Male. I had one girlfriend this time last year but she cheated so i dumped her. I pretty much regretted it because I miss having a girlfriend, but I know it wouldn't be a good idea to take her back because I really couldn't trust her. She has a new boyfriend now who I think is a dick. That pisses me off because I feel that she should be single until I find a new girl - like as a punishment. But then I know that's going a bit over the top so I'm less angry about it now. I generally don't speak to her at all.

Theres a girl I like, and we are a great match but she wants to be friends. I don't know if she actually likes me (It really seems it and other people have said it looked that way) but just doesn't want a relationship. So anyway what I'm doing is pretty much avoiding her, but not obviously. Just keeping busy with other friends and uni work, but seeing her (as part of a group) at least once a week. I suppose I want to try to distance myself so that she sees me as less of "just friends". I'm working out, taking care of my appearance and make sure that I'm cheery and happy with everyone when we meet up. There's been times when I've been talking to mutual female friends on nights out and she has acted pretty jealous and then come closer to me to try and get my attention. I didn't give her all my attention though, just enough but then still joking around with the other girls. At the moment I get very jealous if she tells me about her meeting other boys. Theres only been one quick fling she had while away for a few months but I really don't want to talk to her about that whereas with my other female friends I'd talk and joke about that sort of thing.

So, do people think I'm doing the right thing? I know I'm far from "getting the girl", but am I better off doing these actions than trying to cling too much to her? Also, I'm not ruling out any other girls at the moment, it's just I haven't met any that interest me as much as she does.