it!
Thanks >>2,5
Do human kind a favour and kill yourself, also kill as many as you know of your kind before killing yourself.
>>7
No, and please have as many children as you can and respect their individual choices!
We guys always have some spare child-love to spread!
There is no child that will consent to sex without being drugged and/or violently forced. You are delusional, and may want to kill yourself.
I don't know, let's see if my foot can fit up your ass.
>>12
Underage (pedo-level) kids don't understand what love and sex are all about. I don't care how "mature" they claim to be, they're not. I'm also inclined to believe the only sex ed she's had is through television, if she used that exact term. If I were you I'd do the responsible adult thing and explain to her exactly what it is she's asking and what the repercussions are/can be, and NOT engage in any sexual acts with her. Otherwise, you're probably going to mess her up mentally/emotionally for the rest of her life.
So, making long story short, my gf is not that interested in sex and I feel like we have sex just because I want to. It's always me who have to start, and it's always me who have to do the whole job and I guess that if I don't start the whole process nothing would happen. I already tried talking to her about this but had no real results.
Watching porn with her is not an option yet due to some technical reasons.
Anyone have a suggestion?
sorry to say this but maybe she's just not that into you for w/e reason. Doesn't mean its about you though, just maybe a mismatch or something?
There's also the possibility that she was sexually abused in the past; that could be part of why she's not very interested in sex.
There are lots of possibilities, I know it.
Guess I'll buy her a vibrator and encourage her to use it by herself
Looks like you found a rare woman that is just not into having sex. If you cannot get her into sex after two years another two years will not help. You must either accept that there will be no sex in the relationship, or find someone with a healthy attitude towards sex. Pushing her to do something she doesn't want to do will get you nowhere.
I still have hopes of getting her into sex even though two years have already passed and I do have reasons for hoping so.
Anyway, guess I'll stick with my idea of buying her a vib
ha ha it would suck if she turned out to like the vibe more than you
Well, at least I could watch her masturbating too
She could be asexual as well. I had a girlfriend who was exactly like that.
Hello,
In college there was a very pretty girl in college, and she was rumored to be a virgin. There was this heartbreaker guy who every girl longer to be with, and he fell in love with her. She refused him. They became friends, he tried again, she refused him again. She reportedly told him she's not interested in sex.
I am a nerd type, no muscles to speak of, I wear glasses, and am very shy. Guess what, after three years she once sat down beside me in a lecture room and asked me if I mind her holding my hand. I said it's ok. Next day after classes she came up to me and leaned on me, and put her arm on my shoulder. I am shy but especially if I am in love, and I never looked at her that way, so I managed to work up some courage and told her we should go for a walk and talk.
We ended up at the house where her parents were renting her an apt. and she asked me to go up and we had tea and she asked me if I would stay for a night of cuddling and sleeping together, no sex. I was so confused I said no, and she didn't show interest me the next day or anytime since then but damn I was a fool. I still never even cuddled with anyone in bed ever!
Anyways, I am >>18 and my advice is to tell her you don't want to force her, but you want sex, and if she doesn't want to give it to you then she should be okay with you getting a second gf who you have sex with. You could still stay "friends or more".
Has anyone else ever had a crush on one person of the same sex in their lifetime? I feel strange, because I've never and still don't consider men attractive other than perhaps thinking "I wanna look like Robert Redford" type shit. I don't particularly like the idea of cock, being penetrated, or even really doing more than kissing/cuddling an old friend of mine I had in high school.
I ask if anyone else has experienced this, because it seems weird to say "I like girls plus I liked one guy" (not that I'd ever say it non-anonymously). Does this make me bi, by most people's standards or do we get a pass on one confusing phase? Can you even go through phases like that?
If it's confusing, then yes, you get a "pass". Otherwise you're bi, or so that's conventionally how it goes. Personally I've had some pretty intense fantasies about a good friend of mine. I'm not entirely sure what he would think if he knew I became aroused when he used to tell me of his masturbation habits, and his cock size.
I'm feeling somehow attracted to Felix from The Cat Empire. In a "I wanna look like him", but also in "wow, I don't know what I would do if I was alone with him". Wait what the hell am I talking about.
My point of view: if there is sexual attraction, then you might be bi and maybe you should investigate the case. If it's just a platonic love you're into, I don't think the problem is the same.
i had a bizarre attraction to a guy who wasnt even good looking like in grade school. it may be indirectly because he used to talk about his sister having sex all the time. this is back when i used to have to jerk it to lingerie catalogues, so pretty much anything got me going i guess. since then, especially after the internet starting getting big, nothing similar.
OP here, thanks for everybody's replies. It was a somewhat common joke in TV for references to be made to people "experimenting" in their teens, but I wasn't sure how much of that was truth and how much was just "Ha, we implied this dude's gay."
>>2,3
Still not sure if the feeling was sexual. I thought he was cute, he was cool (we both listened to the same music, but he dressed the part), and he was taller and older than me. That may be part of it. I know it left me feeling emasculated to go work a 40 hour work week and hear this dude brag about all these girls loving his dick and how he didn't even have to get a job or driver's license.
So, maybe I just couldn't compete genetically. Maybe it'd be easier for me to be loved by him than compete with him.
I dunno, every question brings up even more. Maybe I'm overanalyzing this, but I would appreciate if anyone else has input. 2,3, and 4 have all brought up some things that I have to ponder awhile.
OK, most controversial topic EVAR.
I do understand how everyone having kids should feel about the existence of pedophiles. I completely understand government's stance at all.
But actually, what would your advice for a pedophile resisting his urges for all of his life be? (Except to kill myself that is?)
There is no counseling, no Paedophiles Anonymous, nothing.
You're just here in the world struggling against jailbait... and what?
>>176 attention whore more like. Although, I guess most little girls are.
I'm a 19-year-old female. I remember when I was around 6 years old, I was very horny. I always rubbed my pussy against a pillow, and cum. I didn't know what it was, but i felt so guilty about it. I did that til 11, and I didn't get horny that much nemore. But I did, at one point, fantasize about older men especially my teachers.
not anymore tho...
For me...9-10 years older...ok...acceptable....younger than that...well...that's sick! (I own opinion anyway...).
I once had this little girl (from my distant relative whom I don't know ever since...) from our family reunion and she had a crush on me..(because nobody wants to make friends with her and I was the only one who brings her out to a park...have fun...you know...those child things). There is one night that we sleeps together. She was scared of thunders that time and I was hugging her. Suddenly she kissed my lips and it's not long that I my mind runs wild...thinking she is cute and maybe beautiful when she grows up (she is!). I can't help myself rubbing mine on hers and she seems immersed in that way. I feel guilty guilty after that...
Now, we still meet her...it's a good thing but the bad thing is that she had her crush on me and loves to hugged me wherever and whenever she can....I need help! I am 22 and she is 12 now....She had a seductively long hair that I loved stroke and smells on....I really need help guys...
>(I own opinion anyway...)
It's "My own opinion anyway". Sorry guys..
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Okay guys I'm new to this thread.
I haven't read it as it's long.
Anyway,
>>1
My advice, as a pedo, or more accurately a , is:
1) Consider what is your worth. Are you good at something? Are you a better person than the average?
2) If no, kill yourself (whether pedo or not). If YES:
3) Find out what is your goal in your life that if you achieve would make you feel you had a complete life...
4) If it's not sex with kids, then ignore your sexuality and dedicate your life to the goal
5) In the case when it's inevitable for your HAPPINESS to fuck kids, then you have no option but do it.
6) Remember that it might not turn out as you expected. Do it safely: Don't molest your own child or someone in the family, or someone who might tell his/her parents or the police. My suggestion is a child prostitute, various countries infamous for sex tourism offer relatively safe options, research it...
If you are even thinking about sex with a child you should be locked up in a funny house until you have been brain washed back to normal. You are not safe in public if you are having to battle with yourself to touch that kid sitting next to you or avoiding kids in public because you get turned on.
Put it this way, if i had a kid and you were sitting next to him or her on the bus and i know what you were thinking i would be taking some very violent action towards you. Think about it if you were a parent, you would not want your children getting in danger, i hope you never have children.
If you are even thinking about sex with a child you should be locked up in a funny house until you have been brain washed back to normal. You are not safe in public if you are having to battle with yourself to touch that kid sitting next to you or avoiding kids in public because you get turned on.
>>182
stop being so self righteous. saying they need to be made 'normal' is like trying to 'fix' gay people. they just gotta live with it. who gives a shit as long as they arent raping kids. thinking about something and actually doing it are completely different.
Not that I'm interested or anything you know, but what is the legal age of marrying a girl in India? What about foreigners say marrying a very young girl over there.
You know, just curious is all.
>>185
I don't know the legal age, but in practice nobody cares about it, marriages are often arranged even before the bride's birth.
However this might not be due to pedophilia at all.
Another factor is large social imbalance and practical uselessness of female children (they won't earn much). Ultrasound is banned, but it can still be done illegally by portable ultrasound at home for a fee. Then if the fetus is female, she is often aborted. If the family can't afford mobile ultrasound, the girl is born, but might be left at the hospital. If a foreigner is seen in the maternity ward, often he might be asked whether he needs the baby, sometimes for free sometimes for money.
Note that this is not explicitly for pedophiles, either, lot of people just want to adopt but it's very hard in their home country, so it's assumed that's what they are there for, abandoned babies.
Adopting at an older age is possible too without involving any authorities, look around in poorer neighbourhoods. This might be risky though, you might be robbed, kidnapped, or killed if you look muslim. Note that some Europeans who are not blonde also look muslim to an analphabetic Indian.
Fun times! I know the title of this thread sounds very improbable, but it is what happened. My boyfriend and I were spooning, cooling off after some sex--or rather, I was. I was very tired, and feeling extremely vulnerable; we'd had to quit the sexings because the anal sex had started to really hurt. I didn't really want to spoon because I was afraid he would put it in again; but he told me it was OK, he wouldn't. Long story short, he wasn't paying attention to where the hell he was putting his penis, and he ended up putting it in more.
Now, my boyfriend feels horrible about this, possibly worse than I do. We are still quite happily together, and I have no desire to press any kind of charges. I just needed to fucking talk about it. I'm not the kind of person who keeps secrets, but I couldn't tell anybody. None of my friends would understand if I told them how much this upset me, and I couldn't tell them anyways--at the time this happened, it was illegal for my boyfriend and I to be having sex. Yes, 4-ch, I used to be jailbait. Consciously I forgave him months ago; but all my more irrational emotional bits can think of is that I trusted him over my natural instinct, and he violated that, taking advantage of me while I was vulnerable and hurting. I know he didn't do it on purpose. But I still get the feeling like I want to tear open my skin so I can scrub the inside of it clean, and wash it away a couple of times a week.
>>4
she didnt give any details on age. a statutory rape charge isnt gonna fly if theyre close enough in age, especially since they apparently were fucking on a regular basis already. 'i felt tired' isnt gonna work in court.
hell i dont even see how theres any trauma. boohoo, i felt tired one day and he wanted to keep going, oh now im all raped.
...sounds to me like something you would be mad at him for right after it happens, but would normally soon be forgotten.
If you don't like the guy for it (and that's what it sounds like to be since you're still upset with it), leave him. Otherwise, if you really believe it was an accident like he said, let bygones be bygones.
Either way I still wouldn't call it rape.
>>1 You're doing it wrong. You need lube to do it anal.
This is ridiculous. You and him are upset over having accidentally been probed? After you just had sex? How long did it last? Ten seconds?
Not rape! stop tryin to ruin the guys life. Get over yourself. Can't believe that. You are shocking.
I only gave him permission to put two inches inside me.
The creep put in two-and-a-half.
I never felt so violated.
You should be careful with the words you're using. Some words are enough to destroy lives.
I question just how much respect he has for you. Should you really be with this guy? It's not like it just slipped in. and out. and in.
this iw why you should be a lesbian
I am noticing that being a homosexual appears to be the latest fad here in the US. Am I wrong or is it that obvious?
One thing about being gay is many people are inherently gay, so it's not a "fad" or a "choice", it's who they are. You may notice homosexuality being more prevalent because it is becoming more acceptable and people are being more open about their sexual orientation. I have a lot of gay friends and for the most part I can't think of anyone who would be faking it, or one day deciding, "I've liked guys, but I think I really like girls now." However there could be cases where people experiment and find out that they are bisexual and enjoy fooling around with both sexes. Bisexuality might be something that is faked too, because some guys get drawn to the novelty of a bisexual girl and the threesome fantasy and girls could use that to try to get his attention.
>>1 I am noticing that religious homophobes always refer to gay people as "homosexuals" in a pathetic attempt to sound like they're not homophobes.
As regard to the initial issue, I think it's just that people have become more accepting of gay people. More people, ie other than flamers who can't hide it, are staring to come out, because the waters are fine.
My problem is that it has become too okay to be a lesbian. Now, that's all fine and good. Acceptance is great. Even if they are lying to be cool. Whether or not the girls are really into other girls is not my concern. My concern is in the gap of acceptance.
I am a gay man. I have dealt with more shit because of this than anything else in my life. I have been in three fights in my life, and all three of them were guys trying to start shit because I was gay. Most men are still repulsed by gay guys, but are accepting of lesbos, even to the point of it being a pretty major sexual fetish. It's cool to watch two chicks together, but if two guys even hug each other, they're fags.
Porn aside, most people are very accepting of lesbians. Lesbians are cute. They're little girlfriends that hug and kiss, and do a little gardening, and bake cakes for the neighbors. Gay men are all twinks that do crystal meth and dance to bad techno music, sucking and fucking everything in sight.
>>14 What you said is only true for attractive lesbians.
Why all the bisexuality hate? Just because a guy doesn't want to like you gay guys exclusively, doesn't give you the right to deny decades of research to the contrary.
>>If some guy had released a song that said "I kissed a boy and I liked it" I guaran-fucking-tee that it would flop and fall off the charts.
This song wasn't exactly a flop.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85Rj7fzwDrE
I can't help but feel like that song subconsciously influenced my homosexuality all those years ago.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HTN6Du3MCgI
What about this one then?