Personal Issues & Romance @ 4-ch

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1: Trying not to get black pilled..... (4) 2: I'm tired of being alone (5) 3: How do I sleep? (15) 4: [Romance]Haikus for the ones you love[Haikus] (29) 5: How to meet new people? (3) 6: I'm so fucking stupid (8) 7: Say you knew somebody who was in love with an imaginary friend. (5) 8: no one cares (11) 9: Iceland Ambassador Stuff Hailed (2) 10: The reality is hitting... (7) 11: is this place better than 4chan (19) 12: Is 24 too late to change my hikkikomori ways and go back to college? (11) 13: just nutted (21) 14: How should I go about finding a roommate? (6) 15: Is romantic love real? (7) 16: NEET/Hikikomori Thread (60) 17: Can't focus (8) 18: Are there free rehab centers (14) 19: my mom teaches piano from home and the noise bothers me (3) 20: Introvertism and love (12) 21: All my tasks and hobbies make me go insane (1) 22: Gave myself a close buzzcut and now I can't handle it. (5) 23: HELP! I am in a relationship and I feel like I'm trapped! (11) 24: How do I remain grounded? (3) 25: Chuuni Fears (10) 26: Illegal discord server (7) 27: When I was a teenager, I molested someone... (50) 28: death is the only hope (75) 29: how do you make your business profittable? (8) 30: how to give a blowjob with braces? (141) 31: [Advice] How to cope with the feeling of missing out on love? (19) 32: Time makes fools of us all (5) 33: Not my Solid Snake anymore. (19) 34: Here comes the jet cocks!! (15) 35: Dealing with the “underage” term (10) 36: I want to fuck, but all of you are too far, also I need to find a job first (10) 37: my daddy only talks about politics (31) 38: anarchy (12) 39: [HelpMe] My crush isn’t responding to my texts or emails! (10) 40: Unemployment (5)

Trying not to get black pilled..... (4)

1 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-11-12 02:52 ID:/o1xnrnR

Living with conservative parents in idiocracy America sucks right now dude. I just gotta let it out. Be safe out there and protect yourselves if you're on the left. If you're on the right,no worries,I tried what i expect you might want to tell me in the past and got help for it. Sorry sweetie,my formerly deteriorating mental health beat you to your npc punch. Stay safe and keep your heads up if you're in America rn. We can do this!

2 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-11-13 01:54 ID:EX9zp7/q

the real delusion is thinking trump isn't part of the elite. otherwise idc Kamala was a shit candidate and the democrats have run dogshit campaigns since 2012. its your fault, democrats.

3 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-11-13 07:58 ID:D7GkxCod

and then nothing happened

4 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-11-14 02:27 ID:b0b+RrLJ

Putting your faith in politicians is stupid. When have they ever delivered? All they do is make promises to get votes and do dumb shit when they are in office, then pass on the trainwreck to whoever succeeds them and get the tax payer to foot the bill. There hasn't been a competant US politician to hold the presidency since the rapist Bill Clinton, let that sink in. Eventually an incompetant degenerate like Trump was going to come along and be the monkey wrench candidate who'll burn the house down. This is America's age of stagnation. Actually, its worse since at least Kosygin tried to fix things and Brehzhnev kept the peace whereas America in 2024 is a trashfire.

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I'm tired of being alone (5)

1 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-10-29 00:39 ID:3jdNFs0T

Basically I'm tired of being a loner, I basically have no friends irl, and I'm afraid I'm going to die alone. I've tried hanging out with weirdos but I end up just sitting alone talking to no one and I feel like those groups always disband. I've also tried niche ass dating apps, but never had any lasting relationship. What do I do?

2 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-11-02 13:55 ID:z3xeA3pV

I know your pain. For me, it is hard to even relate to other people. I simply do not understand what's in their hearts. I do not understand why they do the things that they do or how they find happiness in the things that make them happy, and I have the feeling that I will never be able to understand. We do not even understand ourselves fully, don't we? So how could we possibly hope to understand our peers, then?

But at least I can find some solace in anonymous message boards, where I can express myself without the fear of ridicule that is omnipresent in the real world. It is sad to know that the only authentic connections I can have are with faceless nobodies from the internet, but what can I do?

Regarding your last question ("What do I do?"), you cannot do anything. You cannot change people to suit your needs, you either accept them as they are or you don't. The problem is not with you, but with the vanity and shallowness of other people. They refuse to be genuine with you, and if you try to be genuine with them they will either mock you or use you for their own benefit. Try to become happier alone, you should ditch social interactions in favor of self-cultivation. Save yourself, and you might be able to save a lucky few who see through the vanity of this world.

3 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-11-06 21:46 ID:xFQWjylw

If it helps OP, get a pet or a plant. I grow roses and talk to them when I feel alone. I treat them as my friends. I can't say I have an answer to your problem since I suffer from it too. I just disagree with >>2 because if you take that attitude you will only end up pushing people away when they are trying to befriend you or become arrogant and bitter. Try to find joy in the small things in life and the stuff you actually have power over.

4 Name: Ninjasr!Y2wfNRRL8s : 2024-11-07 19:45 ID:y2mvjaNN

OP, the main thing to focus on is not giving up. If you give up, you will definitely ‘lose’. I'm kinda a loner myself, but I've been able to find friends (online/offline), so I'll give a few tips.

The most important is to find friends who have the same hobbies as you. If you hang out around something you like (for example, tennis (bear with me!)), then people will naturally start gravitating towards you. This may be tricky if you don't have RL hobbies, but there's nothing preventing online relationships from spilling offline. If you have the option, you could try to go to a university/college or finding a job.

Obviously, there's the issue of you sitting alone talking to no-one...and the only advice I can give there is that you have to force yourself to engage. If you have trouble talking to others, practice at home first...start talking to yourself, or talking to a pet, a plant (as >>3 suggests), some stuffed animal (if you have a teddy bear) or literally whatever. If you're scared of having trouble with dialogue, then try talking to some AI like ChatGPT (but don't let yourself get addicted to it! only use it for small bits of practice!). Since I get the impression you want to talk aloud, read your own messages aloud after you send them to the AI. Also, don't be an ass and try to understand the POV of others (I'm assuming you're smart enough for that, but it's good to keep in mind anyway).

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5 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-11-10 13:10 ID:z3xeA3pV

>>2 here: OP, I believe even if you manage to gain a friend group, you will still remain unhappy once you realize how superficial and brutish the common man is. I tried to socialize in highschool and became disillusioned with social life in general, so I speak from experience here. Most people socialize in order to satisfy their basest of desires, to them socializing is not any different from eating or reproducing, once you realize that you can ditch forming close bonds with others in favor of attaining spiritual enlightenment. Every major religious prophet (Buddha, Jesus, Muhammad etc.) or sage has gotten their wisdom from years of solitude, not meaningless chit-chat. If you wish to speak to others only for pointless small talk, that is incredibly easy: go to some social event in your town and try to speak to anybody there. If you, however, wish to form a bond with someone that goes beyond the flesh, that is nigh impossible.

I am not some pessimist or nihilist: I am an idealist, I believe in ideals, and most of mankind does not conform to my idealized version of man (and neither do they want to), and that saddens me. They live just to survive, like the animals of our world, and will do anything that will get them an advantage in life over their brothers (including immoral acts). If these are the people you wish to associate with: go and mingle with them. If they are not: save yourself and leave them be.

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How do I sleep? (15)

1 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2023-09-29 21:29 ID:N6lTO94M

I'm a serious insomniac and can't sleep and when I can sleep I always wake up exhausted and tired. I'm restless and paranoid all the time. Whats the secret to a good night sleep? I've tried pills and they just fuck me up for some reason.

6 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2023-11-19 02:18 ID:yAgyCmZN

I don’t have a bed. Do I need a bed for good sleep? I just sleep on the floor or on my desk. Sometimes I get drool on my keyboard so now I try to cover it before I collapse of exhaustion.

7 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-01-17 00:42 ID:zUkWxoGN

Eat 200 milligrams of diphenhydramine each night. You'll sleep very soundly and have fun dreams.

8 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-01-31 01:22 ID:IEEPDnuM

Drop a brick on your head every night and knock yourself out cold

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10 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-03-05 19:25 ID:J7ECjAOH

Work out before bed until you collapse of exhaustion

11 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-03-06 00:50 ID:3g/PjQQZ

I like sleeping on my side. It allows for easier diaphragmatic breathing vis a vis crooking your legs in a sort of fetal position.

12 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-03-06 00:53 ID:3g/PjQQZ

Taking a bath as hot as you can stand it and some 4x strength -dose benadryl can help too. A once therapist of mine I fired told me that. It helps. Tylenol PM is just as good. Don't take too much benadryl. Or do

13 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-03-06 00:55 ID:3g/PjQQZ

>>6
Just use stolen towels from the public bathroom to jerry rig your chair into a makeshift table-chair cot in this South Korean internet cafe you live in.

14 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-06-21 03:53 ID:pSPrV9+9

Try AM DXing and Shortwave listening. It gives you something to do and makes the graveyard shift a bit less lonely (I recommend a XHData D-219 if you wanna stay cheap, and maybe an AN-80 antenna if you can hang it on a curtain rod or something).

sometimes I draw, just to get my mind of things.

15 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-10-29 00:39 ID:+vHDqJzi

Have you tried Trazodone? It works for me.

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[Romance]Haikus for the ones you love[Haikus] (29)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2017-05-25 20:12 ID:TMXHSuWU This thread was merged from the former /love/ board. You can view the archive here.

Our time was too short
Again from my world you roam
We will never be

20 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2022-11-29 03:00 ID:clovx02J

Typing on the keyboard
Searching for some ewhores
Don’t want to be lonely

21 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2022-12-01 00:46 ID:dmOGopOF

Artsy girl I knew,
I still wish it'd worked, even if
you have issues, man.

22 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2023-01-03 03:51 ID:8LCauqMS

Still haven’t got over when you passed
Sad you were gone before your time
Blood flowing from slashed wrists

23 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2023-01-29 17:11 ID:Heaven

Wished you’d sucked my dick for longer
Sad I am now alone
Forced to watch porn and rub my bone
Down syndrome

24 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2023-12-26 17:12 ID:TBPG4OtD

>>22
>>23
Neither of these are haiku, you nonces. Try this one...

Dandelion sways
in the breeze, catches my eye
I pick it for her.

25 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-03-16 05:19 ID:fGGzDOTK

It was not written.
That that, even now of all times,
We collide no more.

26 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-04-07 16:52 ID:/WFXY1Pf

Nigger Nigger Nig
Nigger Nigger Nigger Nig
Nigger Nigger Nig

27 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-09-26 09:18 ID:Gj9M92ew

No going out
No friends for myself
Hikki forever

28 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-10-03 19:41 ID:Heaven

>>26
I too desire some hot chocolate

29 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-10-19 11:28 ID:SzlJYmh1

Shouldn't this thread be in /book/?

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How to meet new people? (3)

1 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-09-30 05:25 ID:VcRonCIo

For context, I'm an autistic ass in a third world country where just randomly talking to random people is seen as creepy...

I don't know if I'm missing something simple here. But how should one meet new people outside work or uni?

2 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-10-02 09:23 ID:6xO7PBjr

Join an club or a hobby group for something your interested in. Language classes are great because you can be socially retarded and everyone thinks part of the learning process. If you live in a big city you should be able to find groups you can join.

I get the impression that in the modern age, your not supposed to meet people outside of work and college. I’ve had younger people tell me it’s considered offensive to start conversations based on chance encounters or just ask people about their day. Hopefully, your third world country is less retarded.

3 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-10-26 08:36 ID:Heaven

> I’ve had younger people tell me it’s considered offensive to start conversations based on chance encounters or just ask people about their day.

They're right you know.

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I'm so fucking stupid (8)

1 Name: me : 2024-08-17 19:10 ID:/QReZuju

Title.

2 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-08-19 10:47 ID:LewmLnOX

same bestie

3 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-08-22 22:42 ID:SfH3no6T

I think we all have those moments...

4 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-08-29 03:05 ID:UZ2coQO3

I'm so fucking stupider

5 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-09-20 15:12 ID:3N+o3OYl

Let's take a trip to Jupiter

6 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-09-21 18:45 ID:HTBmVYwk

>>5
What about Neptune?

7 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-09-21 23:16 ID:3N+o3OYl

>>6
We're going to... Neptune... to... hunt for more poon?

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Say you knew somebody who was in love with an imaginary friend. (5)

1 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-07-08 06:27 ID:8pTUR0Id

Not an anime or cartoon girl, a unique creation. She's very kind and patient and very receptive to what people have to say. Good at putting disjointed thaoughts into words that make sense. Doesn't care about looks and loves watching bad movies. Her favorite food is raw onion and she can't stand mushy foods like pudding or gravy. Now let's say this person's love for this "character" was so strong they built a doll of them to talk to and interact with IRL. So in love that they've considered a whole married life together with their imaginary friend. What advice would you give to this person?

2 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-07-08 17:28 ID:eipNrFAU

She sounds like a nice person. Does the person you know also have sex with her?

3 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-07-14 01:14 ID:DJWBq6zW

Don't stop. Keep on going. Now you only need to study robotics to make her truly real.

4 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-09-11 03:49 ID:8m6L+f+B

He seems mostly harmless. I'd just let him be

5 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-09-11 11:20 ID:mOXsbEQ+

If I know he then he too must be imaginary. In that case, it makes sense for an imaginary person to be in love with an imaginary friend.

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no one cares (11)

1 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2021-05-08 17:16 ID:qcFnliM7

stop posting here

2 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2021-05-08 21:32 ID:Heaven

>>1
I care!

3 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2021-05-10 06:45 ID:Heaven

>>2
me too

4 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2021-05-17 11:07 ID:Heaven

and no one else, it seems
this board should just have been deleted as well

5 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2021-05-25 07:41 ID:Heaven

>>4
found the new 4ch sysop.

veri: kopeen

6 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2021-05-25 12:02 ID:aLX7KEKT

>>4
                   ∧_∧
                   (´∀`*)  shut up you idiot
                     U θ U
                 / ̄ ̄Ⅰ ̄ ̄\
                |二二二二二二二|
                |        |
click yeah click click click cool click click nice click click
   click click that is it click click click this is my man click click
 ∧_∧      ∧_∧     ∧_∧  ∧_∧    ∧_∧     ∧_∧
 (   )】      (   )】    (   )】 【(   )    【(   )    【(   )
 /  /┘ .   /  /┘.    /  /┘ └\ \   └\ \   └\ \
ノ ̄ゝ     ノ ̄ゝ      ノ ̄ゝ     ノ ̄ゝ    ノ ̄ゝ     ノ ̄ゝ

7 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2021-05-25 19:45 ID:Heaven

>>6

>KEKT

kek'd

8 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-06-25 14:01 ID:uaqZkXVt

Truly, no one cares.

9 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-07-05 00:12 ID:YnPIrZWN

>>2
>>3
Me three. I care so much I'm not even gonna sage.

10 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-08-22 22:45 ID:UMzqo7ez

>>6 gee,wish i had a fridge to hang that on

11 Name: ゼリーさん !smz6IUT2D2 : 2024-08-28 22:00 ID:cFgZVOG6

>>1
     '``・* 。
    |     `*。
   ,。∩      *
  + (´・ω・`) *。+゜  I don't care anymore〜
  `*。 ヽ、  つ *゜*
   `・+。*・' ゜⊃ +゜
   ☆   ∪~ 。*゜
   `・+。*・ ゜
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Iceland Ambassador Stuff Hailed (2)

1 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-07-28 18:32 ID:VL0wlhzh

In the quiet hum of an isolated outpost in Reykjavik, a small team of scientists and economists sat huddled over their screens, decoding data that shimmered with the brilliance of hidden secrets. The lead researcher, Dr. Elísabet Jónsdóttir, had a hypothesis that bordered on the fantastical. She believed that Iceland, by virtue of its unique geographic position and magnetic alignment with the Earth, held the power to influence global economic thought and patterns.

"The formula is simple," Elísabet began, her voice carrying the conviction of countless sleepless nights. "One purchase in Iceland stages and averages as any other purchase on Earth. Iceland stages for all purchasing power simply by the nature of its geographic position."

Her colleagues, while initially skeptical, had come to respect her vision. She had charted solar winds, tracked magnetic fields, and correlated these natural phenomena with economic shifts worldwide. It wasn't just the numbers that convinced them; it was the subtle synchronicities, the way market fluctuations in New York, Tokyo, and London seemed to echo the tiniest changes in Reykjavik's consumer behavior.

Elísabet's theory posited that Iceland's position near the Arctic Circle, coupled with its geothermal activity, created a unique interplay with the Earth's magnetic field. This, in turn, influenced the solar winds that swept across the planet, subtly guiding economic trends. It was a leap, but as they delved deeper, the patterns became undeniable.

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2 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-07-30 05:43 ID:Heaven

2get

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The reality is hitting... (7)

1 Name: chudilius : 2024-06-25 14:24 ID:FxahLRg9

The reality is I am not a warrior/hunter, I'm more of a gatherer, I gather info, books and ideas. whilst the warrior the chad lives by instinct and natural order he wins in life while I keep on hoping that the more I know the probable I'd get that qt3.141 the chad gets effortlessly.
he was a result of a good line of births, while am a crooked teeths weak jaw chinlet porn addict geek result of weak line of births. He was driven by nature, and nature rewarded him. I am not even driven I have deep self-hate for my weakness and that is the only reason I still hope, for it hate is a form of self-love in depth, I have relied on my brains to win the natural order preference.
I see clearly now, this is the reality and I have to face it; there's no better order than the natural order supported by mind.
The grass is not enough, and I need to be lost in woods.
I accept myself, and I will help it to trust its instinct, for me I am what stopping nature from exercising its will, and through me it should will, for me I realize this.
Thus A warrior could be born.
hope for me the best.

2 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-07-04 20:45 ID:eecVpYAG

>chad

Stopped reading there. Please kill yourself.

3 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-07-05 00:11 ID:3ddzuQzz

>>2
This. Learn to articulate your ideas without twittertard buzzwords, OP.

4 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-07-23 12:06 ID:AUN9ufgX

>>2

>the chud can't stand remembering the existence of superior kinds.

5 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-07-26 11:33 ID:5+wPAa2J

It's a word used to express an idea that has become very relevant in the past decade, though it has always been a fact. I don't see the issue.

6 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-07-27 08:17 ID:Heaven

You are retarded OP. You’ve let aforementioned Twitter buzzwords and shit memes distort your view of reality. Please check in to your local psyche ward or bash your head in with a mallet.

7 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2024-08-08 11:08 ID:Heaven

>>6

>twitterbuzzwords

you do realize these memes were born and made on chans and only recently got adopted into twitter and others?

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