So, there's this girl I've liked for a while. She just got out a relationship, but there was definetly chemistry between us before. And there still is. I'd love to date her, but FUCK, she has cold-sores around her mouth. Life's a bitch. Now I need to find a new girl to pursue.
>>1
Cold sores are caused by the herpes virus. It's only contageous while the sores are present which last about 1-2 weeks.
Anyway, 80 percent of the population contracts herpes virus in childhood (it can be transmitted by a single kiss on the cheeks) but most people (about 75%) doesn't have simptoms at all, others got cold sores occuring about 2-3 times a year.
Although herpes virus remains in the body for life, it doesn't cause life-threatening disease, so you can simply live with it. AFAIK
As for myself, I never had any cold sores, so I don't know if I have the virus or not...
Well, that's the thing, I never have cold sores, and I sure as hell don't want to start having them just because of one girl.
>>3
I understand that, but that's simple: just don't kiss her when she's having sores. If you like this girl, you can still date her, talk to her and if she's asymptotic you may even kiss her. When she's not having sores, the chances of contracting are minimal and you can still lower it with personal hygiene. Anyway, it's your choice...
But don't let her notice that you're avoiding her just because of this. Think with her head: this may be a stigma to her, don't make her remember it.
If she is just "one girl", you shouldn't be together with her even if she didn't have cold sores. Catch my drift? Chances are you already have herpes anyway.
>>but most people (about 75%) doesn't have simptoms at all
Personally I'd have no problems with cold sores 3-6 weeks a year for someone I love. Small price to pay, you will have to make greater sacrefices than that to get a relationship to work.
... Wow. Cold sores may be called herpes, but they're definitely not a big problem, OP. I've only had a coldsore like once every two years, and they've gone away in like 1-2 weeks. Unless you're really good with girls, I think you should just deal with the 1-2 weeks every couple years.