So...I recently found out my girlfriend shaves down there via, cramming my hand down her pants. However, I kinda wish she had a small little amount of pubes down there. Should I just not give a shit or how would I break the ice on asking her "Hey, you should grow that out a bit...." I shave mine to an extent, not completely but just enough to were it's not a bush but matches the rest of my large amount of body hair. I don't know if it's odd of me..I'm not attracted to a huge bush but I'd rather there be some pube-age rather than tiny bristles down there....
Don't see a problem there. I also like it a little hairy. Not too much, but a little makes it more sexy and mature. Just ask her if she will let it grow a little to see how it will look like on her, just because you are curious.
Maybe she will accept it after trying by herself.
i found out that my gf shaves her downstairs. i rather like it. she says she does it cuz she likes to feel smooth and clean.
Yeah, most girls who shave do it because it feels cleaner to them.
But if you're comfortable enough to cram your hand down her pants to rub her one, you should be comfortable enough to say in passing during one of your rub-down sessions, "hey, you should grow this out a little... just a bit, y'know." be calm and honest.
OH GOD
I LOL'd
Seriously, man, don't do that. Just don't. That would be brutally awkward, you might not recover from it.
I've never talked to a girl about her pubic hair before, but I imagine, like with most potentially awkward topics, that you should ease into it and, when you've steered a conversation in this direction, use an equal helping of playfulness and seriousness to pop the request.
All of you... make sure to bathe before making love.
That is all.
It helps. It really does.
>>1 Speaking from personal experience?
Care to share?
Fucking grungy people is less fun than fucking clean people. You can enjoy more things, like oral, etc, when someone's clean than otherwise. If some chicks pussy/asshole smells like the horse pen at the local fair, then I ain't goin down on her. Also, especially for uncircumcised men, when that smegma gets built up, women hate to suck your dick.
Hmmm... very informative. Ive always believed that the two things that anyone could do to make themselves more attractive is 1.) Better hygene and 2.) better shape. This helps confirm that.
It's just that a friend of mine, a guy, and me had a conversation on sexual fantasies.
None of us actually planned to talk about it.
It was unforeseen and it just came up.
He wanted to know, and I asked him if he really did just in case; and he wanted to know badly, so I told him.
Through the whole conversation there was no awkwardness.
It was only after the convo he said he felt bad he couldn't help but imagine me in his head doing whatever I said with him and he felt bad as I was his friend.
But I told him not to feel bad or get flustered.
We even had a good laugh later on but it still leads me to wonder if a discussion of sexual fantasies taking place between a girl and her close friend who happens to be a guy, alright to have happened?
So, Was it okay to have had this conversation?
Well, talking about this stuff might give him the wrong idea. If you are just friends and ONLY friends, and that is as far as you are willing to take this (and you're certain of that) then be sure to let him know just how deep into the friend-zone he is. Just to avoid potential confusion later on.
I don't mean for you to come up to him and say "Look, I don't know what's going on in your head, but I will never fuck you, ok?". Just make a gesture, or something. Be subtle about it. If you feel that's necessary anyway...
>>2
He was curious about what my fantasies were.
I told him "Are you sure? Because I can't have you freaking out"
But he told me to go on anyway. I was hesitant even after that.
But I know him, once he is curious; he would have to know whatever it is.
I had that fixed, the friend zone point you mentioned...
>>4
I don't think it was bad, I'm guessing you haven't really discussed those kind of things before with anyone and this is a first?
discussing this kind of thing is, in my opinion, not that abnormal. shit, i talk about my sexual fantasies with a homosexual middle-aged man (i'm a 24 heterosexual male), and I've talked about my sexual fantasies with at least a couple of women friends of mine who were never involved with me sexually or romantically
it all just depends on the people involved. if you're worried about sexual overtones (i was honestly a bit weirded out the first time i talked with that middle-aged man i mentioned, but i've come to realize that he's just a pervy [read: normal] old man and an awesome friend and would never lay a hand on me), then either avoid it next time or try (either directly or indirectly) to make it clear that you're not interested in doing those sorts of things with them.
it's only weird if you think it is.
He might want you. But he's very probably just very sexually frustrated/horny/lonely. He may just want some masturbation material. He may want to see if he has a chance with you. If you're interested, ask him about his fantasies.
when you orgasm, do you ever squirt or have a large amount of liquid come out of your vagina at once? girls only please.
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>>15
Oh God. A MySQL-Injection on a kareha board. That's fantastic.
Yes they do, my current gf squirts a lot. She told me no guy made her squirt before she met me, not sure I believe her and think she is stroking my ego :p
But yes, I have had a few gf's who squirt. One a few years ago used to leave huge puddles on the bed every time we had sex, my current gf doesn't do that, but there is definite squirting action going on. It's very slippery and better than any lube you can buy in the store. It's the best!
Wow, a lot of false information here. I'm a guy, but I'd like to contribute to this.
First of all, the fluids are NOT mostly urine. Maybe they can piss themselves a little bit if they were holding it in before you guys hit the bed, but think about it; urine comes from the urethra, not the vagina.
And secondly, unbeknown to most, ALL girls have the ability to squirt. It can actually be learned, or naturally developed, and has a lot to do with muscle control.
Can a girl ever squirt by masturbating? How do you train yourself to do it? Does it indicate a more intense orgasm?
>>20
For a male who thinks there's a lot of "false information" here, you got wrong info too, my friend.
Female ejaculate is released from the urethra. It's not urine (at least, neither mine nor my girlfriend's seems to be). Anything released through the vagina is not female ejaculate, it's just her producing more lubrication through arousal. Happens with my GF and myself all the time.
>>21
I've only squirted c/of my GF, and her likewise. It's from G-spot stimulation, so I'm sure a woman would be able to make herself squirt.
this is just my own speculation, which means it's probably wrong, but since the private bits of women and men are FAIRRRRLY similar in some ways (like how the clit is in some ways similar to the head of the penis), is it unreasonable to hypothesize that perhaps women who squirt are secreting the same kind of substance that gets mixed in with semen when men ejaculate...? I forget what it's called, but isn't there some kind of secretion that mixes in with the stuff from a man's testicles which, when combined all together, forms semen as we usually see it?
We're young virgins, fresh out of high school. As unlikely of an idea as it seemed at the time, we both believe we are soulmates.
For nigh on three years we been smoothly diving in the ocean of love, with little interference or need for air. I cherish his existence more than anything on the planet, and he pretty much worships me.
But.... He has a dual personality thing going on.... I mean, we're both tilting towards the insane side of mentality on a day-to-day basis, so it's to be expected. He has a good side and a bad side, and they argue in his head.
The good side wants a white picket fence house, a Christian wedding, and a long faithful and happy life with children and such.
The bad side wants him to **** me every chance he gets. The bad side wants to look on as I hook up with other people. The bad side wants a lot of things.
So, naturally, being in conflict with himself, and valuing my opinion, he just does whatever I say is okay.
Have you ever been in any other relationship before this?
Maybe the healthiest thing to do would be to keep some distance from each other (take a break) before you move in any direction from here. Sort out what you really want and give him time to do the same. Keep us updated.
hop on the good foot and do the bad thing. end of story.
Stay strong. If you've thought out your beliefs it becomes all the more easy to keep to them. You can only hold firm to a belief that you've found reason to hold firm to. All else is a lie.
just to through this out it almost seems like you boyfriend is just trying to trick you with his story of split personalities so you won't get angry at him for the things he says or thinks remember both of those personalities are him its not like he is possesed or something. Also I agree with >>7 and >>5
If you a good relationship (like you claim), just talk about it. It seems you haven't been doing that. Seriously, is it that hard to communicate with him about something that bothers you both?
Anyway, if you are falling for strangers (and actually go and make out with them...), maybe you don't love him as much as you think you do.
Just have sex. Enjoy your sexuality. Have fun. Be dirty. Enjoy yourself and him.
Enjoy your sex life. No one is clean.
I find this post really confusing. It's not part of his "bad side" that your boyfriend wants to fuck you, that's a pretty normal thing for someone who is physically attracted to you to want. It being "all the time" isn't bad either, most teenagers have a high libido. To be honest, from your post it sounds like your boyfriend is a normal guy. I really don't want to come across as being mean or harsh, but it sounds like you enjoy drama or attention (from your post). I got that impression from your description of falling for strangers and so on. It's not a bad thing, everyone wants and needs attention, and I think it's really good that you recognize the need for change. You remind me a lot of one of my friends. She is very in love with her boyfriend, but he is "safe" to her (it reminds me of what you said about your boyfriend, that he's always checking with you about what is okay to do.) and doesn't provide her with the kind of excitement she wants (the thrill/romance of kissing strangers, the drama of making up with her boyfriend afterwards). You both sound like you really care for each other and it would be stupid to throw that away. It's kind of worrying that you refer to your boyfriend's "bad side" a lot and describe him as having a split personality, when he honestly seems to act like anyone would in that situation (seeking reassurance from you constantly because he's afraid of losing you [justified as you have cheated on him], wanting to have sex with you [don't really need to explain why this is normal], wanting to watch other people having sex with you [a common fetish]). If you really want to shape up I would seriously address why you think these things are wrong. You seem really confused, morally. I'm sorry if this isn't very coherent, but I'm not at the top of my advice-giving game right now.
id say, Just do it.
Once you've tried it you'll get over the tension and you can be more casual and maybe that insane bit comes from being a bit on the hypersexual side and not getting some...
Ass fingering is not as enjoyable as some people would have you believe. Today in the shower I figured I'd try sticking a finger in my ass and seeing where that would lead to. Well, after getting lubed up and ready to go, I went ahead and stuck one in there, then I thought "Well... now what?", so I started whackin off. Well, I came, and the whole experience wasn't any more satisfying than regular masturbation. Sticking a finger up my ass was about as satisfying as taking a shit.
So if you're thinking about trying anal stimulation when you're whacking off, approach it with a healthy amount of skepticism.
You know it's funny, I actually enjoy anally stimulating my partner more than myself. I love fingering, stroking, licking (ESPECIALLY LICKING), etc. a girl's asshole, but I don't want anyone near my own anus. Nuh uh.
Girl here.
I've been going out with my boyfriend for a year now, and we've been having sex for about that long too. He constantly wants to make me feel good when we're having sex, and rather wants to make me to orgasm. Even though I've had a sexual partner before, I've never managed to orgasm at all, not even on my own. We've tried stimulating my G-spot, but that feeling of kinda wanting to pee makes it feel a little uncomfortable. Nothing really seems to get me to that point, and to be honest, I'm not that bothered. However, I would like to experience it just once...
Anyone think of anything we or I can try?
youre holding back your own orgasm by holding in that feeling of wanting to pee.
Every girl is different from that regard. I've once had a gf who only achieved orgasm once after hours. I've also had a gf who was able to orgasm at least once every minute. Depending on the girl, it can be different; honestly, masturbation is the best method to find out what gets you off.
Also remember, there are two different types of orgasms in females, clitoral and vaginal; these are achieved through different types of stimulation. Experiment, try using toys, discuss your feelings with your bf despite any awkwardness, communication helps.
Another factor may be age, but I won't get into that =P.
Good luck, hope this helps!
Thanks for the feedback guys~ I guess I should just go for it one day and see how I go!
Well, I'm a 17 year old male, virgin, never even had any sort of sexual activity what-so-ever. I've only been in 3 very short relationships, however, I began dating this girl after our date on Valentine's Day. She used to be a party girl who had done some pretty terrible things...she claims that shes done with that and most of the people who influenced her are out of her life. I don't believe people ever change but perhaps that bad side of her has actually been buried down...oh well, we'll see.
So this Thursday I went over to her house and we went to the sauna she has in her basement, we started making out inside the sauna (very hot) and I kinda have somewhat of an ass obsession. I decided to grab a hold of her ass which really set her off and the passion continued. Yesterday we went on a long school trip together and decided to go hot-tubing with another friend of ours afterward. After the friend left, we proceeded to her room like we always do. We began the make out and I once again grabbed her ass, then feeling a little brave slid throw her pants so my hand was above her underwear, and lastly just said "screw it" and went under everything to grab some bare ass.
Now I suppose my first sexual experience happened tonight, we were at my house once again making out on my bed this time. We always playfully bite each other, but I was feeling a little sexy so I gave her a devilish smile and bit down on her neck. She went wild, I moved my hand under her clothing onto her bare ass again and began running my fingers down her ass-crack. I accidentally, well somewhat accidentally, touched her asshole. It was very moist and it flexed a bit. As I previously said, I have somewhat of an obsession...I continued to poke and prod at it as she was going wild moving up and down as though we were actually having sex. I began to feel as though she thought I was some sort of sicko so I pulled my hand out of her pants and we continued. I then moved my hand under her shirt and grabbed her breast, feeling even more sexy I ran my hand around her bra and grabbed her bare breast. Sadly, this was my first time feeling a bare breast, I'm 17!!! This continued for about an hour until the sexual movements, moaning and groping stopped. It seemed as though we just had sex although no clothing even came off....I've never actually seen her ass or breasts, although Ive felt them for both for quite a bit...the most nude I've seen her was her bikini....
For a lot of those questions, the answer ends up being the same; 'ask her.' A lot of those depend on individual preferences and relationships, and the best way to really decide on it is something to talk about with each other, more than ask the internet about. In particular, etiquette about condom application and where to cum are largely by preference:
For the condom, she might like putting it on for you to let herself prepare for the funtimes, or understand that you'd know if it's fitting and comfortable better than her or just not want to do it. (Either way, make sure you keep that air pocket for the cum.)
As for where to cum; a condom is usually used so that you can cum as you need to, rather than needing to pull out; I don't think I've ever heard of pulling out when there's a condom in use. But if you want to be really, REALLY careful about pregnancy concerns, you might want to ask about how cautious she wants to be as a lead-in to asking about whether you should pull out as well. Still, I doubt it's an issue. I'm afraid I don't know about disposing of condoms afterwards (I think you tie them and put them in the trash?), but it shouldn't get TOO messy inside, and a few tissues or a three-second tongue-dry can solve the cleanup problem.
Non-penetrative cumming etiquette is totally up in the air, to my knowledge. Cum is sticky and uncomfortable and possibly demeaning but can be a satisfying confirmation of, let's say, enjoyment. Cleaning it up from on her or otherwise usually isn't TOO big a deal if you have some tissues or other disposable paper around; just don't get it on anything that breaks or stains stupidly easily. Just make sure to give her good warning and she'll probably do what she wants for that, or ask about it earlier on once things get steamy.
Which method of contraception do you prefer? My girfriend recently got a Nuva ring, which is pretty cool because you don't have to remember taking pills or worry about condoms.
I know, it depends on whether you are single or not, but I would be interested in reading up on other methods.
>>9
Yes, I know. Nevertheless, we're OK with our current situation. We don't like condoms and are now officially flirting with parenthood.
I think condoms + spermicide is the only fair and effective way of dealing with this issue.
Or then just give up on vaginal intercourse and go anal ^_^
hmm the ring is very easy hormonal stuff.. you dont have to eat pills EVERY DAY!! (ffs, who can remember taking one @ 3pm every day?!!).. the ring i so much better
In contrast with the high failure rate of condoms and the many options available to women, if I were female I'd be thanking the shit out of science and liberalism for all the choices I have (obviously availability varies by region):
Yeah, sponge. I know a girl that got a yeast infection from it. Shit was so cash.
My girlfriend is on the pill and I thank the shit out of her by giving her tons of oral sex. Truly truly, bare-back fucking is a lot more enjoyable than fucking with a condom. I can feel every little nook and cranny of her lady parts and I don't get the chafing that I sometimes get from a condom. She says it feels better for her too. Win-win.
My most recent girlfriend suggested we try spermicidal contraceptive film - DON'T DO IT. It says on the package "you don't feel a thing", and it's REALLY not lying. When we use them, my penis loses all sensitivity, and goes limp within 5 minutes. She can still cum, but not very intensely, and usually only once. :/ Plus they smell, and get really really messy.
So I guess it works by making the guy unable to orgasm. D: Pill FTW. I'm trying to talk her into getting an IUD, though.
Anything that involves me not wearing a condom, it just doesn't feel the same.
I can't even stay hard with a condom on, without one I am a rock star.
I like using condoms. Mainly because i have a latex fetish .__.
Interestingly enough, getting they're "tubes tied" are actually the safest and most convenient form of contraception, not to mention reversible and with little side-effects (unlike the pill). There are a lot of misconceptions out there about this procedure, most of them generated out of fear about the surgery (which in reality is quite a small one). However, always respect their fears and opinions. My advice is to go to Planned Parenthood and discussing the issue with a physician.
Not sure how normal this is, but I love when a girl shoves her middle finger (because it's the longest one) as far up in my ass as possible and massages my prostate my blowing me. It makes my orgasm insanely intense to the point it made me scream this morning like I was being stabbed hahaha.
Anyone else enjoy this type of stimulation?
That will give you cancer if you don't stop.
And blindness and soon your penis will start to be sucked back into your body and you will have two holes.
There are many guys who enjoy it, in the same way as they put a finger up their ass when they masturbate.
cancer and blindness huh? at least everyone on here does their homework before replying LOL
>Anyone else enjoy this type of stimulation?
Anyone endowed with a prostate is able to enjoy that type of stimulation, provided that his cultural prejudices don't spoil the party for him.
My boyfriend won't let me even try to stimulate his prostate. He argues that he doesn't want anything "back there, at all." I understand that he's just not comfortable with it and I'm not going to force him to comply, but I wish he'd just give it a damned chance. It sounds like it would be awesome for him and I'm willing to try it out. But, maybe with a glove or something. Serious question: do you/your partner put something over the finger doing the work to keep the long-lasting smell at bay, or do you just go for it and scrub that hand with boiling water and laundry detergent afterward?
I also enjoy when my prostate is probed by a finger or dildo. It's certainly more hygienic for both people if:
The orgasms are significantly more intense with prostate play. You might not even have to touch his penis to make him come.