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I feel like i deserve nothing of what ive achieved (2)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2020-02-05 12:50 ID:fLuWjIDX

Hi there, anons.
Have you ever felt like this?
I mean, ive made it to get to the college with a schoolarship, i dont have any problem with my parents and a decent romance history. But i cant help thinking like i dont deserve anything of that because, i dont know, "A lazy idiot like me is not worth of a schoolarship, or parents love, you should learn how tough the life is".

How to deal with this? Have you ever felt like that?

2 Name: Anonymous : 2020-02-06 10:21 ID:GpSiOWRx

Nobody deserves anything. In the long term, shit just happens because of processes too complex for any lone human to understand.

This goes both ways. You don't deserve to have an easy life or a tough one. You don't deserve to be happy or to suffer. If it happens, it happens.

The only thing any of us can do is make choices that we think will lead to a positive outcome. But when something happens, good or bad, blind luck is just as responsible for that outcome as our actions are. And so there's no point in feeling guilty that blind luck made your life a good one, for now.

Anyone who believes they built their own good life through their actions alone, and not an ounce of chance, is deluded. Anyone who feels guilty that their good life fell into their lap is just the flip side of their same coin.

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On pubic hair. (21)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2007-04-19 14:39 ID:sQLWR0ni

How much do you love pubic hair? (Whether yours, or your partner's, or someone else's.)

I've been wondering quite a bit. Seems that these days people cherish a well-trimmed section more than a natural one. Personally, I prefer untrimmed girls. It feels more... well, real, and mature/adult. Shaved parts leave me feeling all weird inside.

Must explain why I love Japanese women -- probably because the majority of their films have their women in unshaved form.

I've also heard that in Korea, women are (sort of) culturally required to maintain their pubic hair. It's a sign of fertility, or something like that. Anyone know anything (or more) about this? I'd appreciate if you could enlighten me.

12 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-02 15:58 ID:3tu+oudB

>>11
scissors/hair clippers. pretty obvious i wouldve thought lol i prefer it to be trimmed, it looks nicer and a little bit bigger. i dont like it when its really short though. it can be shorter on the balls, but around the base of the penis it needs some hair, rather than stubble-length kinda stuff

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15 Name: Anonymous : 2017-03-12 14:01 ID:bDrxvoEW

dicks out for Harambe

16 Name: Anonymous : 2018-10-13 20:57 ID:4XXdyYXK

I have hairs growing on my balls. It's a pain to trim them and obviously impossible to shave. Is this just shit genes or is this a more common occurrence?

17 Name: Anonymous : 2019-02-06 18:17 ID:Heaven

>>16
I'm pretty sure it's a common occurrence.

18 Name: mara : 2019-11-22 00:21 ID:YlEA2JUl

I leave my pubes alone until I start getting major bush, then I trim it back around the labia because it can be annoying. I still like to have a decent amount on the pubic mound. Shaving causes a lot of irritation for me, I avoid it now.

On sexual partners, I don't care much unless it's so long that I end up with their pubes flossing my teeth. Yuck. A slight trim is preferable for oral.

Adult humans are meant to have pubic hair, it's part of life. shrug

19 Name: Anonymous : 2019-11-25 03:23 ID:cArQNuWI

You are a normalshit. Please leave.

20 Name: Anonymous : 2020-01-06 22:33 ID:BgxY0rUu

Just use Nair bro

21 Name: Anonymous : 2020-01-23 07:29 ID:rtpfsF+5

I have hair directly on my dick. Much shorter than other pubic hair but it stops around the foreskin. Get pwned hairlets.

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When I was a teenager, I molested someone... (35)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-15 00:09 ID:MakfLLq1

When I was 14, I molested my sister. She was was almost four the first time and the second time was just after she turned four. The first time, I actually pulled her pants down and touched her bottom, but the second time was just me taking my time helping her in the restroom. Neither time did I ask her to touch me or even show her my penis.

I was recently recovering from a long amount of physical and emotional abuse from my father, and had previously been molested twice in my youth. I was also suffering from some fairly serious mental problems. I say this not to excuse my actions, but to provide more of an explanation of what was going on then.

As time went on and I have returned to a more normal mental state, I look back upon what I have done in horror and guilt. I don't really know what effects this may have had on my sister (she is still fairly young) but I don't really look back on my molestations negatively. I still feel guilty, though.

However, a larger emotion that I am now feeling is fear. What if she remembers? What if she does not? I certainly remember being that age, but I developed rather quickly. Her linguistic skills have always been behind. What if she remembers and eventually tells someone and my life is ruined? What if.... etc?

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26 Name: Anonymous : 2017-10-16 01:22 ID:Heaven

When I was 10 or so I was tricked by a teen ager into doing gay stuff. I didn't really realized it until my mother found me and explained me a few things.

27 Name: jack : 2018-01-20 18:37 ID:Cck4o6Wk

i once raped a baby when i was but jesus died for my sins

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29 Name: Heckyeah00 : 2018-04-18 19:40 ID:G+zhfD3A

To to user named "Cant say" if you did it for sexual purposes then its not a experiment. I dont know if you should talk to her or not, though.

30 Name: Heckyeah00 : 2018-04-18 19:42 ID:G+zhfD3A

Go to jail then, Jack. Also wot

31 Name: Heckyeah00 : 2018-04-18 19:45 ID:G+zhfD3A

To 4th comment, you may be do it for sexual purposes, but you said that she was 1 so hope she doesnt remember it

32 Name: Heckyeah00 : 2018-04-18 19:53 ID:G+zhfD3A

>>29 also sorry for being abused by others
Also, to the op, if she remembers it, apologize to her.
To the 16th comment, seme thing goes for you too.

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34 Name: Anonymous : 2018-07-19 01:00 ID:OgEuqwN/

Did she look scared when you touched her? She's probably more likely to remember it depending on how traumatic it was. Sure everyone remembers differently but I think it's a common trend to remember bad memories more easily than good ones.

35 Name: Anonymous : 2020-01-08 22:18 ID:Jcb156XX

Amber is a whore!

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Online Communities (19)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2019-05-12 02:18 ID:4s9qssME

For some reason I feel so awkward in online chatrooms, ircs, discords or whatever. I feel just as socially awkward as I do in real life despite my social presence being purely text. I haven't been able to really get into any online community or really get to know anyone due to this. Do any of you have any suggestions on getting over this?

10 Name: Anonymous : 2019-09-04 09:43 ID:F/DJsq/3

don't have sex volcel

11 Name: Anonymous : 2019-09-14 22:47 ID:bm8UrnP2

>>9 FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU

12 Name: Anonymous : 2019-09-22 05:00 ID:X6mEwiNY

>>9
XD got em! what a bunch of losers! I too think that losing one's virginity will change their personality for the better!
Upvoted!

13 Name: Anonymous : 2019-09-29 23:26 ID:gzKgdLWv

>>9
Believe me, if I started having sex there'd be none of ya' left.

14 Name: Anonymous : 2019-09-30 02:57 ID:oFswDTeJ

You will not replicate human connection online

15 Name: Anonymous : 2019-10-02 02:41 ID:bm8UrnP2

>>14 Its close enough, only difference is ease of disconnection.

16 Name: AwkwardPanda : 2019-11-22 00:51 ID:sIwgeei7

I wish I had an answer to that. Therapy would be the logical solution. I suffer in a similar matter; talk therapy eventually helped me at one point but I quit for some reason. It does not help that some online communities discourage, shame, or otherwise treat you differently for being female... I just want human interaction again. It is difficult. :/ Best of luck; all we can do is try to push past the uncomfortable feelings.

17 Name: Anonymous : 2019-11-25 03:24 ID:5K58vD3g

>treat you differently for being female

Won't respond to this bait

18 Name: Anonymous : 2019-11-25 21:49 ID:Heaven

>>17 but you just did and you didn't even sage

19 Name: Anonymous : 2019-12-03 23:24 ID:GSVUs8fx

>>1
start by talking about simple stuff,
you know, smalltalk (ask for the topic, what are they doing today, tommorow, etc),
then as you get to know more and more, you
start to build confidence.

try to find something that you like, and
most importantly,

take your time, do it at your own pace.
(i know this because i'm also like you, but at almost everything)

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Suffering from dirty strong supersonic attacks (5)

1 Name: suffering : 2019-07-07 00:40 ID:k4VpSgrK

I'm suffering from dirty strong supersonic attacks !! Supersonic terrorisms !!

The supersonic attacker is also in Yamaguchi city.

2 Name: kusohead : 2019-07-07 11:14 ID:Heaven

ultraman

3 Name: Anonymous : 2019-07-12 17:34 ID:Fk+ljArD

3GET

4 Name: Anonymous : 2019-08-20 00:35 ID:fgVijRt7

Attack this! shits diaper

5 Name: Anonymous : 2019-08-23 00:39 ID:qFVBCHsk

>>4
clean it up mom!

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death is the only hope (62)

1 Name: warez otoko : 2007-03-21 11:32 ID:KJnzZezY

I can't take it anymore. I'm so alone, I have no friends, girls don't even look at me. Everybody is having fun, they are full of love, all except me.
I'm a complete failure, 10 years of isolation, I barely finished high school, dropped out of university, and found a stoopid job anyone could do.
There's no way out, I have no idea how people become friends with each other, how they find love. Oh wait, once in 26 years I actually found that.. once in 26.. that means I have to wait another 26 to stumble on a person who likes me, and I'll be old already..
I tried to tell them.. I told them I was alone.. but no one understands.. they think it's some stoopid temporary loneliness.. they are used to have all they want, to find new friends and lovers the same way you download new games from the internet... how could they understand what it means to have no friends, no company, no woman around for the most part of ur life, and not knowing how to find them.
Everybody has a family, friends, a girl, everybody is loved... but me, and I don't know how to get out of this... once you lose all social connections, it's done. It isn't necessary to be a hikki, it just happens, you lose all childhood friends, and zzap you're alone for life.
What I have done to deserve this.

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54 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-09 19:17 ID:Heaven

uhm. I came?

55 Name: Anonymous : 2017-03-13 14:02 ID:WldANiVb

dicks out for Harambe

56 Name: Anonymous : 2018-02-08 07:57 ID:0CBkwNL9

I feel the same way as OP. There's some useful advice in this thread. I'm going to work on improving myself and trying to strike up convos with people. Thanks

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58 Name: Anonymous : 2018-04-16 15:10 ID:Heaven

>>54
Was it good?

59 Name: Anonymous : 2018-10-05 21:22 ID:nAqwikSB

lmao this thread was made in 2007

I wonder how old the OP is now, are you still alive?

I'm 27 myself and have been alone my whole life and a hikikomori since 12.
What you gotta do OP is get over that feeling and learn to find happiness in solitary life.
You'll realize that it's better to be "alone" that constantly around others.
You don't need others for happiness, just find things in life that bring you happiness and joy.

60 Name: Anonymous : 2019-01-21 04:49 ID:Heaven

I really just browsed here out of curiosity. I actually might have read this very thread when I was in high school, and forgot about it because it's uncomfortable to hear about people feeling they should just give up on life. These days I can understand how OP is feeling, getting older and feeling like you're just wasting away your life is tough, and feeling like you could be having a more fulfilling social life. I don't get so choked up over a lack of a social life, too much, I have plenty of friends online. It doesn't bother me too much I don't have any friends irl, except one I hadn't hung out in person with in over a year. Crippling social anxiety is a bitch, though. Being so terrified in public that it's exhausting everytime is no fun.
I'm a transwoman and have been struggling hard through my adult life. Only the past 3 years I've been full time. I was laid off work for that and it's hard for me to get myself back on my feet, because I've always dealt with anxiety, worried people just see me as a timid piece of garbage, and now worried they see me as a freak. Deep down I know I'm not a bad looking person and I'm good at socializing casually, at least once I'm comfortable with someone. Even though I know this, it's hard for me to keep myself convinced. I'm only going to cause myself more regret in the future, nothing should be stopping me from progress.
It's really never too late to realize these toxic mindsets are nothing but toxic, and they do nothing but bog you down from at least being proud of the hobbies and so on you do enjoy, even if your life isn't exactly ideal. You don't need to have a great job, be a social butterfly, or fit the ideal beauty standards! Most people I become friends with online don't fit into any of those, but they are still great people I enjoy the company of, with their own unique personalities/experiences. You should want to improve yourself and your life, but don't get bogged down by what you don't have yet, or for not meeting your goals sooner! It's hard to stay positive in this world, and you never really be able to always stay positive. All any of us can do is try, and no one is truly alone on this.

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61 Name: Anonymous : 2019-02-06 18:54 ID:Heaven

The idea that there are new human in the same exact position as OP was more than 10 years ago is frightening. The people themselves aren't scary, but the fact that this situation has been constantly recurring for people all over the world without any headway is what is frightening.

And yeah, I think the advise regarding meet-ups with people for like-minded hobbies is probably the best advise. That way, you know that everyone in your vicinity is there for the same reason you are. For example, if you get into WarHammer 40K, once you get your army together you can find a table and wait for someone else who is also looking for a match.

62 Name: Anonymous : 2019-06-16 10:17 ID:M2KNOX3B

OP is literally me but 10 years in the past

10 years have passed but nothing has changed for people like us there's not place for us in this world

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Hikikomoris/Hikikomori wannabes: How do you make money for a living? (219)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2006-10-22 03:49 ID:Heaven

I was going to ask this question to the last poster in the Baby Human topic, but decided I should probably make atopic out of it.

Well, how do you survive? Live with your parents, work off the internet, live with other relatives, supported by girlfriend/friends, still go to school, still go to work, inheritage, participate in money farming?

Post your source of income here, along with your age, if you feel like it.

As for me: Age 21. I live with my parents, but most of my income comes from my community college (still trying to get through it). The rest comes from different things I've done online, like checks from those free Ipod sites and ads on sites I've ran.

210 Name: Anonymous : 2014-10-09 12:08 ID:U/C8Wm5M

I am a hiki with zero prospects and an intense disinterest in engaging reality. I need to make some money. I would try to scam people on kickstarter but I am also a coward! Suggestions welcome.

211 Name: Anonymous : 2014-10-09 13:03 ID:SjbfUAS5

I am working as part-time prostitute :D

212 Name: Anonymous : 2014-10-10 20:51 ID:gLEyuxJe

>>210

Get on welfare dude

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215 Name: Anonymous : 2018-11-03 08:18 ID:l5vOnVae

Why was my post deleted?

>213

Just because you don't agree with a post doesn't give you the right to delete it and silence debate like a jew

216 Name: Anonymous : 2018-12-06 08:14 ID:Heaven

>>215
What was your post? Why was it deleted?

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218 Name: sage : 2019-04-26 16:35 ID:Heaven

>217

Another one was deleted lol

219 Name: Anonymous : 2019-06-16 10:14 ID:0u76vFbT

I can't think of anything and soon I'll end up on the streets

All the doors are barred I have nowhere to go

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hope scottie find's something soon!! :( (2)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2019-05-25 07:22 ID:6W+vTzvS

WATCH THIS VIDEO IF
YOU FEEL SAD #PRAY4SCOTTIE
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3LtkDPQ6ZUk

2 Name: Anonymous : 2019-05-31 17:41 ID:Heaven

2GET

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Quant (4)

1 Name: Quant : 2013-03-31 12:56 ID:fExASWDX

How do you manage your time between recreation/entertainment and productive work on your priorities?

I am transitioning from breaks when I feel like it, where I blend media, trolling youtube, physical activity and motivational videos slowly into my work.

Break size is usually about 10 mins, but can be up to 30 mins 20% of the time I take breaks. It really varies and I basically do it till I am motivated to work some more.

Work consists of reading material on the internet on philosophy and psychology, asking questions about life on 4chan, performing actions related to email, research companies for where I want to work eventually, writing down ideas for businesses, sorting folders and bookmarks, planning, working on my plans for life. It's stressful!

This happens roughly after 40 minutes after starting my work day. Then, I get itchy to break after another 20 mins or so. Then 10mins...

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2 Name: Anonymous : 2013-04-07 06:08 ID:hCjRxAkR

3 Name: Mr Write : 2013-05-24 06:47 ID:HHNWtiOf

Some personal bits; you may or may not find them relevant:

Currently, I'm motivating by rewarding each math problem done, with a panel of Homestuck. Good times. Or, if I'm doing some reading, I might intersperse every few pages with a quick level in Sonic 2 or something short'n'sweet like that.

Whenever I feel like it, I lie down on my bed to defrag for a few minutes. I've also found that, as much as I like background music, it distracts me too much. Also, I work better on an empty stomach (and think better with good nutrition (read: China Study)).

One of the most important things, is to get away from any constant feeds. Anything that gives you an excuse to open up the browser and check the latest things is a HUGE detriment to your productivity.

Even more important, though, is to always remember that you'll never feel like doing work, until you actually start working; so just get started on it regardless of how you feel.

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Donald Trump raped me (12)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2016-10-16 13:21 ID:x0A6rq6j

Donald Trump raped me

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4 Name: Anonymous : 2017-03-05 13:37 ID:BX7kudt8

dicks out for H@rambe

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6 Name: anon : 2017-08-03 12:07 ID:m528pWxm

me too

7 Name: Furp : 2017-09-23 23:15 ID:oNUo9w1G

Furp doesn't want you kill your mommy. Molest your sister instead. Furp out.

8 Name: Anonymous : 2017-10-01 19:11 ID:QKsu872X

Dolan is a bad man

9 Name: Anonymous : 2017-10-21 02:47 ID:HMyMzxtV

>>4
Trump raped that fucking gorilla as well.

10 Name: Anonymous : 2017-11-04 22:58 ID:IueSvNhG

"It's gonna be great. Believe me."

11 Name: Anonymous : 2019-02-14 06:12 ID:jVD8moV+

I am literally only posting because my capctha is thiche

12 Name: Donald Trump : 2019-02-28 06:58 ID:LIh4XADk

Michael Cohen raped me

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