I get the feeling that most people here are 17-23 or so.
I'm 32 and I feel really shitty about it.
If you think I shouldn't feel that way, then tell me so.
Just having a hard time relating to people my age these days. All my friends from high school and college are married and have kids and "real" jobs. They certainly don't have any geeky interests, or not any compared to the sort that I do. I know there are older geeks out there but I really don't know how to connect with them outside of rather meaningless encounters on the Internet.
I'm back at college now so I'm surrounded by people aged 18-22. "Well then," you might say. "That sounds good, right? You're probably more comfortable being with people younger than you are." If only that were the case. I really don't "get" anyone here and most students here get on my nerves terribly. I mean, I'm a tremendously irritable person with depression, but man, every dude here seems like a tremendous douchebag and all the girls... well, some are nice but I can't help but feel like I have no business talking to them, being so much older than they are. They probably think I'm a creep (or a "creeper," as I guess people like to say now). There's really nothing going on at this school anyway besides fraternities and people playing drinking games. Can't say I'd be involved in those at any age, really.
I realize that a lot of this is just in my head but I just feel so old and it really gets me down some days. When you find out that someone is 30-ish, how do you feel about them? I ask because I look much younger than my age, so I can sort of pass for being in my early 20s. I could do this... and I guess I do, but I also feel shitty and deceptive about doing it.
Not really sure where this rant is going. I'm having a bad day today and I just wanted a place to vent.
Oh, by the way, I've been enjoying iichan for a few years now. I really love anime and this is one of the better image boards devoted to it that I've found. But... if this a teens-only board or something then by all means straighten me out and tell me so. I'm not trying to crash anyone's party here.
u so cockeyed b"""#.
Huh?
Though twenty-one, I'm not at all bothered by hanging out with people five or ten years older. As with anyone else the impetus depends on how strongly we share the same interests, quirks, etc. A person you can hold a decent discussion with would probably be pretty mature too; not inclined to irrational behaviors or preoccupation with personal vanity.
Also - sadly enough - it helps you in general to look younger. Even if your age is revealed it will remain incongruent with your appearance, which nonetheless projects apparent youth and thus overrides a mere number as basis for judgment.
As an aside, I might mention I have met some awesome older people at anime conventions who later became familiar friends. Granted these are the sort of venues where one need not explain the object of one's enthusiasm, instead skipping comfortably to the topic at hand, but the fact remains that your age should not necessarily deter you from enjoying the company of people my age.
you all are great.
I'm 34, and by being here I prove that I've still some pretty geeky interests. Not that I feel self-conscious about it, I'm too old to care for that kind of peer pressure crap ^_^
When I was in college I also felt rather isolated, because I could not relate to the vacuity of the people that surrounded me. We just did not have common interests. But I learned to meet people that were interesting. It really depends on you becoming active on your interests and going out to do stuff. You'll soon meet like minded people, and not like minded people but still interesting ones.
I've always frequented people of an age very different from my one. Some times much older, sometimes much younger. I always felt that people can be interesting/boring regardless of age. Same goes for relationships, although it's also true that with age people gain more experience and are less of a pain in the neck to deal with (in general).
There's nothing wrong with age gaps. If you find someone younger than you whom you can relate to then don't feel like you shouldn't be getting along just because of the age gap.
Basically, if some of the girls are nice just try talking to them. Should they react badly then don't talk to them again? Just give it a go.
>2
On the internet, everyone is 20 years old.
>On the internet, everyone is 4 years old.
fixed it for you
I love you guys.
I'm 19 and at University. People my age are mostly awful. Not all, but most. "When you find out that someone is 30-ish, how do you feel about them?" How do I feel about it..? Having a solid 30-ish friend... would be inexpressibly awesome.
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Was about to type pretty much this. When I was at university there were a few older people on my course. At least a dozen thirtysomethings and even a few people in their forties and fifties. Of course they were difficult to approach at first, but once we got to know them there was something really cool about having older friends. Not just in a naive, novel way--older people are simply more interesting because they have had more experiences than you.
Besides, the difference between someone in their twenties and someone in their thirties is almost negligible. The age gap seriously opens up once you become an adult.
I'm nineteen, and I don't really care how old you are.
Well, that's not entirely true. Initially I'm going to be uncomfortable with someone if they're a deal older than me.
But once I get to know someone, as long as you're cool (as in not a dick) or interesting I don't mind being around you. I've actually had a few friends where my friends and I would go more to hang out with their fathers instead of our friend, because their fathers were just cooler.
I'm 24 and it feels damn good to be living!
im 30.
16, I probably shouldn't be here.
I often tell myself that when I'm offended, hurt by something, or generally feel bad because of something I say "you're not old enough, come back in a few years and you can laugh at your younger self for even being remotely upset about this subject, faggot".
Seems to work for me, at least.
Anyway, on the subject of the thread, I don't mind anyone's age as long as they aren't considerably younger than me. I actually treat everyone older than me with great respect.
20 years and counting
I'm 19
And age is just a measuring tool,
Just be cool, open, and yourself
I'm 19 like most of you. I don't have a problem meeting people. I don't dislike people in my age group usually, the same goes for people of any age.
Sometimes I'll just tackle encounters with older people in a way that's really just for the hell of it. I'm taking a class involving blacksmithing, and there's a man who is probably around 30 years old in there, among mostly earlier 20's people. He's very sociable and is super involved in the course like you wouldn't believe. Some of the things he says though, it just puts me off. As in, some of the things he says to me are creepy.
One day after class, me and him were in the shop, all others had left. . .
"You insanity and genius are closely related?"
Excuse me?, I reply. Then he started to almost immediately go into discussion on why we are going to school and the reasons why he is. Out of nowhere this guy started off on a philosophical lecture, noting to me that I should do what interests me, and to live richy, fully, deeply.
The whole time I just did not expect such a thing, and I was like Uhm ohkay.
There are some other grownups at my school as well. I have some in another course sitting next to me. I get along with them fine, but simply because they're normal people who keep normal boundaries in normal ways. And then there's the old people in the halls who rave about their math courses and how much they love them--"Ahh, trigonometry 1 was a fun fun course, but I really just had to take 1.5 the next semester. You just [i]can't[/i] quite dive in with your eyes open without 1.5" And they're so enthusiastic when they're talking about it too. Full eye contact, tone expressions, they are just in the mood to learn, the minute they step out of bed.
I've never had older friends though, so I'm still on the other side of the glass as of now.
I'm almost 21.
21 and already plenty filled with social fail.
Haha I'm soo young im 14
im 15 right now...
i prolly shouldnt be on here....
but i really like reading stories about people and not trolling....
also i like to share some stories too :P
and im new to this place....
like literally started an hour ago.