I think my family is a mess but i'm not sure if i'm being overly "emo" or not. every family will have their own problem i just want to know if mine is any worse then normal family (i'll try to keep this short).

My mother is very controlling, she keep a spare key to my room to check/ rearrange it when i'm gone. Ripping out my poster coz she doesnt like em etc. She keep comparing me to other people because i flunk out of uni she said i'm a disappointment and want to just disappear because of the shame shes been saying this for about 4 years. whenever i try to confront her she would lock up in her room and cry about it.

My father is very moody he would get angry for random stuff and often mention about wanting to die because hes too tired with life (providing for the family and stuff)

Both of them always tell me about how bad the other person is and how they might get divorce in the future when our financial problem is sorted out. I'm somewhat lucky because things weren't so bad when i was young but my adopted sister grew up in troublesome time and she ended up having some mental problem like self multilation etc. She probably overheard my dad regret adopting her a lot .

Is these situation normal? i tried telling my friend but his response was "mine is not much better just try and deal with it."