You rarely hear of a white person not marrying someone because mommy and daddy didn't approve, do you?
>it doesnt take any courage to put yourself ahead of everyone else. thats the complete opposite of 'having balls'.
Taking responsibility for your own life, your own choices, and your own future even if it pisses poor mommy off does take balls. The bitch is still a child, puts her head down in the sand and says "Oh ok mom" because she's too much of a coward to take control of her life.
And please, putting yourself ahead of others is blowing your pay check on booze while your kids have no food. It's dumping your father with Alzheimers in a nursing home and never visiting.
Not allowing your mother to control your life and who you'll date, marry, and spend the next 30+ years until she dies and the next 30+ after she dies with is not "putting yourself ahead of others", don't even try to pretend it is.