Sensible things Tom said: "I'd rather not talk about this if that's alright" (words he should have uttered a long time ago).

Silly things Tom said: all the stuff about having a publicity and private life which are separate.

I still don't think he gets it. Nobody would deny him the right to a private life if, like Adele, he said "oh by the way I got married and I didn't tell any of you!" Oddly for a classicist he doesn't not understand that when you lift the lid off Pandora's box, that is IT. Use your private life for publicity once and the press will hound you forever.