In love with another man

I have been married almost eight years and have a son. I do not know whether I am making a mistake.

I have been in love with someone for more than two years. He is eight years younger than me. Our relationship is getting stronger and I'm worried.

My husband does not suspect anything. If I divorce him, he might kill himself.

I love my friend because we are very similar and we can discuss things well.

I cannot communicate with my husband or discuss anything with him, especially sex.

Problematic

I'LL have/discuss sex with you if you like?

COUNSELLOR SAYS

You really do have a problem. You have a long established marriage and a son, and you have been involved with another man for over two years.

It is amazing that you have kept your secret. But aren't you taking a big risk with your marriage?

Are you really to lose your family, including your child? Do you think this other relationship is worth all that you are risking?

Are you confident that this other man will not let you down?

Similarity and ability to communicate are important - that's how you chose your husband. You decided to marry him with all his faults and uniqueness of personality.

If your marriage has deteriorated through neglect, resulting in communication and sexual problems, get professional marriage counselling.

You can revive a "dying" marriage if both of you still care for each other and want to do something about it.

It is your responsibility to put your family as your priority and try to work things out with your husband instead of turning to someone else.

Your husband has a right to know what you feel about this marriage.