And you say this from a first hand experience? I may be self absorbed with this part of my life, but that's because this is a majority of it. She's there every day. I have done my best to do something about our relationship but nothing works. I insult her this way because as I've seen, she is the little devil incarnate. And you don't THINK I've been nice to her? Every single day I try without success. And that does loads to the self esteem knowing everything you've tried is fruitless. And yes, I do complain, but do my parents care? No. Do they even TRY to do anything? Yes, but she always gets them on her side. Even going to the point where I can in trouble for things I wasn't even anywhere near to.
Whenever something is wrong it's always me, if there's a fire in the kitchen it's me. With all this negative attention, of course I'd be self-absorbed, but negatively.
And you know what? All you can do is tell me to do the same things I've done and tried for years on end with no absolute success, all with no first-hand experience this kind of pain is. Your explanations do make sense, but they're all things I've already done.
And please, I came here to find help. Not to be insulted for something I've tried and failed to control and improve.
When you get attacked to the point where the blade barely misses your heart, throat, or any vital point on your body, and all for something trivial like a glass of milk, then you can insult and criticize me about my point of view all you like.