You know those Japanese or Korean TV dramas? Where a girl has pale skin, dyed hair with bangs, big round eyes, etc.? And plays the role of some innocent/happy girl in the drama? Well, I kinda look like that (not on purpose).
The problem started a few years back, when Korean/Japanese dramas got really popular. All of a sudden, I got asked out a LOT. I mean, A LOT. I never got asked out before when I was in high school. So after high school, I didn't know how to handle it. I thought it was only my paranoia at first, but even my friends would make random comments on it:
"Eyes like her's aren't really common on this side of the pond."
"She looks like she could be Korean or Japanese ya know."
And one guy who I was kinda interested in, commented behind my back to my friend, "I like her a lot. I don't know... She just looks like the perfect asian girl!" (Yes, he actually said that.)
I feel that, a lot of guys ask me out because of what I look like. They don't really listen when I talk to them. Or they don't really care what I have to say. For a few dates, I was really mean to them as well, and they still called me back...!! I gave up after a while, and just stayed away from guys. It became a fear.
I didn't actually get my first kiss till this year, with my first boyfriend. It was fine at first, and he never pressured me into doing anything I didn't want to do. But he went away for college, and I tried to keep the relationship intact. But I notice that he never calls me. He never calls anyone, but I figured that if he could say "I Love You" to me, he'd call maybe once a week at least? And the few days I went to visit him, I felt that he was trying really hard to get me to sleep with him. I would try to talk to him, but he'd say I'm really childish. He barely spoke to me during the visits, but would give full attention when trying to get under my shirt. That trip didn't make me feel great at all. And after I got home, he just didn't call. I'm SO scared that he's only with me, because of how I look. I realize that we really have nothing in common. And he really does not have anything to say to me.
I scared that I'm going to keep attracting guys that only want this look, but not ME.
Has this happened to anyone else? Anything I can do?