>You have to destroy his self-esteem so much so that he leaves you alone for good.

I can more than understand that, thing I don't understand is kicking someone when they've already eaten dirt.
I've been crushed repeatedly, been rejected by every women I've ever approached. So at age 26 I figured I just wasn't cut out for this kind of stuff, so I should just cut my losses and focus on my career
but apparently giving up on women is also repugnant to people, my friends and family never let me hear the end of this
I'm a loser if I do and I'm a loser if I don't
what do you people want from me?