I've recently come to the conclusion that every person I've met at my university is shit. The people I've met outside of uni (who I spend a whole lot more time with anyway) can be great, but they also kind of piss me off. At the moment, I have one close friend I see once every couple weeks because he lives far away and is afraid of driving in the city (and he can be an annoying twat), two other people (plus various people they know), one of whom is pretty kick-ass, the other of whom is cool but can really piss me off. There's another girl, but she's always busy with work and shit. The rest of the people I know are just boring, and I never see anyway.
At uni it's worse. I haven't made any friends, but I don't really care because everyone is shallow and boring. I hear their conversations as I walk around, and I realize that everything they say is worthless.
I want someone to go to concerts with, but in general, the people into the same music as I am are all stuck up, pretentious pricks.
So in essence - I have a bit of a ridiculous superiority complex, that no one here can do anything about anyway.
Other people is Hell, no matter if it's your goddamn soulmate or some prick. You will always feel annoyed by a person after x time,you cannot escape human drama.it is simply inevitable.
Good Luck misanthrope.
look, you are not special, rants liket his are a dime a dozen
you really need to think hard about why you are so pissed off at these people, youre just bitter among other things
>everyone is shallow and boring. I hear their conversations as I walk around, and I realize that everything they say is worthless
That's probably because they aren't actually friends - they are just classmates making small-talk on the way to class, where they will sit in silence never looking at each other. People who are actually friends with each other at uni will usually meet up outside of their class commitments, and I know I prefer to do that off of the university site.
i was in the same situation as you op
you need to sit down and really think about these people and why they make you so mad
your post reeks of bitterness
Find the good in people, don't concentrate on their weaknesses.
Pretentious? Maybe she has a good reason to be and you can learn from her.
Shallow? Could be he tells the best jokes and make you laugh.
Stupid? She just might be the kindest, happiest person you've ever met.
Asshole? Take his criticisms with a grain of salt and use his callous honesty to improve yourself.
Bitter Loner with an Unwarranted Sense of Self-Importance? Well, you might want to stay away from this one.
wow, OP! I feel the exact same way as you. They're all shallow and boring at my university too, almost every last one of them. A few aren't shallow, but are boring, and a few aren't boring, but are shallow. I don't really want anything to do with such people either.
I'm not saying that i'm heaps of fun and hyper interesting, but i'm at least somewhat interesting, and far from shallow.
It's not a case of something being wrong with me or OP, this is a problem faced by non-boring, non-shallow peoples everywhere. It's not always a case of bitterness, and it's not a case of them just seeming shallow cos you don't know them better...it's a case of fact- there are so many more shallow people than real, fun people out there, that it's very hard to find good friends, and put up with the social climate in places like uni. Bitterness tends to result from having to put up with that year after year.
Trying to focus on the good points people have helps, but it only goes so far... there will alwas be times where it gets too annoying and you have to rant about it, as OP has done.
>>8
Yes, you deep, fun people are magical and rare like sparkly unicorns. You guys are just so special.
I feel similarly, OP. Without a goal in mind, I'm taking time off from university. But, I discovered the shallowness, pretentiousness, and hyper-sociality during my time there. This was especially true of those who pursued business, not to enforce stereotypes, but this is personal experience. Likewise, those who were heavy on scientific academia were narrow minded. They can memorize facts, but they didn't know how to be critically aware. In other words, they were used to the education institutions instructing them on 'what' to think, but they never learned 'how' to think for themselves. I'm familiar with a top high school student who got into my university with honors to pursue biology. He had to drop out of philosophy because he was failing it and it would affect his GPA. I know university students who have not read a book in their life. Personally, I don't see anything in drinking. Alcohol is overrated, and by judging the hype the student body gives it, especially with university clubs using pub crawls as a means to attract members, forget the merit of the actual club, people don't seem to really be questioning their values.
I feel you, OP. I was hoping to form some association of like minded students at my university, but good luck finding them.
>>10
Not to overrate myself, but I consider I'm far from shallow and boring. I'm quite educated, have a solid and diverse culture, and enjoy discussing and sharing. I come from a scientific background, and into an artistic career. I can tell you that narrow-minded people do not result from the kind of education they get. At most, it will give them which side to take - rebellious or conformist. Actually the most close-minded people I know are either in art, psychology, sociology, and such.
Also, I like to drink, be it a drink or two with friends or the occasional huge 'let's get shitfaced' party. Because, guess what, it can be fun too. I'm not saying that you have to drink; but considering people as shallow because they do is a proof of yourself being narrow-minded, and doing so you probably miss a lot of really nice meetings.
Well, that's not my point. You're right; really interesting people are rare when you increase your own standards, because you'll seek people that match them. Seems logical to me. But that don't mean you can't enjoy some qualities in people who havent got "the whole pack". That guy might never have opened a book, but he's really knowledgeable in music. That other girl couldn't care less about philosophy, but she's an awesome cook and a funny person. Get more people around you, and switch from one to another when you're starting to get bored of one of them.
And when you find people that match your standards, well, do your best to become good friends. Chances are that they seek people like you too.
a lake might seem shallow if you never go in.
>>11
10 here.
You're right. I do have standards. My concern is people's mental outlook, such as whether they question their values, or whether their mental-outlook is appropriate at a university setting.
I've met many interesting and diverse people. Personally, because I'm unsure of my future, I dabbled in every undergrad faculty so I've sampled different lecture environments. I have nothing against people who pursues any field, be it art, or science, or anything in between.
But, what I noticed is that many people had stringent mentalities, mostly true to business and science fields, again this based on experience. (Of course, they're everywhere else too.) They memorized facts, but their critical awareness was amateur. This is expected because I believe the education system teaches one 'what' to think instead of 'how.' The education system is designed, in my opinion, to be a vocational training spot for employment. I'm not saying this is bad. This is good because we all need jobs lol. However, the problem is when people mistakingly believe that institutionalized education is good enough to act as one's sole source of education.
Now, if one has already decided that all one wants in life, and all one values, is getting a good job then I cannot argue any further. However, I view life as process of personal development. Educating oneself is part of that development, and such open-minded activity has the side effect of enhancing life in others around you through your discourses and considerate actions. Courses like philosophy or women studies stresses the 'how' to think. This is why I believe reading is important. Many of those who pursue science, for example, may be great people, but for many, in terms of their mentality, a lot more could be wished for. This is what happens when people rely on the system as their sole means of education or personal development, and I doubt anybody would recommend this. So, why are they doing it?
My complaint against drinking has to do with how it is perceived. I believe it is misused as advertisement, or enticement, for students to join activities, rather than the merit of the activity itself. I can enjoy a few drinks myself, however.
Remember, many of these students will go on to the real world and shape society according to these values and outlook, so this isn't really strictly a matter of campus conduct because it impacts society as well.
>>13
I can only assume you'd prefer that Universities specialized in training people to be your friend?
Heh, I haven't made any friends at college yet either. I don't think I want to. I don't hate everyone, I just find them all completely boring. What I don't understand is I always get the weirdest looks when I walk out of the campus library with a book every day...